stress is killing me

Malaysia
April 10, 2013 5:56am CST
i have live in this place for 10 year, and now the place is having huge transformation. early day there have not much car and people but now there have lot of shoplot, food complex and car, people. what the hell? sometime i got really stress when driving, coz traffic jam jam jam. people all around i don't even know who the hell there are, yeah i like to watch girl but i kind of shy or silly idiot fear to approach them. so i got stress.............how to world i can release it, hypnosis, meditation or how?
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13 responses
@ctryhnny (3463)
• United States
10 Apr 13
Things are changing no matter where you live. We have lost 3 companies that have been around for years and they are building other business on their sites. As for the stress over a girl...you have to grow up a little bit and just talk to her instead of watching her. She might think your a stalker and that wouldn't be good. Hypnosis is no way to go I've tried it and it only works for a short time. Maybe meditation to get rid of your stress but it'a mostly the girl that you stress over so you have to take care of that situation. Good luck!
@tinayu (214)
• China
11 Apr 13
hey my friend,you should be relaxed.can you change this situation? the answer may be "no".so you can get used to it.maybe you will think that i am negative,but if we can't change the outside things ,we can change our mind.when you are in the traffic jam,you can listen some music.there are so many people around you ,you can say hello or give a smile to them.you say you like to watch girls but fear to approach them,now say hi to them,maybe someone will like you and approach you on her own.by then,you maybe spend all your rest time to please her and don't have enough time to care the messes around you.
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
yeah what wrong if i can't say hi to them, relAX relax big heacheadi
• United States
11 Apr 13
I know this probably sounds ridiculous, but could you move to a quieter area? Could you maybe ride a bike instead of using a car? I'm really trying to figure out how we could help you. What if you joined some group where you could meet new people and just join in the talk and activities. Just remember, girls don't bite. You might think they do, but they honestly don't. They might want to talk to you also but are afraid to approach you. Just take your time and be a little casual. Don't try to hypnotize yourself, that's not going to work. Meditation is always good. They say (I don't do it but plan to shortly) that Yoga works wonders for the soul. You really need to chill out or you're going to have a heart attack...you sound really stressed and you need to find a way to relax or change your location if possible. Take care now.
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
HMM for the record i did have buy bike and ride it to work every single day, so i save money. my work place there is a quiet place but facing in front of terrible traffic, that coz this area of my work place is abandon shoplot. anyway i need to thank you for the help you lend to my, yeah girl don't bite but the word is killing the soul and hope. that serious
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
10 Apr 13
Stress is one of the biggest killers in the world today, and is any wonder with the super fast way we live our lives, everything is based on speed, and rushing around, the slow pace of life has become all but non existant. You have the noise, people being inconsiderate, rudeness, cars cutting you up, traffic jams, I think that's what it's like for most of the world, especially if you live in a built up town or city. You have realized that stress is killing you, which is the first step, the next step is how to unstress yourself and to relax. For me I find reducing my stress levels by having a nice soak in the bath, gardening, and even being at the gym can burn off stress. Reading also helps. You need to find something that works for you and aim to reduce your stress levels.
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
i love to gardening but the work time is damm killing me as too long, about reading yeah but i read annual report of the company i love to buy in future
@MoonGypsy (4615)
• United States
10 Apr 13
you sound like you are worried about many different things at once. why don't you try chanting NAM MYOHO RENGE KYO. i chant and it helps me relieve a lot of this stress.
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
what is that you are say NAM MYOHO....?
@airasheila (5460)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
Good day to you Koon999Tan, I do understand what you feel and maybe you find it difficult at first. Although, once you get into it, for sure, you can adjust yourself. Perhaps, you can take it one step at a time, like, try to accept those changes that you saw. Since, changes is inevitable, so as, you must adhere to it. Then, after that, you can start befriending new people around you. You can choose a boy or a girl, hence, it is according to your preference. Maybe, it will be best to take it slow so you can able to handle your adjustments in the new atmosphere that you saw nowadays.
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
when i go to a town in the Tangkak i saw everyone is so slow, and not forget rich,,,,,,oh oh oh
@katsmeow1213 (28715)
• United States
10 Apr 13
You could move somewhere quieter.
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
is like come or go like a empty wind, now that is so sad
@jkct02 (2860)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
You are also a part of the traffic if you are driving :) I guess we just have to accept that traffic jam and crowd of people are the result of an expanding town. But if we look at the seemingly depressing situation from another angle, we will see that there are more chances and opportunities for our employment as well as for our business. Take it easy. Just be yourself and act naturally when meeting people so that the people you meet will know the real you. Being shy and fearful is just all in the mind. Just treat the girls like your younger sisters. Be friendly, cheerful and good mannered. Swearing will not win you any friends.
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
my town is now been develop and is so heavy now. mind is really set my back of what i want to have
• Indonesia
10 Apr 13
Yeah sometime I am stressed too wit my study, and when it comes to traffic jam, like, what the hell??! And i think its better to just enjoyed whatever is that no matter how stressful your day is, u still can enjoy it, and if have problem with approaching girls, just do something to boast ur confidence, go to a gym, reading how to approach girls in internet, make u feeling better about your self. Everything will gonna be easy.
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
do whatever to easy down the feel, somehow is easy to say than talk. yeah i think i need to build up my confidence now.............
@wongchoiyee (5489)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
Not sure how, relax a bit, where do you live? Not in KL?
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
i live in Melaka town but here is now been very busy with all the hell traffic
@Angelpink (4023)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
Oh traffic plus unsaid affection equals severe stress. This is simple don't make it complicated.YOu try to show your affection by some gestures like being friendly to her , sending sms just to greet, inviting for snacks,showing some care,
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
10 Apr 13
I think nice attitude might be important cuz i also live in such a big and crowded city.The traffic is just killing me,but i still think maybe i need to tell myself to adjust since i'm living here.I really prefer somewhere that is quiet and esay to live.Good luck to you.
@cmania (207)
• Portugal
10 Apr 13
Maybe if you started to go into soem groups where you know more people and start to get more confort would help you in your shyness it´s almost liek learing how to ocmunicate more relaxed. And if you+re strees wh dont´you go to a place a calm sweet place and stay there for some time to relax and so on?