who will you choose the one you love or the one who loves you?

Philippines
April 5, 2013 7:29pm CST
what if your heart is loving a person who loves you less than the one who loves you too much who will you choose? i need to know , because this is somehow similar to my situation. i love my husband too much , i know he loves me too but i know that its not as much as i do. he's still irresponsible coz he is only 19. we're not yet married but we have a son. on the other side there is someone who really loves me too much , he's older than me and he's very responsible guy? who shall i choose then?
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12 responses
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
It's hard to choose two different persons. But If I were in your position, I will still give the father of my son a chance to change. You feel that he is irresponsible because he is still too young. Time might change everything as he learns to set his priority. If you do not have a son, then its easy to leave him and be with the other guy but the reality is you have a son to support.
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
i think your right , but i hope he will change soon. my son needs a responsible father.
@rage35 (344)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
i understand if your husband is irresponsible by now because he is too young to become at c father, maybe by now he don't know yet that he must be responsible for his child, if you really love your husband advocate him to act as a mature man, if he still cannot change his attitude that's the time that you must leave him..
@dorannmwin (36608)
• United States
10 Apr 13
Ideally, we should be able to have one in the same and that doesn't really happen all that many times in the world. For me, I know that I ended up choosing the one that loved me as opposed to the one that I love. However, I do have to say that there are times that I really do feel like I made the wrong decision because it was only after I'd gotten married that I found out that the man that I loved also loved me but he never told me that until after I'd already been married for nearly seven years.
@cmania (207)
• Portugal
7 Apr 13
you choose the person you love the most. With time everyone starts to know how to be a parent so no worries !
@sajujohn (1009)
• India
7 Apr 13
If you asked this question to me for some 4 years ago, I would have said that choose the who loves you. But now I love a girl so much.I know she doesn't love or like me. In fact she hates me. But still I cannot forget her or remove her from my heart because I still love her so much. I have decided not to love any other girl in this life. Therefore I will suggest you to always hear what your heart says. But in your case I think you should stay with your husband as you are having a child.Because I doubt if you go with the one who loves you, can he accept the child. If so then it's okay. This is only my opinion, of course you have the right to choose yours.
• India
6 Apr 13
loving is a two way process. you can love anyone it is in your hand. but someone will love u it is not in your hand, so just ask from your heart, what i will do. but in your case, u should choose ur husband just for your son. it is your confidence, what u decide. everything is right in love, war & politics.nothing is wrong in the world, but your heart say Yes to that thing
• India
6 Apr 13
very tough situation. but i think you should give some more time for your son's dad as you had already mentioned that he is only 19. i think he will mature with age and if he doesn't then u can consider the person who loves you.......but in the end the decision is yours to be taken.
• Indonesia
6 Apr 13
I will choose the one who loves me so much and I will try to love her because I dont want to be selfish I mean , what if her, the one that i love dont love me at all? That's why it is .. But in your case I would rather choose your husband.. How can he don't love you in fact that you two having a child? Your husband should be a responsible guy and marry you quickly... You too, have to convince him that you are his angel, the best girl for him.. hhehe btw don't take my words seriously
• India
6 Apr 13
for me, i will think with combine of heart and mind.. i will try to put both of them on scale and i will judge.. which one goodness is heavier, which one is more closer to my ideal one? and then i will choose... you know them better so you are the only one that you can choose.... or make a test on them.... check them... see which one will be winner in test of love and loyalty or responsibility...
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
On my own opinion, If im on your situation, I think you choose your husband .. just for the sake of your son. I think he can be matured , just wait for him to do that.
@amundy8 (58)
6 Apr 13
If you were married to the one you love, then stick with him, if possible. The one who loves you would need to be Possible if he were meant to marry you and is serious about it. Oh, and just because you have a child with someone, doesn't mean they are marriage material. As long as he remains in the child's life, then that's what really matters. Otherwise, stick to who you know in your heart you are meant to be with.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
6 Apr 13
I think it's really important for you to take time to think about what you want and what each of those individuals want. Major decisions like this will affect your life and your sons life. Write down the pros and cons of each scenario. And think carefully don't make a decision like this in a hasty manner. Talk with your current boyfriend about how you feel and what you are thinking. Tell him what you would need to see in order for things to be better in your relationship. And be completely honest with him.