Would you rather pretend?

I am talkative. SO chit-chatter, noisy, whatever other term they call it. I love to tell stories, experiences, jokes, but when it comes to problems or the like, I try to keep it to myself if I know I can still handle it myself. I'll tell them, I'm fine, I'm ok, but one thing I can tell you, is that there is this one person that knows when I'm alright or not, he's the one I'm telling him everything, like EVERYTHING. so when I utter, I'm fine, he'll look at me and then he knew. Some people will really know when to ask if you're doing fine. =) just tell one or two with what is really going on with you. I don't want anybody or anyone to worry to worry about me or problem my problem also but it'll help you feel better sometimes. =)

You are right by doing that. Otherwise you will spoil yourself being too dependent. Do it yourself. That's how you build yourself to be strong and firm.

I think it is good not to reveal too much personal and private things to others. I think it is good to tell the personal things to special people and good friends.

I do the same thing, not to burden my family and loved ones. I know when it is time to ask help- so as long as I can handle everything, it is better to let them think I am doing fine.

Its better to pretend, i do it too,because its hard to trust people when your experiences are not good .Sometimes you share the problem ,hardly anyone helps instead what you shared passes from one person to other and you just become a laughing stock or a random subject of discussion to pass few minutes.But there are people who have genuine affection towards us, there is nothing wrong in sharing our problems with them.Best wishes.

i think most people do this. aside from the fact that i don't want them to worry, i also don't want to go into long explanations. some people also ask how you're doing but they don't really want to know. it seems this question has become routine, merely an act of politeness and sticking to the norms.

Yes, all of us sometimes do that too. However, do remember to ask for help when the burden is too heavy. True friends and family will lend a helping hand. I personally prefer to challenge myself to solve problem at hand so that I can learn. I love to be 'teach to fish rather than be given a fish.' Be strong and be yourself.

I guess, most of us does that too and that includes me. I think, it's just natural and we are happy to know that they are really concerned about us. But, there are times that we should share our problems especially to those who are close to us just to ease the burden. We knew that we don't want them to worry but if it's too heavy for us we must tell the truth.

There are also times that I tend to do this just to keep things peaceful for I am afraid that if I share everything then would come some misunderstandings and trouble. I think its pretty fine if the gravity of what you are hiding is not that great but if it can really affect a certain person big time, then maybe you should think twice before keeping it to yourself.

I'm not good in expressing what I feel or what I think about something thats why I rarely share what I am feeling even to my family. I just keep it to myself. It is sometimes okay to pretend that everything is okay and just be silenced because sometimes it is hard to explain what I am feeling.

there are times that we all have to pretend so not to hurt those of us around others there is nothing wrong with it at all we do have to protect our selfs all the time but you got alot of people here that do not know you if you want to reach out and chat with one of us for any reason we are here my self included

I always show what is the real me. sometimes I pretend also that I'm okay even I'm hurt because this time, I act as a clown that make everybody smile even I'm hurt..

It is okay to pretend if you think that they will worry about you too much...but you should share your problems at least with someone(if not everyone) because I believe they can make you feel better and help you with it.

I think it is OK not to tell your family/friends about how you exactly feel if you don't want their help or you don't want to them to worry. Usually we share our emotions or thoughts to someone because we want to help, either listening or giving advice. But it is OK to be honest too, especially with your family because updating family members will assure you there's always someone to help you and be concerned about you. Stay safe my friend.

There are some times where we need to vent about life, we're only human. But, its good to keep some personal things to ourself, too. If you can handle it on your own, then there's no need to worry anyone. Nothing wrong with how you're going about things.