I wish I was a MAN..!

India
April 4, 2013 2:19am CST
I really wish if i could be a man, it is my wish from childhood, to be a man is something so good, men are free, can give commands, i think life could be easier if i was a man... a man is not afraid of things that much, can take care of himself, they receive more respect, they eat ready food of what their wife or mother cook, they have so many rights more than rights of a lady... and as society makes difference in such things, i prefer if i could be a man... how about you? are you happy in your gender as a lady? for men, of course that you are happy.... why not?
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@Hugsy25 (274)
• Canada
4 Apr 13
I can do all that stuff and I am a woman. And in fact my husband does 99% of the cooking because that is what he loves to do. I am free and I do what I want when I want. It's another reason I love Canada too.
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• India
5 Apr 13
wow, now I can change my wish, if I could be you... you have my dream life and dream husband..
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• United States
5 Apr 13
@hugsy and extremefun I agree with you. That is awesome that your husband is like that. @extremefun my husband isn't like that either. It would be nice if they were more helpful in some way. My husband doesn't even know how to do the laundry.
@Hugsy25 (274)
• Canada
5 Apr 13
I think I lucked out. LOL My husband LOVES cooking he cooks for us and then he goes and cooks in a restaurant. I swear that man can make anything taste good. He's not perfect but we love each other and support each other.
• United Kingdom
4 Apr 13
Be a female, you can also make those come true!
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• United States
4 Apr 13
Those are my thoughts. I just have to work hard to be the changes I want to see. So that involves having a good job that will allow me to support myself and my daughter. It takes effort and commitment but we can accomplish what we would like.
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
4 Apr 13
My though was just opposite of you! I wish to be girl and at the time of school and college, I got a lot of friends as girls and on those days I wished to be a girl only because I though I could share their discussions on various topics. In school, it was not so friendly, but when I was in college, 90% of friends were girls and it is so strange that when I studied for degree course (3 years) I was the only boy among other 14 girls! Some how it was boring, but I enjoyed the life with those girls, just like a homely atmosphere and friendly life. However, I don't think in these days the think about the oposite gender is not so important. Many girls/women enjoy the full freedom just like the man or boys and in certain cases, girls enjoys morethan what man or boys do. I am working in such an office were all the girls used to enjoy the life just like boys or man and I think they are much happy in whatever form they are...
• India
4 Apr 13
yes, some ladies enjoy their own life a lot and that is why i wish if i could be a single mother... well... but to be a man is better i think... at least for this time... for me...
• India
4 Apr 13
Now, you are used with yoru life and culture here. There are 2 major options, one - just pssify or suffer with him, or just ignore him and try to live a joyful life with with less botheration about him. He tries his best to find a better life for him and if he does in such a way, why can't you also opt for such a way of life for yourself being with your surroundings and circusmtances?
• India
4 Apr 13
that is what i want but it needs time for me that i should be patience about to reach to perfect time and situation..
@gljcleeve (147)
4 Apr 13
It sounds to me as if you're not unhappy being a woman but unhappy with the way women are treated and expected to act in your country. I'd therefore recommend that you find a way of changing things. I'm sure there are many others in your situation who feel the same, so why not find them and work together for what you want. I don't know a lot about how the system works in India, but most of the world is heading more towards equal rights in all areas so you should be able to get things started. Or a lovely looking lady like yourself shouldn't have any problems finding a husband who will treat you in the manner you deserve and desire so that you can have the extra freedom a man gets while retaining the underlying power, influence and status that a lady always really has.
• India
4 Apr 13
my husband is a big problem in my life... lol... that is why i wish if i could be a man and he could be a lady to do whatever he behave with me with him... to make him understand and feel... what is the taste of being cruel with a lady...
• India
4 Apr 13
by the way, i am not indian. but my husband is an indian that is why am here. i think yes, laws try too much to make equals between two genders but finally some people in their privacy of their home, used to make such difference between male and female.. laws try the best but was great if each person also could learn the equality and respect of ladies .. here in some families from childhood they put in the mind of their children about such things.. not all.. some of them.. and that is the reason... that is why i wish if each parents could observe their responsibility to make good children with humanity and respect for society... if each home will be like that, then of course we will have such a great and happy society... and city and country.. base is each person and starts from family...
4 Apr 13
I see the full extent of your problem now and can only sympathise with you and wish you well. Being a problem that is within your family and is as a result of your husbands cultural upbringing, there are only a very limited ammount of solutions that I could offer you. But as these solutions are either immoral, illegal or probaly against your culture, I'm afraid that you seem to have very little choice in the matter. I hope that you manage either to resolve any problems you have or can talk things through online to help you cope with them better. And on behalf of all the decent, caring men of the world, I appologise for the way life is treating you.
4 Apr 13
Hmmmmm, Actually we can not say that who is better a man or a woman, Some women are really enjoying a lot in this world and they are living a wonderful life and some men also not happy they are living the life like hell, i know personally some.Although i am so happy with my life and i have some friends who are girls and they are really so happy with their life some are in my office where i am working and some are old friends, they enjoy every moment and know how to live a beautiful life. Even some times i think that they are really enjoying their life, i am a boy but i am one of them. Sorry to read about you, as you describe but actually life is the name of problems but every problem has a solution, we should think about that actually what is the concern, what is the cause behind the problem and how can we solve it, if you would think then i am sure you would find a solution. I do not know what is the situation that you have, what your husband think, which kind of environment you have, I am sorry but you think negative, please think positive, try to talk to your husband about this matter, tell him that you do not like all these restriction,try to understand him that you really love him, ignore the things which you do not like in your husband and accept which you like and just remember that do nor run from responsibilities and always be happy!I hope everything would be Good with you because you are Good!!
• India
5 Apr 13
that is so kind of you to say that and I really appreciate your advices... the one who is good, think if other also are good and can see good things in others... It has become a habit for me that I see bad things in my husband a lot..
5 Apr 13
Please try to accept good things also , i can understand in this situation we do not have another way and always we see bad things only because our mind is always disturb in this condition so try to be happy always and just do it, this is my request also as a friend so do it and i hope you would see the change! May God give you a lot of Happiness!!!
• India
5 Apr 13
thanks and God bless you.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
4 Apr 13
I don't wish I were a man. But I completely understand what you are saying about their freedom and all that they are able to do. I just wish to be a woman and be capable of supporting myself and my daughter. It is annoying how my husband can work, go here and there with flexibility while I'm stuck with all the responsibilities. But I will have to work to do my best to change that.
• India
5 Apr 13
for me it could be great if was possible to exchange gender, if I could be a man and my husband could be a lady... that was the only way if he could feel and understand many things and could change to better one...
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• United States
5 Apr 13
Yes I understand what you mean. My husband doesn't understand a lot of things. I often times wish he could just live my life and raise our child has a new born staying at home for two years. He often thinks that things should be easy. But he has no idea because he hasn't experienced my life. I hope that even though we can't switch genders with our spouses that they will try and be more understanding of our life.
@blackrusty (3532)
• Mexico
4 Apr 13
being a man is not as good as you may think it may be and well if I could carry a baby inside of my body I would and would not even think twice about it
• India
5 Apr 13
so you mean being a man is better....
• Mexico
5 Apr 13
not at all
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
4 Apr 13
i have had rough life here. A real bad last 2 years. But Id never thin about becoming a man.
• India
5 Apr 13
but for me it is a wish from childhood,,, I prefer to be a man..
• Mexico
5 Apr 13
Well then, may be you need to check into a group about that. Im sure there are places where you can talk about this at. Good luck...
@RahulRLP (178)
• India
4 Apr 13
and i wish to have my GF that really loves me and think about only me..... Huhh? When i will found her?
• India
4 Apr 13
never! i just wish i was a man while my husband could be a lady.. lol..... not in that way.... i am not a kid to have a gf.... and wait if anybody love me... or not....
@RahulRLP (178)
• India
4 Apr 13
you have to wait untill your rebirth... :-P wow!! you are married so you enjoy lot of....
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
4 Apr 13
I have experienced a lot of problems in my life, but never have I thought of wanting to be a man. It was least of mu worries.
• India
4 Apr 13
i just wish if one night i sleep and in the morning i open my eyes to see my husband is a lady and i am a man... then i know what to do with her...lol
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• India
4 Apr 13
he used to give me lots of command and show me he is a man in the way of forcing me for things.. and wish if he could carry a baby in his stomache to feel what a lady feel and if that time husband behave unkind with her... ? i wish if it could be opposite and he could face it...
@Pegasus72 (1901)
7 Apr 13
I am happy to be a women the way God made me. I know our customs are different from where you live, but even so the Man is still the head of household in our family and we follow what he says as long as it is not illegal.
• India
8 Apr 13
thanks for sharing... yes, men always they are head of family till they are alive
@bird123 (10481)
• United States
6 Apr 13
God puts us on Earth as a man or woman. This is part of the parameters of our life. God did not decide this lightly. On the other hand gender should never prevent one from accomplishing what they want in life. Make plans and work toward that goal. Will is 90% of anything. I know a lady who is a police officer. I know a lady who is a jet engine mechanic. How many times did people tell them they could not do the job? It doesn't matter because they didn't listen. They set goals and did not give up until they were accomplished. You are capable of the same.
• India
8 Apr 13
thanks, I also pray that God remove dam in my life which has stopped me for many things.. waiting and praying for the right time to come..
@cherigucchi (4108)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
Whenever I have some difficulties of being a woman and seeing how men enjoy their freedom even they are also in a relationship, I also wish the same thing. I believe that women make a lot of sacrifices compared to man especially in building a family. When a woman gets married, she can easily makes changes in her life by giving up most of her desires and everything she has for the sake of the family.
• India
6 Apr 13
that is why I feel in that way...
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
6 Apr 13
Along with rights, a man also has obligations. Thus, I think it is a trade off, except is societies where women are treated like property instead of like fellow human beings.
• India
6 Apr 13
you are right, thank you for understanding and sharing..
@Orson_Kart (4323)
• United Kingdom
5 Apr 13
The problem with being a man is that people expect you to 'be a man'. This may mean doing things you are uncomfortable with. Am I happy being a man? In general yes, as I love women and the interaction I have with them. If that's you in the picture, then I would expect life as a woman for you should be very fulfilling. Lucky you for being a woman!
• India
6 Apr 13
people should not just judge by seeing faces.... life is much more than our appearance.. and lucky you that you are a man..
• Philippines
5 Apr 13
Not all man acted like that, and be what you are. and be thankful of what God give's to you.
• India
5 Apr 13
yes, we should be thankful to God for everything but what i do ,? i am human and a human wishes a lot.
@emily7339 (1340)
• Malaysia
5 Apr 13
We cannot decide our gender neither can we decide which family we belong to. No matter what problem in life we are facing, we need to find a solution to overcome them or else we will be living in a defeated life. Though we may wish to be the opposite gender but it will never happen so we need to face the reality. I am sorry for you perhaps you have gone through much trials in your life as a lady. I hope you will be to find a solution to it and live happily as a lady. I wish you all the best!
• India
5 Apr 13
thank you.. I wish you all happiness of this world and have a good day
@Mintlin (326)
• China
5 Apr 13
sometimes i do wish i was a man too,i must be honest,i'm not that happy with my gender.though man and woman are equal nowadays,but there are still many discrimination in our society .especially job discrimination and child gender discrimination in family. in some countryside,if you have a boy baby,evey family member is happy and will reward you some money,while if you have a girl,they will feel they will feel shame,man do have more power there. But i donot care this,I donot have a child yet,I'm a woman not that easy to pregnant,i wish i was a man,then i donot have this tough mission,as it's a really pressure for me for every day.
• India
5 Apr 13
have you ever think what could happen if all ladies except girl child could give birth of only boy child? well,, that was good to happen then men could say a lot of sorry and sorry till end of the world... cause that could be end of their generation..
@scubapro (1058)
• Gifu, Japan
4 Apr 13
sorry i am man but being woman being mother is the most valuable thing in this world i think,of course i am happy and fine with my gender but if i were a mom,i would be appreaciate to god. i think you are thinking in different way and also you are right,many men like giving orders and trying to be right in business life . but i think if women have a good charachter and good informations about what job they do,they never allow the men who are with bad habits like that. i think we should be appreciate to our mothers to give us a birth and bring us up. happy mylotting
• India
5 Apr 13
thanks, that was good if my husband as a man also could understand value of being mother and ladies..
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@srisahara (4151)
• Indonesia
4 Apr 13
Hi friend...When I was young I also wish I was a man. You are right, man has many advantages than woman such as he free go to anywhere without barrier, he can determine his future and has more respect from society. But, now I was receive that I was born as a woman, because I have husband that love me and protect me from any disturbances and help me to solve my problems. Now, I enjoy my gender.
• India
5 Apr 13
so you have a nice husband and for the one who has a good husband being in your gender is great... I used to teach a lot to my man and that was better if we could replace our gender..