Moral/Ethical Question #1

@sharone74 (4839)
United States
April 5, 2013 2:48pm CST
You are driving past the local no-tell-motel and you see a friend or co-workers significant other in a clench with someone other than their spouse going into one of the motel rooms. What do you do? What do you do and why? Some people have no idea how they would respond so I will give you a few easy answers if you can't think of one of your own. A. Tell the person the very next time see them, if I don't call them or go and tell them in person immediately. a+. If I know the other person and their SO I'm going to them and I'm telling it too! B. Mind my own business and pretend that I didn't see what I saw, who wants to break up someone's marriage? C. Go and tell the best friend or family member of the cuckholded party and have them tell it for you since they are so much closer with this person than you are. D. Tell everyone that the two of yo know and let the rumor mill inform them. E. Go pound on the door and drag the philanderer out in their skivvies and return them in that state to their spouse! F. Do nothing. Say nothing.
8 responses
@peavey (16600)
• United States
5 Apr 13
Unless it was a close friend or a family member, I would keep my mouth shut. It's not like those things never happen, and telling other people is just gossip with the intent to hurt. Telling the person's spouse would be the same. Confronting the person is sticking your nose in other people's business.
6 Apr 13
No way. I would be way more hurt if my husband was cheating and my friend knew but said nothing. Betrayal ×2.
@peavey (16600)
• United States
6 Apr 13
As I said, a "close friend or family member." No one else has any business butting in, in my opinion.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
21 Apr 13
True it is sticking your nose in other people's business but telling smeone that they are being made a fool of may not actually be intended to hurt them but simply to inform them so they can decide what they intend to do about the situation.
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
We had case analysis questions like this in morality class last year. I already forgot the guidelines for deciding on what to do, though. I don't know if not saying a thing is the right way to go, but if this happens to me, I would probably say nothing about what I saw because I'm not the kind of person who likes to meddle with other people's business (sometimes even with my own relative's business) and I'll be too shy to say a word. Which reminds me...I found out something about our family that my parents would probably not want me to know, because they kept it a secret and I found out about it accidentally without their knowing, and I didn't tell my mom about that I know about it. I do hope what I found out was not true, because if it were...
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
7 Aug 13
It kinda sucks knowing a secret and not being able to bring it out in the open and discuss it doesn't it?
• Philippines
11 Aug 13
yeah...and the fact that sometimes it's so much easier to tell a stranger than to tell your close friend or relative or someone you know...
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
It depends on who close the friendship is. If I know that friend so well- I will talk with him the next day or the soonest possible time. No way to tell the spouse- coz I don't want to cause any trouble. It is better to talk with the concern friend (who did the act) who knows there might be something that I (being a friend) doesn't know about their relationship/marriage. But if that friend is not a close or dear one- (like a common friend)- I won't dare to interfere with their business.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
7 Aug 13
It seems like people are loathe to want to get involved in the affairs of others. It is a touchy subject, that is why it makes such a good question.
@wizteen (505)
• India
6 Apr 13
If they are not my close friends i'd mind my business, but if its a close friend of mine then id have a talk with the cheating person first and then id talk with ,y fried dependind on what the spouse had to say.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
7 Aug 13
Is there an acceptable excuse for cheating? One that would mollify you into not saying anything to the spouse? It of course is the other persons business but just imagine if it were you and someone saw your spouse at the old No tell Motel and then didn't tell you. You wouldn't continue to be a friend of mine for very long if I found out that you knew and didn't tell me.
@srisahara (4149)
• Indonesia
6 Apr 13
I thin it is difficult question. Because this case is personal business. If I find the case, I will do nothing and say nothing at the first as well as wait and see, to make sure whether other friend look this case or not. If the case is common habit of him I believe there are many person in our community will talk about this. Yes, I just wait and see.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
21 Apr 13
You must live in a culture where marital infidelity is looked upon differently than it is here in the US.
5 Apr 13
I would like to say that of course I would tell my friend, but eho knows. It would depend on the relationship I had with the friend. I would want to know if it were my husband cheating. I cannot keep a secret so I would have to tell someone.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
21 Apr 13
You would have to tell someone but is there a circumstance in which you wouldn't tell the spouse who is being cheated on?
@dogsnme (1266)
• United States
6 Apr 13
I could easily say that if it involved a family member then I would tell them. But more than likely I would stay out of it. Right or wrong, things can all to often get ugly when you stick your nose into other people's business. I think it's something you have to think about before you make a hasty decision. If it were a friend I would definitely stay out of it and if they couldn't understand my reasons why then I guess they wouldn't be much of a friend anyway. I just think it's wiser in most every case to mind your own business and let the situation handle itself. You never know how the individuals involved, including the person being cheated on, are going to respond to you blowing the whistle. And there is no reason for you to risk getting hurt in some way by getting involved in business that is not yours to begin with. If someone's life were somehow in danger then, yes, I would blow the whistle in order to save that person's life but I would still have to be deliberate in determining the best course of action. Otherwise, I woud just butt out.
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
6 Apr 13
Look the other way and mind your own business. It is nobody's business but the two people involved.