I hate to say it...

@ifa225 (11099)
Indonesia
March 31, 2013 6:35am CST
but money do can really drive my kids when I limited them in watching TV and They will not allow to watch it again if they break the limit time, they just ignore it but when I say, I will give them additional pocket money if they turn off the TV in certain time, they do it right away huh...
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@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
I don't think that it is the right way for a parent to bribe her children just so they would follow what they have been told. They should learn to obey us whenever needed. You might be giving them a wrong signal by handing them over cash for every deed that they do.
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
4 Apr 13
I know that money can really drive all of us in a quick way maybe I should give them another opinion and another reward if they obey me after I win their heart with this money
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
4 Apr 13
What I'd often tell me kids when they were younger is that when they becomes good boys, they not only make both me and their dad happy, but as well as God. And also, Santa might be checking on them once in a while. And he might just give them great gifts come Christmas time.
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
6 Apr 13
well that is agood thoughts maybe I can change some of the words but not the meant idea
@humairaku (2039)
• Indonesia
1 Apr 13
sometimes parents spoil their children that way. some of them realize that it is not too good for their children progression but some of parents dont care with this matter. all they wanna do is getting what they want; in your case is children obey you to turn off the TV. spoiling children has no advantages i think. loving them is ok but not spoiling them. fulfilling everyting they want is bad for their personality progress. they will be stuborn person in the future. the only word they know is 'yes'. they wont tolerate with 'no'. it will be very bothering not only for parents but also their friends or partners. for me, discussing and making agreement are better ways to make children obey us. of course those are not for every child. they must be three yo or more. parents talk to children, not yelling or saying 'no!', 'dont!' etc without any discussions. im sure children will have good habit and obey us and understand what they can do or cant..
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
2 Apr 13
Hi Huma, we are agree to watching TV in certain limited times, but my fault to let them watch even the time had passed we have making an agreement about this but you know, kids are always smarter than parents these days
@humairaku (2039)
• Indonesia
16 Apr 13
yup, you're right. then our challenge is how to be more discipline in applying the rule. i know it's hard cos i face this problem too. but if we are not discipline then the children will break it easily. like i face today. i forbid my daughter to take her friends to the second floor of our house. she was so angry at the first time i forbade her. but after i gave her understanding (i tried hard to find as simple as sentences i can to be understood by five years old girl..lol), thank God she finally could understand about the rule. and till today, she refuses every time her friends ask her to go up stair though i am not at home. yeah, sometimes she picks one of her favorite friend to go up stair and i let her. and this is my weakness cos i break my own rule by doing this.
@TLilly12 (1230)
• United States
2 Apr 13
My son use to get an allowance every month, but now that he is older, he has to go out here and get his own money, I can no longer take care of him now, I have done a long for my son, when He was coming up, I made sure he had everything.
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
2 Apr 13
Hi, I wish I can do that too to my son but my culture is not the same like yours, we have to take care of them untill they grow up as an adults even when they had married
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 13
Hahaha that's why the say money can make the world turn around. Isn't we all love money , at least that's why we keep on working a boring job because its paying our bill. I don't know if good or not because my parent never give pocket money to me and my sibling, if we want money to spend we had to do a house work, its either mopping the floor or wash the dishes. There is no free money in our house, its teach us how to survive and never hope for easy money, you had yo work to earn it.
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
1 Apr 13
Hi Nangisha, I feel so happy if they do what I ask especially if they do it happily That is why I give the a reward-additional pocket money
@thesids (22363)
• Bhubaneswar, India
31 Mar 13
Hi ifa Though you are right and this thing works good (giving extra money if you need them to do something), in the long run this is a little unhealthy and has a negative effect on the kids. I think your kids are too young and as such it might be okay, but please reconsider this...
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 13
Hi Sid I am thinking to find another alternatives I know this way can make them see everything in a money point of view hope I will find a better way have a
• Canada
31 Mar 13
It can be a means, but no an end.