My uncle has the habit of pointing out small mistakes

@roshigo58 (4870)
Pune, India
March 31, 2013 7:24am CST
Hi, One of my uncles has the habit to point out at very small mistakes of others. Small mistakes can be neglected. There is not need to find small faults in everything. He can't tolerate any mistake. He is not perfect and he expects from others perfection. No one likes to talk to him. Because he finds silly mistakes in our talking also. So everyone avoids him. Do you have any relative like him?
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• Storlien, Sweden
1 Apr 13
Not me, but why don´t give the same coin back? tell him every mistake he makes!
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
hi, Welcome to mylot. Thank you for the response.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
1 Apr 13
yeah, you are right, someone should tell him any mistake he makes, then he should understand the others' feeling whenever he often point out their small mistakes...
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. Someone should tell him that he also make mistakes but I can't tell him.
@celticeagle (122300)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Mar 13
Good. I am glad that people are avoiding this person. He should not be shown respect if he treats people this way. I would stay away.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, I always avoid this uncle because I don't like his habit. Thank you for the response.
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@celticeagle (122300)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Apr 13
Good. Maybe someday he will get it. Doubtful but maybe.
• Indonesia
31 Mar 13
I think it would be hard to interact with a person like your uncle, since everybody doing mistakes, because we are human. And if we make a mistake in front a person like that, he would not tolerate that. So i think when meet a person like that, we need to be really carefull about what we are doing or talking, and its better to not interact with him so often (bad suggestion though, hehe)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 13
Oops so sorry for the multiple post. Its my network and phone problems.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, you are right. When we come into contact with such person we have to be cautious about not doing any mistake otherwise we have to listen some words fron such person. So I always avoid my uncle. Thank you for the response.
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
31 Mar 13
I know how it is; some people think so much of themselves that they have to keep on correcting even one small mistake.Basically, it speaks of intolerance and a bit of arrogance.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
31 Mar 13
Hi, When our small mistakes are corrected again and again and again then it would be insulting for us. Thank you for the response.
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
31 Mar 13
It is not that these people don't make mistakes; we should not talk with them at all; who would like to interact with such people!
@Frederick42 (2019)
• Canada
28 Apr 13
Some people are like that. They cannot tolerate the smallest of mistakes. They forget that they also make mistakes and if at all you point out their mistakes, then they will get angry with you and they will say that it is a mistake on your part to point out their mistakes. They have the right to point out other people’s mistakes, but others do not have the right to point out their mistakes.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
28 Apr 13
hi, You are right. Some people think that they are perfect and so they have the right of pointing out others mistakes but they are not ready to accept their mistakes. Thank you for the response.
@KOSTAS499 (1625)
• Greece
6 Apr 13
My mother does that, I think it is a childhood problem. I think they somehow feel inferior and do it to feel better....
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
7 Apr 13
Hi, Some mothers always behave rudely with their children and try to discipline their children by pointing out small faults and making big issues. thank you for the response.
• Canada
1 Apr 13
It sounds to me like your Uncle may be a type of perfectionist person (which I have heard) is no fun. I have also heard when people find fault in other's it is usually a sign of insecurity which I feel sorry for people like that. I have come across people like that and I (depending on the person) will make a joke like if I say something wrong and they correct me or to only be perfect like you and just giggle not to show signs of disrespect.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
2 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. We should not behave badly with anyone. When someone behaves badly with us we should behave with him nicely not because he is nice but because we are nice. I can't insult anyone. So I avoid my uncle. Thank you for the response.
@berting600 (3458)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
I have no relative like your uncle,yet I have a friend who is like your uncle in so many ways,that I do not wanted to accompany him when he likes me to come with him, because he sees many faults when I do something,that I do not wanted other people to meddle when I know I am right what I have to do for the good of everyone in the group of friends.He insisted that he was correct with his suggestions,that I was not exactly knowing what are the consequences of my decisions,then I just drop my formula and adopt what he likes everyone to adopt,then it turn out that his ideas were all a flop,so I have decided to adopt my formula,so I just told him he is always not accepting other good ideas,so when he tries to not accept my ideas, I will insist mine is the true perfect ides and never his ideas,as it is another flop,he was angry at me because I insulted him for giving a direct comment about his ideas.I am just practical and that we have always have other good vibes as what we have agreed to do without his decisions,even if he was our senior partner.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, It is very nice that you have taught him a lesson by being successful in your idea and proved that he is not always right. when we show others mistakes they get angry and feel insulted. They are always insulting others but they don't care about others feelings. Thank you for the response.
• China
1 Apr 13
I can deeply feel your worries though i have no such kind of relatives. However your staying away and leaving him alone seems overdo. It feels like you guys have end up your relationship throughly. It is not easy to accept his arrogance or ignorance to your advice, but you will feel regretful when you really lose some one you care so much!! Some one exists, i believe in this world, that is crazy for perfection, to an unacceptable degree even on those tiny things.In their world human beings will never make mistakes and i believe they are also self-disciplined. If that is the case, you are advised to make hin realize that perfection never exists. If not, you uncle really need to be educated, and you can teach him a lesson. But never stay away from ones you care. Both sides are unable to take this seaver punishment!!
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, I can not tell him that you are doing mistakes. I think it may be insulting to him. Whenever I meet him I talk to him respectfully. But he never talks softly. He is very arrogant. So I always avoid him as far as possible. He is not protecting or caring nature but he is thinking that he is the best and others are not.
• Indonesia
1 Apr 13
yes, I also have an uncle like that ..
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, welcome to mylot. thank you for the response.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
1 Apr 13
Of course i don't like his style and for sure i can't live with him just for one day while he is not perfect but he often point out the others small mistake, it is very irritating. Someone should does the same and let he know how is the feeling when someone often point out his small mistake.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, you are right. Someone should do the same with him then he can realize the feeling of insult. But such people can not improve themselves by any reason. thank you for the response.
@laydee (12812)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
Yes, I have an aunt with similar attitude. I think they just don't have anyone to really understand them. Perhaps they think they're superior to everyone, sometimes my cousins would tell her upfront whenever she commits mistakes too. Soon, she would just keep quiet. I guess there really are people like these. For whatever reason, perhaps it's the way they are ~ until someone tells them otherwise. Have a great mylot experience ahead!
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, When your cousins tell your aunt about her mistake she keeps quiet. But she wouldn't try to improve herself. They can't leave their habit by any way. No one can improve them. thank you for the response.
@cudamani (997)
• India
1 Apr 13
Everyone will have one such relative for sure. It is not advisable to avoid them totally. They can feel lonely if you avoid them. Instead you will have to move with them in a special way.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. When everyone avoid him then he would feel lonely. But I think it is very difficult for me treat him in special way. Thank you for the response.
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
I have met a couple of people like that, as well as people who would not see the good that you do but will easily notice your faults. It's sort of annoying, but well...there really are people like that. I remember we had a lesson in general psychology class about that. I think it's related to midlife crisis or something...I forgot. But what I remember is that when the person does not feel good about himself, he turns to other people and points out their mistakes instead.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, These people are not open minded. They can not praise anyone for their good but can show only bad things. As you said they feel insecure and so they try to make others down. It is not fair. Thank you for the response.
@jaiho2009 (38996)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
Actually most people who acts perfect are the ones who are hiding their mistakes. As if they are covering their weakness by pointing other people's mistake (defense mechanism) Who wants to talk with someone like them anyway- bet no one can stand with them.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, you are right. Such people blame others fro their faults and try to hide their mistakes. But as you said no one can stand with them. thank you for the response.
@jenny1015 (13388)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
I know someone who would be speaking as if he is the most perfect person in the world and every one else is stupid do things that he doesn't do. At his age of 41, he is still not married. Although he claims to have a lot of girlfriend, I do feel that those are "one night standers only". I don't think he has lots of friends, too. And he is never ashamed of putting shame on people even if there are others looking at him.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, This man is also like my uncle who think that he is the best and no one has brain except him, all other are stupid. But such people are always hated by others. They are not liked by anyone. Thank you for the response.
@bluesea3 (167)
• Indonesia
1 Apr 13
i have some experiences about some people like that. But, i think it was an ordinary thing on this life. The kind of them always "care" about "everything", but also usually "don't mind" about their self. One of the benefits of them is making reflection of our self. We can introspect our self to be better person. Of course, ignore the another "words" which is out of point to reflecting our self from them. Nice share..
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. this is an ordinary experience. I also have some old people in our life who are caring and loving. I don't have any objection for this. But this uncle is not like that. He considers himself perfectionist. It is said that there should be a critic as our neighbor so that we can improve ourselves and and can be a better person. But I don't want this uncle near to me. Thank you for the response.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
31 Mar 13
Well, this is a very general human condition. Often, people tend to see the smallest mistake always in other people, but at the same time, they do not realize that they commit such errors. One said, Religious says: "See the hair in the eye of the other, but do not see the beam in your own." Always valid for all! We are men, no one is perfect!
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, You have stated the perfect saying for the behavior of such people. They point out small mistakes of others but they can't realize their mistakes may be very big mistake. If we show them their mistakes they become angry. No one is perfect. Everyone make mistakes and learn from his mistakes. Thank you for the response.
• India
31 Mar 13
Now that is a situation that i feel familiar with there is this uncle of mine who is always sort of trying to find mistakes in whatever we do.I guess it has become his habit to always find faults in others ,compare them with himself and end up boasting about his superiority. I see several people who have such a bad habit self praising that they don't even hesitate in proving the other person wrong just to make everyone believe that they are the best in any and all the fields that they are involved in.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
hi, you are right. Such people think that they are the best. They know everything. And they try to put others down so that their position would be better. For that they goes on hurting others feeling and thus lose respect form others. Everyone is trying to avoid such people. Thank you for the response.
@grvdubey11 (1881)
• India
31 Mar 13
Well we are human beings right,we are designed to make errors and learn from it.But there are people who will make issues out of nothing,making mistake sis important because if you don't you wont learn. Didn't he get anyone to tell him that since you are not perfect you have no right to point fingers at others.May be one day he will get someone who will make him realize the hard way,best wishes.
@roshigo58 (4870)
• Pune, India
1 Apr 13
Hi, you are right. Everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect. We can learn from our mistakes. When someone shows our mistakes we should accept it and try to correct it. But when it is negligible mistake then there is no need to make issue from that. So I don't like that uncle. He is very irritating and I don't like to talk to him. I can't answer him back because he is old.