Love thoughts

Romania
April 8, 2013 4:16pm CST
Most of us, men or women, say that we want a self-confident partner, one that has personal passions, life, career, friend, one that has his/her own personality. We can't love somebody that is not in the first place a somebody. But also when we talk about love, we fantasize with trips to the end of the world (like in fairy-tales), with doing anything for the other, with obstacles that should be overcome (and not only exterior ones). In most exteme definitions, love is about renouncing at yourself for the other, of ruining yourself. It's not about compatibility, but about that ravishing passion that makes everything else meaningless. So what do we want? We want somebody with a beautiful personality just to make him/her our? We want to give our soul in the name of love? Why is it romantic to ruin yourself in the name of love? And why this urge is about love, taking in consideration that we love somebody for who they are? Or is it just the difference between love and infatuation?
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@celticeagle (114391)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Apr 13
Romantic to ruin yourself in the name of love? What does that even mean? We all are individuals who have unique life experiences. We are attracted to people who bring something to us emotionally and spiritually. Who compliment us and that give us what we need. When we lack the self-esteem and self respect to nurture our relationships and give them time to bloom then we run into passion and attraction instead of love and compatibility. By that I mean that when we hurry into a relationship without giving it time to get to know the other person then we only harm ourselves. We need to be sure of what we want, need and believe in before we go into the relationship. And then make sure we have it before we make commitments.
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
9 Apr 13
I also think it is always good to give time for a relationship and one should try to commit one-self after getting into the relationship.
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@celticeagle (114391)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Apr 13
Try to commit after getting into the relationship? Try? You should think it all out ahead of time so you know that you can commit and will. Or why bother?
@celticeagle (114391)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Apr 13
Ruining yourself? What is that? I think that sounded pretty defietest.
@Frederick42 (2017)
• Canada
9 Apr 13
True love is not of htis world. Infatutation is of this worls. Infatutaion is an ugly thing, But true love is divine and incomaparable, in front of which infatutation pales in comparison. The difference between tue lve and infatutaion is not easy to grasp and understood practically. One has to love oneself first. But most important, one has to be in tune with silence. nowadays, everybdy is fond of noise. Whenever we get some free time, we switch on the radio or television and thus we create a lot of noise. Actutally, we can spend the free time in silence. This silence enables us to bring forth the divine love, which is not infatutaion.
• Romania
11 Apr 13
Everybody knows that he/she has to love oneself. But when those feelings appear, auto-distructive attitudes can be too tempting. They are intense and might be beautiful, so the health of the soul doesn't really matter anymore. It's a difficult challenge to keep with what's rational in those moments. Of course, it is the best option, but it's not easy at all.
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
9 Apr 13
I think it is common to have loves and fantasies in life. I thin one should look at the positive side of love and not the infatuation and other feelings. I think most probably infatuations when getting higher might make the downfalls of a person. I think one should always try to suppress the unwanted feelings.
• Philippines
8 Apr 13
Infatuations usually misinterpreted as love and usually it is the source of love and love doesn't always mean romantic relation. Love is something that is sacred to real lovers. But love is often abused words. It is being used as a decoy for a greedy desire. But a real love can be the strongest weapon a person ever had beyond explanation no one can predict what is a true love and its power. Let us say just be thankful of what come in and be careful what comes next.
• Romania
10 Apr 13
You said something really smart in the last sentence. You said love doesn't always mean romantic relationship. I agree that in some cases not. But I think that usually love is about relationships, and infatuation is about passions with no end. What happens, in your opinion, when you love somebody and are infatuated with somebody else?
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
10 Apr 13
It was really amazing fantasizing about all that, we can go pretty far in our minds. The funny thing is that I had no idea what God had in store for me, it's nothing like I imagine or not exactly, not better or worse but the right person for me was someone I didn't even met until really close the time I wanted to get married, in this point it was better than I could ever dream for sure, but the right person is not the one we create in fantasies but the one that actually challenge us, funny.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
9 Apr 13
Infatuation is loving someone for what they look and how they make you feel. Real love is a love that will last forever and is more then looks and feelings. It is also tragic that someone ruin themselves for love. Love builds up. That is the difference.