avoiding religion on discussions

Philippines
April 6, 2013 11:41am CST
I love discussions which deal with one's faith in God. But as much as possible I do not like to start discussion which solely talk about religion nor participate in the discussion which talk about it. It is not that I do not have faith. I just want to avoid conflicts in any discussions regarding religion. I do not wish to offend anyone with my point of views and the way I have been doctrined with my religion. I respect all religions so to show it, I do avoid discussing it though it seems obvious that I am into it now. I My point is, religion is really such a complicated matter for me. There are a lot of disputes regarding this. I even remember the time I commented on one of the discussions which talk about 7 Godly sins. I found no offense in what I said there but it was deleted because the main discussion was absolutely deleted as well. As I said i pay respect to all religions in the world. Do have the same thought about it?
22 responses
@momof3kids (1903)
• Singapore
12 Apr 13
I will respond only if someone criticizes Islam. I dont think I have ever criticized another religion until that person criticizes Islam first. I think it is important to tell the criticizer to not put its silly thoughts down in public when its thoughts are wrong in the first place.
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
That is one major point while others get into conflict because they give opinions on subject they do not really know about. One should be careful launching any ideas that they are not familiar with to avoid issues.
• Singapore
13 Apr 13
agreed!!!
• Kottayam, India
23 Apr 13
as news on the channels and newspaper,one can understand that Islam is a good religion as far as the principles written in its book.But people in Afghanistan kills their own people.Syria killed how many ???? think deeply. WE need love not hatred.
@bird123 (10486)
• United States
6 Apr 13
No one will make it out of this world alive and never step on anyone's toes. Remember the choice to get upset does not come from anyone else other than Ourselves. Finally, life is about learning and growing as people. You will find that everyone wants peace. On the other hand Drama is where the learning takes place. We should never be so willing to avoid Drama. Our interactions also create opportunity and learning for all. The peace we lose with the Drama is the catalyst which compels us to work toward the learning, growing and resolution. In conclusion, Get out there and Dance. You never know when your view will change the lives of others in a positive way. Isn't that worth a bit of Drama??? Of course it is!!!
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
It is fine to be quite participative in another person's drama but not everyone welcomes it positively. Things might somehow blow out of proportion once our views are taken out of context.
@bird123 (10486)
• United States
9 Apr 13
Yes, but THINKING always follows the blowouts. The desire for peace will end up moving everyone in a positive direction as long as the interaction is done with love and kindness at least from one of the sides. Let's face it. You are not going in with hate.
@samar54 (2456)
• Egypt
11 Apr 13
I understand how you feel, and what bothers me in this subject they views amongst themselves for their holy books, as they recognize that it had been misrepresented, but if I said this , they launching the attack just because I'm from a different religion! I do not know why they do it, though they're confessing with this ? Strange behavior, maybe they thought I abused their books, but I do not mean to do it, I just said the truth that I know , and which they recognize it among themselves .
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
Very true. Even how much we treat the subject intelligently and responsibly, we cannot please anybody.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
We feel the same way. Sometimes, I would want to say an opinion about a post on religion but for fear that the discussion maker might feel that I am directly hitting his/her faith. So, I try to avoid participating on them.
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
That is also what i think and feel so as much as possible, I do not make comments anymore.
• Jacksonville, Florida
7 Apr 13
I stay away from religion topics as well. I am pretty open minded about religion. I mean I have my own faith, I am good with it but I don't try to convince anyone that my faith is the right one for them. That is up to each person for themselves. So, yes I have respect for all religions. :)
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
We should all respect each others' beliefs when it comes to religion. Talking about our faith is quite different when we talk about religion. Religion includes doctrines, rituals and beliefs that vary from one to another.
@bostonphil (4398)
• United States
6 Apr 13
Religion and spirituality are one of my big interests in life but religion is an extremely controversial topic. I do not avoid discussions on religion. I do participate in many. I believe that I have even begun a few myself. I love discussing religion and spirituality. I, too, pay respect to all religions and love to learn from others., However, in saying that, there are some mylotters who have very strong beliefs and those same persons believe that their belief is the truth. Those persons can be very oppressive and combative. I tend to avoid discussions that those persons begin. This problem is not limitted to mylot or the online world. Those types of persons are everywhere. I do not recall the discussion that you mention. Why was it deleted?
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
It was not comprehensively explained the reason behind its deletion. I was just notified that my response was deleted because the major discussion was deleted and so all the responses made. No more no less.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 13
I no longer respond to posts on religion as people are easily offended if you do not fit into what their belief system is. Then again, many make disparaging remarks about another persons religion and this is so wrong. God is ther for all of us. I sometimes think that He must weep as so many people miss the point entirely. what happend to love and respect?
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
That is exactly my point. It is really difficult to make people understand that you are only trying to explain your belief and not trying to offend anyone's belief.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
6 Apr 13
cherigucchi I also like to discuss religion. I do not take offense from anyone expressing their beliefs. I find those who are more extreme have usually been brought up that way and truly believe in what they are relating. I have always felt there are many paths to God and it is the exclusivity that some claim that seems to be the biggest problem. Even there, since that is what they are taught, it's hard to blame them. Did you by chance ask a 'polling' type question when your post was deleted? Seems to me management here has allowed quite a few discussions on religion. You do seem to be very respectful of religion and I think you would have a lot to contribute!
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
I did not ask polling type question. I only responded on one discussion which instead of talking about the 7 deadly sins, it was treated differently. I just could not remember the whole context but it seemed to be quite offending on others. I did not even comment offensively. The management definitely allows freedom of expression but of course there will always be a limit to it. Thanks for your kind response.
@Angelpink (4023)
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
Hi ! That is true religion is a very sensitive issue and it is so broad and complicated . I guess it is alright to discuss it but there are protocols for it , one must know how to respect ones religion , one know how to listen and must not go below the belt ! Religion is not that important in life , what is important is you are respecting and loving humanity and you have let God lived in your heart !
@anil02 (2968)
• India
7 Apr 13
I am from India. India is secular country. Every one have right to adopt and follow any religion. I thinks every religion talk for love and peace. Every religion ahve good things. We must be respect all religions. It is not necessary to follow all religions but we must be respect all religions.
• United States
7 Apr 13
my thoughts are sometimes we hear people more and people make mistakes but God himself is who all should focus on some religions are man made , just a meeting place. some are overlooking the main reason for going like praying one for another, worshiping God, singing for Him, learning more about Him. then one talks about another. to be involved in God is to let God lead you where He wants you to be and that is Prayer and asking. there is so many different beliefs and yet we never know tossed back and forth, confused. Just stick with the truth the Bible, the Word. and it states in the Bible you will know the church for they will speak about Him "Jesus" . We learn by hearing and faith comes by hearing and the Word. you are not in the wrong by asking you are just learning and wanting answers . that is how we learn. try not to be confused by others but learn from some by asking and overlook the trouble makers..
@allknowing (65127)
• India
7 Apr 13
One needs to walk on egg shells while dealing with a topic on religion. If the subject is handled in a mature way that could be a very good topic but invariably that is not the case and so it is best that it is kept aside.
@spicymary (558)
• Romania
7 Apr 13
I respect everybody as a person and I don't feel I am not respected as such because others disagree with my beliefs or with my religion. Discussing religion with different arguments is critical talking, controversion, polemic. It has nothing to do with personal issues, just with ideas. It's natural to disagree with opposite ideas and not to respect the ideas that you think are stupid. Too much tolerance in that area just means relativity and that you actually don't believe in anything. And again, I emphasize, it's not about not being tolerant to people, to judge them or thinking they are inferior. It's about being consistent with yourself and defend what you are. The great thing about controversional discussing, especially in religion matters, is not trying to convince others of your truth, but about clarify it for yourself. Different arguments challenge you to think more, and find deeper and more elaborate answers. Both parts gain a lot from this exercise.
@averygirl72 (16656)
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
I'm number one attacker of religion in most of my post. I am confused with religions so I decided to get opinions here. I want all people to agree with me but it's boring, it's better if one or two challenge my beliefs or contradicts me. But now I mellowed down and I understand people. It's not their fault if they are blind believers or followers of religions because it's deceptive. I decided religion is not an issue for me whether you practice one or not. We are all the same, this religion just tends to divide us.
@Mintlin (326)
• China
7 Apr 13
In my country,we've been taught from primary school that donot talk about any religion topic with foreigners.It's so complicated and every place every culture is different,what we can do is just respect it and donot comment it. I never concern any religion topic in mylot here.
• India
7 Apr 13
In my point of view nature is god,god is nature.if everyone starts to praise nature then there will no fight on religions and others.save nature,its leads us to live long life without any natural disaster.
• Indonesia
7 Apr 13
I do also love discussion about religion. but sometimes, like you said, there is disputes among those discussing this issue. I myself dislike arguing over religion, I just like the healthy discussion. I respect all religions and never disrespects the believers and even non-believers.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
6 Apr 13
Hi cherigucchi, You are right in saying that we should respect all religions but so many think that only their religion is right, and that causes problems. I am not religious although I am a spiritual person and I sometimes think that the world would be a better place if there was no religion at all.If we all lived together in peace and treated others as we want to be treated, there would be no need for religion. Blessings.
• Indonesia
6 Apr 13
Yes, its usually hard when it comes to religion, since we believe something, that some other people not agree. But i like to know what other people in other religion believe. :)
@honor00 (186)
6 Apr 13
I believe what I believe, why should others be persuaded to believe as I do? I really don't understand. I mean I know when Christ and the disciples were alive word of mouth and personal experience were key, not today. I don't understand why there's a need to proselytise. I just skip religious discussions, sometimes not always with success.