anger in realtionship........what to do???
By sporwal
@sporwal (92)
India
April 9, 2013 12:55pm CST
hey guys!!!!! I am in a relationship for past 2 years . everything is well and we love each other madly . but mt BF gets angry very fast. i mean if he has argument with anyone he will just come and shout at me and if i utter a word even he will then grow furious. this is creating problems in my relation and i really do not want to loose him.
guys please help me out with some good suggestions to solve the problem.....
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9 responses
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
9 Apr 13
unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to control his anger. he has to be able to control his own anger. it's only up to you how much of it that you are willing to live with.
@valentinesdiner (1214)
• United States
10 Apr 13
You may not be able to control his anger but you can contain it. Agree on some ground rules about when expressing anger is "out of bounds" and the angry person will need to leave for a while. Agreeing to a mutual rule should be acceptable to someone who loves you.
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
10 Apr 13
Woww! are you sure he loves you madly?? think.. observe.. and decide...!!
@judelen (428)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
Hello! Honestly i don't like the attitude of your boyfriend. The way his attitude show to you, the thing that he will shouted on you at the time of anger, for me that kind of attitude is not normal, sorry to tell you that. The mere fact that instead of showing good attitude towards you he shows you bad attitude. I think you have to think this twice, just observed him more and do not go fast with your emotion. Talk to him frankly that you don't like that attitude and talk more to him and be frank.
@valentinesdiner (1214)
• United States
10 Apr 13
My real, heartfelt advice if he continues to have this explosive anger...
RUN!!!!!
You deserve better than this.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
Some people mellowed as they grow older, hope your BF will soon mellowed in time.
But some become worse either (hope your bf won't)
If he is a temperamental person and you really love him- then deal with it, or, try to look around maybe you are missing something in your life.
@riempie9 (1021)
• South Africa
10 Apr 13
Anger is not good in a relationship - and you must WANT to do something about it because some people just talk and stay on in the toxic relationship. If you mean it, do something about it. Either he leaves or you do. People who are angry with their mates never change. You take the flak for everything. You don't take the advice and a few weeks later, no matter what people tell you, you follow your own advice... which is not a bad thing if it is the right advice and you really do something about it.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
9 Apr 13
I can understand your situation very well and i know u must be confused regarding this. I think u should not react whenever he is furious, rather stay calm and control your emotions and let him vent out his anger and in the end u can console him and make him understand about his behavior. I am sure he will understand u.
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
9 Apr 13
i would check to see if you have any kind of anger management class around some time they offer them free at a church and i would say both of you go this way you will understand why he does this
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
9 Apr 13
as much as you love your boyfriend, you should not allow him to do this you. he has has no right to vent his anger on you. it is abusive behavior. before it happens again, i suggest that you talk to him seriously about this.
look at your situation from a different point of view. what if it was your sister or bestfriend who is in your situation? do you think it is right? what would you have said to your sis/bestfriend? you should follow your advice.
