why people are so mean and not respectfull to the others about being referral?

@scubapro (1056)
Gifu, Japan
April 3, 2013 8:55am CST
i see many people who are so kind,so thoughtfull and try to help others like bloggers ,site owners and internet gurus. they prepare lovely internet sites,blogs and shows the other people how to earn extra online and they just want us to be their referral,but why people dont accept,they read the informations and then they go to that site and be member theirselves, isnt that so mean? i mean even they will be siteowner's or bloggers 's referral ,they will earn same. why we dont support them,they search and find out great sites,they give their time and some people just behave. i cant understand it why can it be? we dont trust people? some of us are really mean? or we forgot sharing? where we are going? dont you think we have to say thank you by being referral to them? cant we trust anymore internet sites because of many scams online? give me your opinions please..
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9 responses
@mammots (3271)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
its very difficult to put our trust on "friends " found on the internet scubapro. most often they want us to be their friends just to be their referrals to whatever site they want us to sign in its very selfish and its very unfair. the best thing to do to avoid being " EXPLOITED" on the net is to learn to say no to friends who very obviously just wants us to be a source of income for them.
@scubapro (1056)
• Gifu, Japan
3 Apr 13
yeah some people really want to use us,i can accept and agree,but some people who are doing this job for many years,i think we can trust them,we should trust people who are pros. but especially in these days many people wants income by using us.. you are also right
@mjhalz8 (255)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
There are a lot of people who are selfish. They don't care at all. All they are thinking is just for their own good and don't want to share and even showiing appreciation by just saying thank you. Not in there list.
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@scubapro (1056)
• Gifu, Japan
3 Apr 13
yeah also that is another problem,people who knows great ways to earn online sometimes never share their experiences,i cant understand it also thanks for the response . peace
@CatGods (4595)
• United States
3 Apr 13
Or maybe those who know how to make money online are tired of trying to help people because they keep getting slapped in the face. Writing, taking the time to write long how to instructions, giving ideas and sites to apply ideas to etc. only to have the person either 1) not follow the how to instruction because they are not reading and paying attention. Or they don't want to take the time to read a 3 page how to instruction because that's like way too much reading or they don't want to take the time to do so some suggested research. 2) after you take the time to impart some things that you know, how to do it, sites, etc, they reply back "but are these trusted sites" After a while it gets to the point where you say screw it, I'm tired of banging my head against the wall and then you keep your mouth shut. Now you might say that there are a few bad apples in every bunch, but the exact opposite is true here, there are only a very rare few in a bunch who will listen, pay attention, do the amount of research needed to gain the knowledge needed and apply what they know to the sites suggested. Making money online is not a one size fits all. Making money online is customized to the individual. This is why I use to ask what are your skills, hobbies, interests, and talents? Because I need something to go on, I mean even a temp. employment agency will ask you what kind of work do you want to do. I never understood why it was so difficult to get an answer. I would either get no response or something like well I like to watch movies and go shopping and oh I can type. Ummm, any one who access the internet can type. So I'm guessing this is why some people are keeping quiet and another reason is because depending on what you are doing to make money, by not telling others it eliminates the competition, i.e. the market doesn't get saturated. That's called survival.
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
4 Apr 13
I think that some people don't understand what a referral is and they think that they and their upline will have to share the money that they earn so that they get less money when they join under someone. I have heard that a couple of times when I was looking for referrals and people have told me things like: "No, I don't want to be your referral, because I don't want to share the money that I earn" and I try to explain that they don't earn less if they become someone's referral. Other people understand the system, but they choose not to join as someone's referral. I don't know why they do that, maybe they are just selfish. Maybe they want to benefit from the information that they get from bloggers etc without giving something back in return.
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@scubapro (1056)
• Gifu, Japan
5 Apr 13
the thing that i cant understand is ,even they are referral,their money never change for example in mylot; 1.person earns 10 dollars ,so if he-she is a referral of 2.person so 2.persons earns 2.5 dollars more but1.person still earns same, so why selfish,i cant understand,why 1.one doesnt support 2.one, thats what i really cant understand,, peace
@Adval2013 (438)
4 Apr 13
I don't have referrals yet, I mean I haven't sent the link to my friends yet for them to become my referral. Maybe because I am basically a neophyte when it comes to earning online, although I have always wanted, for the longest time, to earn good online through real writing jobs. At this point in my "mylot" career, I'd say I still need a lot of precious learning time so I could earn also.
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@scubapro (1056)
• Gifu, Japan
4 Apr 13
yeah you are right,i have a referral,believe me teaching here to her also takes time, so after you learned everything clearly and then finding a referral can be best way peace
@CatGods (4595)
• United States
3 Apr 13
When it comes to referrals, I have taken notice, that people who are wanting referrals do not want to be a referral. They want to make money from other peoples efforts, kind of like being a corporation and an employee. The corporation doesn't want to BE an employee, but wants as many employees as it can handle. You will find a lot of people here on mylot who will ask to be your friend, but only to want you to join their programs. Some people are just like that and not much you can do about it. These people are takers and not givers.
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@scubapro (1056)
• Gifu, Japan
3 Apr 13
yeah you are right ,and i liked your response upside,it was really informative actually i want referrals,so i generally be referral of other people,if they teach me good sites.its me, but you are right i think,mostly,people who wants referrals dont be referral peace
@cupkitties (7372)
• United States
3 Apr 13
Some people are very ignorant about referral links. A few of my friends have ignored it and did exactly as you mentioned. Their excuse was "Sorry, but It might have a virus" another hurled accusations of "greed" for trying to get people to sign as my down line in order to earn more. If there is a referral link, It'll definitely get used, but only after complete research of the site. Unfortunately there were a couple times that I forgot and registered without one.
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@scubapro (1056)
• Gifu, Japan
3 Apr 13
yeah of course we have to research the site,and we trust it,why dont we use his-her referral links, right i agree
• United States
3 Apr 13
And the problem is that you can't really believe a lot of the so-called online gurus who say their system works and show you a PayPal screenshot or a supposed check they've received, you can fake a lot of that stuff if you know how, and they make money from you buying their guides and what if it doesn't work out for you? You paid for something and it didn't work out, that's why I never pay for anything involving online work.
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
3 Apr 13
I also think that some people are selfish and think only abut themselves and that is the reason they are selfish.
• South Africa
3 Apr 13
People like that will never have money because networking is the most important thing in making money so being nasty will keep you poor. If you need help or refferals it are sick of nasty people just talk to me I'm here to network and make friends. I help u and u help me them we both make money. So if you actually want to make money please add me. I can assist you with anything.