Fall in love with a foreign guy?

@jricky1 (6805)
China
March 31, 2013 8:18am CST
It would be really weird but the feeling is indeed exciting.So how do you think of it and have you had it before?I'd love to hear you guys opinions and give me some ideas,do you think it's a problem and you have to face cultural thing.I appreciate all yours.
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19 responses
• Portugal
6 Dec 15
i liked a guy from a foreign country already actually it was good. i think even if things dont work out we shouldnt ignore because we felt it. it was complicated though because it was too far and none of us could afford the trip so we got separated after some time. he met a girl in his country and didnt even have the courage to tell me. i found that out after seeing that in his facebook account. he promised to wait me but he didnt.
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• Chennai, India
7 Dec 15
yes you are right, it takes time , patience , trust and frequent communication. Above all, we need money to meet in real, but there are peope who are successful in it, So i thought its best to save money first and then find my love, that way i can satisfy my dream and wishes come true :) Money first honey next :)
• India
2 Apr 13
it is all depends to understanding and maturity of both.... but as I have married to a guy who is not from my country, I have faced a lot in my life... anyway, sometimes I think if he could have real love for me in his heart I could not bother that much about being in distance with my family and missing all my life's happiness and chanses..... for me it really was hard, because my partner and his family they were not what they show in the starting and changed themselves and teasing on culture and religion diffrences a lot... calling me on my national and behaving bad with me or calling me on my religion and disrespect my religion and so many other things.... I do not say if all are like this but for my experience was like that.. they used to hurt me more as I am here far from my family and as they found me alone lady so try to disturb me a lot.. and for my experience and difference that I see about men in my country and men in this country, I would wish if I was not marrying to him but wish if I was marrying to a man in my country.... it is all depends on understanding and maturity of you and your partner, and both families.. before I used to not care about his family and what they think of not but after,,,, I could recognize that they effect on our relationship a lot and they ruined our love with their behave and thoughts... so family of partner is really importatnt.... in this kind of case...
• India
2 Apr 13
to fall in love is alright.... but if comes to marry you should care of so many things and think deeply .....
@maximax8 (29138)
• United Kingdom
1 Apr 13
I had been working as a charity collector in Cairns. There I had stayed at a backpackers hostel. I had planned to go back to Sydney and booked my train Cairns to Brisbane. I washed my clothes in a washing machine at the backpackers hostel. I was horrified to find out someone had stolen all my washing! I only had the my night clothes in my backpacker hostel bed , some knickers and the clothes I was wearing. The next day was my train journey to Brisbane. I was so upset to go without my clothes that had been taken. On the train journey I went to the club loco carriage. There I met an Australian man and he got talking to me. We found we had so much in common and I really liked him. We ended up falling head over heals in love. I stayed with him and had a wonderful time. I did manage to go back to Sydney for a short time. Soon I was back in Sydney with him. We went up the Queensland coast on Christmas Day and had New Year's Eve in Cairns. My visa was running out and I still wanted to see the Northern Territory so I flew to Darwin on the next leg of my around the world journey. Months later I was back home and he flew to England to be with me. We got married one month before Christmas and had a honeymoon in Venice. Our marriage lasted just six years and ended in divorce. Still there was little cultural difference and we spoke the same language.
@jricky1 (6805)
• China
1 Apr 13
It's really touching to see what you've been through but i feel so sorry to hear the sad news that being stolen.My friend said that he also being stolen in a hostel so this is such an important thing to pay attention to.I still need to consider well cuz you guys even speak the same language.Well sometimes it has no boundries but it's conditional.Thank you for the story.
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
I don't have a problem of falling for a foreign guy. A number of my cousins are happily married to man with different nationalities. I guess the main problem will be language barrier. I am a Filipina and even though Filipinos are good English speakers, it would still be challenge expressing what we desire to our partners. Another is cultural differences. It might be some at first but to overlook the differences will require a big heart indeed. I guess, it doesn't matter whether your partner is from the opposite side of the world. What matters is you are willing to let go of your differences and face the challenges together because you love each other so much that there's no other choice but for you to be together. I think that's what makes every love story really great!
@jricky1 (6805)
• China
1 Apr 13
I also have a friend who gonna marry a foreign guy and she enjoyed a lot her relationship.I believe meeting the right one is important than anything and good luck to all of people here.It's a magic thing to do.
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
There is absolutely nothing wrong if you fall in love with a foreign guy. Love knows no boundaries so even if there is a language and culture barrier, as long as you love each other, your hearts will find ways for you to have an understanding. I know a lot of people who are married to foreign guys and they seemed happier. Do not hinder yourself if you think you are falling in love with someone from another country. Do not be afraid, just follow your heart.
@jricky1 (6805)
• China
1 Apr 13
Follow your heart and you'll never regret but sometimes it sucks that i don't have the courage to do the steps nearer the relationship.So i'm touched by you guys and sometimes it is really hard to do that.I'm sad sometimes don't take a move to go for love.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
1 Apr 13
Don't worry about falling love with a foreigner guy as long as you guys can have a communication well, for instance, both you guys can speak English or he can speak your mother tongue, etc... Love has its way and it doesn't matter you guys coming from any where as long as both are understanding and together care the love.
@jricky1 (6805)
• China
1 Apr 13
Actually sometimes i found that having common and same interests and communicate well indeed works.Like friend says that love has no boundries as it is real love.Understanding and keeping a faith is so important.
@lil_toni (206)
1 Apr 13
That would mean distance relationship also like other people. There's a lot to be considered, though I don't have any experience to share it with you. But this one is only base on my observations. Aside from facing and eventually embracing the culture that he has, friends and families are also important. Sometimes, the problem also is, people around you most specially close to you, are oppose to your relationship. So to make your relationship last, both of must help each other, understand, patience, and have faith.
@jricky1 (6805)
• China
1 Apr 13
You are nice person and right person can never try to let you down.So i heard sometimes people who are close to you are opposed to this relationship.So just treat yourself good and know what you want.Have a good life and have a lovely day.
• China
1 Apr 13
Well,I would like to say,first of all it will be very fresh and exciting,but usually they will not have a good ending,you can see so many examples from News.Such as in Shanghai,you can see many hot Chinese girls flirt with foreign guys in night club or other Bars,but there are so many of them be cheated by foreigh guys,so what I want to say is,cherish yourself,girls.
@jricky1 (6805)
• China
1 Apr 13
Have some quality time together makes people feel good and no matter what kind of relationship i feel totally respect for it.I'll never try to flirt some guys and ended up with a broken heart and it's silly to not respect some real relationship.Well hope to meet the right one.Thanks for the advice.
@Raine38 (9187)
• United States
31 Mar 13
I am married to a foreigner and it's just like being in a relationship with any other man. Typical man, but of course we are already committed so... At first there are lots of major adjustments because we both have different cultures and upbringing. But nothing that a little patience and sacrifice cannot resolve. While there are some who are lucky, there are also those whose love story is tragic. And I don't think it has something to do with the guy being a foreigner or not, but the guy himself.
@jricky1 (6805)
• China
1 Apr 13
I chatted with many people and it's indeed about this indiidual and whether he treats you as his real lover.And i believe i'll find the right guy,lol.I'll also come here to report to you guys good news if having any development.
@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
31 Mar 13
there is nothing weird about this, love has no boundaries. however, be prepared to tackle problems arising from the differences in your cultural and religious backgrounds. you need to speak a common language, and if one of you is not very fluent on this, it becomes a problem too. it is sometimes hard to look for the word that conveys best the message that you want to get accross, especially if you're not using your mother tongue language. just keep an open mind about your differences and don't impose your beliefs on him. love conquers all, keep this in mind. if you really love each other, everything is going to be fine in the end.
@jricky1 (6805)
• China
1 Apr 13
Love is about two people's emotion and i believe you are right that love has no boundries.The thing is whether these people are really in love.We should first love ourself in a relationship so it can work both ways.Understanding is also a necessarity.Thank you for the advice and have great day.
@cupkitties (7579)
• United States
31 Mar 13
I've dated, but never fallen in love with a foreigner. Those relationships didn't work out because of those mens personalities and their behavior towards me rather than any cultural issue. There is also an ignorance factor too like people who judge you by what they see in the media or read about in books. Its better to get to know the individual and not lump them in with everyone else.
@jricky1 (6805)
• China
1 Apr 13
What you are saying makes sense and it's right to not judge from the outside media and individuals are different and should be treated different ways.Still looking forward to really find the right partner and living happily.Thanks for your responding.
@SIMPLYD (88354)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
Actually ,there are a lot of Filipinos who fell in love with fpreigner. Some have adjusted well in a matter of months. Though, my teacher who married a German and stayed with him in Germany has to go back after how many months, because she was culture shocked. She had a nervous breakdown. I think it really depend on the person.
@jricky1 (6805)
• China
31 Mar 13
Culture shock is understandable and no matter who we met,to be confident and brave is the thing we should possess.We can only know whether we are meant to be through time and don't be faint just by rush and first impression.lol,thanks a lot for the advice,simplyd.
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
sorry, i'm not a guy but i would like to respond in this discussion. i think it's really exciting but challenging as well because the fact that both of you have different cultures might lead you to misunderstandings sometimes. however, your differences will make your relationship stronger you just have to believe and make it work. remember that love has no boundaries, only people make its limitations therefore, only us, people, can break all the obstacles whenever we want to.
@jricky1 (6805)
• China
31 Mar 13
There are lots to concern about and the cultures are different and also communication and mind can also be a problem.But that's how love exists even it's hard sometime.There are many couples like that near me and i suppose we can also manage that.Thanks still for your advice.lol
• Canada
31 Mar 13
I think culture shock would be the biggest gap between the international lovers. But in the name of love, just go ahead with your brave heart!
@jricky1 (6805)
• China
31 Mar 13
Thank you for telling me that and it's nice to hear those encouraging advices.This can break everything if you are really in love.Love is a magical word and nothing can just compare to that.Have a great day.
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
i believe that theres no impossible when in love. falling in love is the best feeling in the whole world. dont supress your feelings. i know it may not be easier because of the distance but as long as you love each other nothing is impossible.
• United States
1 Apr 13
Nothing wrong with falling in love with someone from another country. Just like any relationship they can either work or not work out. It is a matter of communication. Also being very patient helps alot. Be prepared to make sacrifices. Above all just love your spouse. Never cheat on each other. That kind of betrayal hurts. I have been married to a foreign lady (she was from the Philippines.) Our relationship didnt work out but that dont mean I will brand all ladies from overseas as bad just because my relationship went bad. As with any relationship it takes work.
• China
1 Apr 13
From you words, i guess you had started a relationship with foreign guy. It sounds so cool. What make me most curious is that how you started to fall in love and how you met with each other? Back to the point. I also have a passion with a foreign girl, a phillipine one. But of course we have no chance to begin a romantic relationship, for she has become someone else's. After i told you that we got to know each other on internet, just this one, MYLOT, i guess you must feel amazing. How i have a passion to her may be a picture on her mylot homepage. It's really attractive. And i guess again that you may feel it wield that i just have a crash on a picture. Now i still cannot describe what was on my mind at that moment. After exchanging messages on mylot, we transferred to Skype. Though i have already know that she got married not so long ago, but i left regrets to express my crash on her myself.. Several months past but sometimes i tried to go over our chatting records which will bring me some kind of little happiness.
@Jotomy (6347)
• India
1 Apr 13
Hi jricky, whether love can be international or national or anything, love doesn't know all these, it happens but the thing is should have trust, understanding, respect on each other.
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
I haven't been in love with a foreigner. I think if you love someone, no differences that can't be fixed.