Should be a law to forbid divorce?

China
April 1, 2013 7:01am CST
Divorce is a great harm to the children. My parent divorced in the last year,and my dad recognised another woman who take a 12-year-old son,the woman only care about her son,ignore my brother and we sisters. She deprived much my father's love form us,i was so sad,i am a student ,i really cant bear this pain ,just shed tears quietly.And there is a long time my father didnot call me as a compliment.how wonderful to imagine if there is a law forbid divorce.
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11 responses
1 Apr 13
Forget laws for divorce. There should be requirements and laws for everyone thinking about getting married. If people weren't so quick to get married there might not be as many broken homes. The same should be true about having children. I know that will never happen but heres hoping.
• China
2 Apr 13
I am so completely agree with you.If everyone can take marrige seriously,there might not be as many broken homes.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
2 Apr 13
I am so sorry that you had bad memories of your childhood. I know that you must have felt lost during those times. But here is one thing I want you always remember, whatever wrong things you may have witnessed and felt, try to make your own family life better. It will surely be the happiest days of your life.
• China
2 Apr 13
So it does.There being a big bad memory in my heart.Sometimes i cant control my mind,only know that my heart is so painful.Maybe i should make myself busy and busy,then i will have no time to think about this matter.
@shion13 (85)
• Indonesia
1 Apr 13
i'm sorry but i don't think so. even parents, as husband and wife have their own life and when it's really not good to be with each other anymore, they have the rights to divorce.. i think it's better than having heard of parents' fight everyday right? i'm sure it's painful for their children and unbearable, even sometimes damaged their personalities but, i think the stress will be overload if a couple really can't stand each other anymore, in front of children. just to notice - i didn't say this out of nothing. it's not too late, you can say honestly what you're thinking or that you want him loving you like before.
• China
2 Apr 13
Yes,it is so painful for us children.Before this,i just heard about such things,but i could not imagine how serious it is until it happened to me.Thanks for you advice and i can try it.
1 Apr 13
Never divorced but I think he was just living. For the 1st time in years he put his wants and needs first. Yeah it sounds selfish but as a spouse and parent you can really lose yourself in the day to day. It sucks that he hooked up with such a witch. He will most likely regret his actions and will one day want your forgiveness. Everybody makes mistakes. Plus there is no handbook for parenting, it is just hard. I am sure he loves you. Just give him time to explore and get some more life experiences under his belt. He probably knows that you are angry with him and his new witch. Maybe he is trying to give you space and thinks that you will come around after the anger susides.
• China
2 Apr 13
yes,you are right,my dad has known that i am very angry with his and that woman.He loved me very much before this matter.I just hope he can love me as before.
@scubapro (1056)
• Gifu, Japan
1 Apr 13
please dont be angry with me and dont misunderstand but your father looks selfish,he just focused on his lover and didnt care you and the others the situation you were in is really difficult and complicated problem. i am not really enough to give you good advices but i just can say you,please try to relax and try to be strong, believe me even we have family and friends,we are all alone in this world ,so try to stand .. peace..
• China
2 Apr 13
I should thank for your care anyway.I would try to be strong and subside my complicated heart.
@cupkitties (7598)
• United States
1 Apr 13
Completely forbidding divorce is dangerous because it does not consider the man or woman in physically violent marriages My thought however, is there needs to be a punishment for unfaithfulness. It should be looked at in the same light as attempted murder.
• China
2 Apr 13
Yes,there should be a punishment for those people who unfaithfulness.I just hpoe every can take everything seriously,which can reduce the harm to others at a degree.
@cttolledo (5049)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
In the Philippines, divorce is not allowed.. Philippine laws adheres the sanctity of marriage.. we forbid divorce but we have annulment here.. annulment in the sense that nullity of marriage for legal and compelling reasons.. married couple cannot avail of annulment that easy.. it's a long process.. a long process of investigation...it's because separation here is not tolerable act.. I'm sad that you are a victim and who suffers a lot with separation of your parents ..I'm hoping that you can cope up with your situation right now...Just pray.
• China
2 Apr 13
Thanks for your good prayer,i would try my best to cope up with my trouble situation,let all my family memebers can get happy.
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
1 Apr 13
Hello Suzanne, My heart goes out to you. I hope your pain will lessen as time goes by. I agree with you that divorce is most hurtful to children and the divorcing parents should take this into consideration. However, there should not be a law forbidding divorce. Sometimes people stop loving each other and do not want to stay together. If you forced them to do so you would have to live in a poisoned atmosphere doing much harm. Divorcing parents should take great care to make sure no harm comes to their children. Speak to your father and tell him what is bothering you. Maybe he has not realized that the new wife is discriminating agaist his children. In the meantime stay well and healthy, stay close to your siblings and your mom.
• China
2 Apr 13
Time is the best treatment to the wound. So i hope my pain would lessen as time goes by,too.Maybe it is time to tell my dad whate is bothering me and what i want to them do.And thanks for your good wishes.
@franne32 (695)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
It's heartbreaking to know that you are experiencing this. It is traumatic for the kids of divorced parents to undergo such drastic changes when a parent decides to marry someone new. However, things like divorce are sometimes inevitable when both partners do not love each other anymore. The only thing that should never be taken away is the love of the parents to their kids. I just hope that you will be able to get through this. No child should ever feel like this. It is unfair I know. Just a few words of advice, keep the love alive between you and your siblings. Your strength together will become stronger. I also hope that you will be happy in the future.
• China
2 Apr 13
I was so hard to imagine that such drastic change happened to me.Why do they want to let us bear the pain of marrige?I am really thanks for your good wishes.And i can be happy in the future.
@jennysp8 (855)
• United States
1 Apr 13
I am so sorry to hear about the actions of your father. Hopefully he will someday realize the wrongs of his actions. However, while it would be nice to imagine a world where it was illegal to divorce, causing everyone to live married happily-ever-after, this could never be. What about the women and children who suffer emotional, mental and physical abuse at the hands of father? If divorce was illegal, they would be stuck forever.
• China
1 Apr 13
I agree with he will someday realize the wrongs of his action.Maybe divorce is a right choice to my parent.
@honor00 (186)
1 Apr 13
The shortcomings of your father and the woman he's now with are not due to divorce, just their shortcomings. I don't think divorce should unlawful, however divorce needs a legal agreement, just as marriage does. There is really nothing worse for children to be living with parents who are so focussed on their, failing, relationship either they are quarelling with each other or speaking only through a third party - often the kids. That leads to neglect too.