He is earning money and his family miss him lot

@roshigo58 (4859)
Pune, India
April 11, 2013 8:40am CST
Hi, My cousin is radio officer and he has to travel by boat always because his job is on boat. He get the chance to go to many countries. But he has to spend all his days on boat. Water is seen everywhere and nothing else. He earn high salary. He gets a chance to come to his home only for three months a year. He earned lots of money, he has two big houses. But he can not enjoy all this for long time. His family miss him always. Thus he has lots of money but doesn't have family life. I don't like such job. What about you?
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
11 Apr 13
I am a landlubber, the thought of spending any time at sea fills me with dread, I hate the thought of being surrounded by nothing but water, even those cruise ships you see, the luxury liners, to me are floating prisons! I like my feet on terra firma. Is it worth earning all that money and not getting to spend much time with loved ones and to enjoy your home? There has to be a balance.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. There has to be balance in relation with closed ones and job. Family is more important than money. If we can't get the love of our family then what is the use of that money? We are not earning machines. We also have feelings and emotions. Thank you for the response.
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• India
11 Apr 13
@wolfie-Full respect for your opinion my friend but believe me ,they are not floating prisons, people who work there ,enjoy that life a lot.I am just telling by my own experience as i am a sailor(marine engineer) too.Best wishes.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
11 Apr 13
Sure I respect those that do work on the sea, and for some people the sea is their life, but it's not for me. A deceased friend of mine used to work for Cunard and would regale me with his stories about his job which I enjoyed hearing.
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@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
13 Apr 13
What is with people? some complain about not having money and some complain about not having their loved ones with them! but I ask myself would he be missed that much if he was to stay at home with not money?...I wish when I was young to have such an opportunity...I really wish him the best!
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
15 Apr 13
Hi, If you feel such job best then you can enjoy this job. You can meet for three months in a year to your family and all other remaining you can keep contact with your family through net. Sometimes due to lack of money some people accept such job. Thank you for the response.
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
but I ask myself would he be missed that much if he was to stay at home with not money? great point! there are families that end up bickering all the time with horrible consequences because of the lack of money for even basic everyday needs. many land-based foreign workers have to work hard and save up for a one-month vacation. i think it's up to the husband and wife to work out how to sustain communication (especially with the technology available now) and how to make the three-month vacation more meaningful.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
It is the career they chose therefore they know that missing the family and vice versa is part of the consequences of that job and earning that high. My brother is a seafarer as well and he earns big but most of the time he is not inside the country and he did not see his children grew up but he was able to send his kids to private schools.. it is something he learned to accept because he knows no other job but that.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
hi, You are right. It is the career they chose and they know everything about the life they have to face. They are ready to accept all these things in their life. Family is also enjoying luxurious life. Thank you for the response.
@namiya (1713)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
My two cousins are both seafarers for they love to travel that's why they took up maritime course. But now that they have their respective families, being away with them most of the time is their only woe relating to their job. One can't have the best of both worlds and although they wanted to be with them all the time but finding a land-based job that would aptly provide their families' financial needs is not easy.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. Land based job can not provide the financial needs of family. So my brother also doing this job unwillingly. thank you for the response.
• Singapore
12 Apr 13
It doesn't feel good when your family misses you and worse is not even supportive. I worked overseas for a short period and my mother was against the move, even when I was overseas she was always telling me to return. In contrast my neighbours who were also expatriates had parents who too missed them but understood why they chose to work overseas and were supportive, I feel that makes a big difference. As a result I am no longer considering any overseas postings, regardless of how I myself feel about it. But for your cousin it sounds like he himself doesn't enjoy it and he seems to have earned enough anyway, so it may be time to consider a regular job that allows him to spend time with his family.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, He has tried a job in our state. It was not near his house but he could visit his family on week ends. But the salary is not high as per his job as a radio officer. So he left that job and joined the previous job. Their family is used to spend luxurious life and so they need more money. So he decided to join his job on the ship. Thank you for the response.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
13 Apr 13
this is a good job. most people who work on ships do not pay for rent and food so their salaries are intact. they can save a lot and plan on an early retirement so they can stay with their families always in the future. his family misses him a lot and so does he. i'm sure that although he likes his job, he's not happy about being away from home. however, he chose this profession and his wife has to live with it. she must have known before marrying a sailor that her life would be like this. three months in a year is not bad considering that some others work abroad and get to see their families only after they finish their contracts. if we want to achieve something, we have to make sacrifices in order to reach our goal. your cousin and his wife want to save money for their children, living away from each other is the sacrifice they have to endure since it's part and parcel of his job. if and when they have reached the financial security that they envision, then he can retire and stay at home to be with his family.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
15 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. My cousin's wife knew before marrying him about the nature of his job. She has accepted it. He can save lots of money as his salary is high and he doesn't have to spend any money while he is on job. thank you for the response.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
13 Apr 13
I also does not like the work that makes me lots of money and does not give me enough freedom and I think most probably I might get home sick. I think it is good to spend enough time with friends and family.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
15 Apr 13
Hi, you are right. Such jobs make us home sick. There is no time to spend happy times with family and friends. thank you for the response.
@celticeagle (157593)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Apr 13
No, I wouldn't like it either. But we have to choose whether we want the money and the negative that goes with it. Maybe he can retire early.
@celticeagle (157593)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Apr 13
Sounds good to me. You're welcome.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. He may retire early. Now he is 52. He may work for 3 to 5 years more and then take a retirement. Thank you for the response.
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@zaugis (81)
• Lithuania
11 Apr 13
We always have the freedom of choice, anywhere. And the known adolescence, when selected profession, about families still do not think. Later what to change is difficult. I would rather chose the specialty with freer schedule to work. Would rather be with my family.
@zaugis (81)
• Lithuania
12 Apr 13
Hi, World society is not distinguished from that which was a thousand, two or more years. Has made little consensus that neighbor, the neighbor is not hurt and understand them. I respect those dedicated people who carried responsibility for themselves and for the country. Achieving and maintaining peace. Love and peace flows through my veins!
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, We have to make adjustments in our life and we should sacrifice something for getting something. But staying away from family for long days is very difficult for me. If we have to stay away from our family for the job the job should be such that we can meet our family at least once in a month. But such job of radio officer don't have any family life.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
11 Apr 13
Hi, He is having a dilemma between a good life and how to achieve it as most overseas workers have. Work all the time away from home, building a good nice house but having lesser chance to go there is such a bad arrangement no one can scape. Staying nearer to home and earning a good income is elusive to most, it can only be had by going elsewhere leaving family and friends for the purpose. By the time enough money has been accumulated, one is too old to enjoy it. For me in such a situation, I'll try to find happiness in my work away from home. Going home is only an extension of that, a sort of an added bonus while on vacation. The enjoyment with family and friends could be the same as the enjoyment while at work, but the sense of accomplishment, the camaraderie, the different countries seen, cultures learned far outweigh what is experienced at home. If an overseas worker cannot find such things while abroad, then homesickness comes in and his career is doomed. Then there's no other way but to go home and linger there until old age missing all the opportunities of the outside world.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. He has the opportunity to go to various countries, know about different cultures which could not be possible for him by doing job near the home. Thus he has all the opportunities of outer world. thank you for the response.
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
11 Apr 13
I am sure that if he could have a choice to earn similar salary in a job in where your cousin stays, he will take it so that he can be with his family. But then he may also like to travel on a boat to see the world. Sometimes we have to sacrifice some in order to earn more. Maybe after a few years when your cousin has earned enough then he would think of settling on a land job.
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
13 Apr 13
I am not sure if it is worthwhile to be separated from his family in order to earn more money as he is indeed able to get a job in where he stays. How long has he been working on the boat?
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, He has tried for a land job some years before. But the salary is not high as the job on the ship. So he returned to his previous job and started working on boat. He and his family now has the habit of living luxurious life and so he has to do sacrifice for his family. Thank you for the response.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
Sometimes one has to sacrafice to take care of their families.Sorry to hear he has to go so far. But its well worth it, in the long run.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. Sometimes one has to sacrifice to take care of their families. He also very caring for his family. When he comes to meet them he always helps her wife in her work and help his children in studies and try to make them happy. thank you for the response.
• Mexico
12 Apr 13
I know as I do it here, its friday cafe will be open 18 hours today. I will be in and out all day here.
@cherigucchi (14885)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
In life we do a lot of bargaining. We just cannot have everything no matter how we work hard for it. there is always a trade off. It is a difficult choice to make. My husband does not want to work abroad though we know both that there are greater opportunities out there and there is a high pay off but he just cannot bargain the exchange of it which would mean that he's going away from me and the kids. I share the same idea that was why i did not accept the opportunity abroad when it came knocking at my doorsteps. I did not regret it. We both believe that when we raise a family, it is both our responsibilities to provide our children a good life including education but there are some consequences that we just cannot deal with.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
13 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. If you go abroad then you have to go away from your family. I also don't like to go abroad. Thank you for the response.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
Since he earns a lot of money he could have more savings. Works towards his goal of early retirement so that he could spend more time with the family. I used to have a job which took much of my time. I had no choice but to work as my family needed my income. I had very little time for the family but I managed to save for the future. That is why I opt for early retirement as I do not want to have those stressful life. Now I have a lot of time for my family and this is the reason I came to mylot for my spare time
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Apr 13
Hi, you are right. He earns lot of money so he can save money for his future and can take early retirement and enjoy life with his family. thank you for the response.
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@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
12 Apr 13
It is true that the family will miss us a lot when we are on such travel jobs, but money is very important, even if it means missing the family. If you are always with the family, then you will not miss them, but you may become tired of them and their company will suffocate you. But when yu are on such overseas jobs, you will understand with your heart and soul the importance of family.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. When we are far away from our family we can understand the importance of our family. Thank you for the response.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
12 Apr 13
Well, although at the moment I have to admit that I really need a job like that where you are short time at home and especially you earn a lot of money, I have to admit though that I do not know if I could I with time to hold such a rhythm. I, for the most part I am a person with psychological problems. Of course, my doctor does not recommend a similar job! However, in general in my opinion, this work is the "good and the bad weather."
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
13 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. As you have psychological problem you can not do the job like this. but you can do the simple job easily. Thank you for the response.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
12 Apr 13
It would be lonely if we try so hard at work and make the life really bored.So i'll try to balance time with family and my work.Thus my life to be content in some way.Find some other skills and interests and work somehow.Maybe such job does not suit me as well.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. Only working hard would make our life bored. So we should try to balance time with work and family. Thank you for the response.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
12 Apr 13
Yeah I feel bad for him and his family. It is nice that he is able to provide for his family but sad that he has to be gone for such a long time. I hope that things will some how change for the better for them. That he will still be able to earn could income but come home more.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, He miss his family very much when he is away from the family. But he has accepted this life and he and his family try to enjoy life. when he comes home they enjoy together. thank you for the response.
• India
12 Apr 13
i believe that we should earn for happiness of our family but not to losing of chances to be with family.. if he has earn enough money then it is time that he would do something else to be with his family.. these are valuable time we should not waste that just for earning a lot money... i like happiness of family and that much money to have a happy life only... being with family values is more that any other thing... it is good to remember always why we work.. we work for our family happiness but if they are not happy then what is the benefit.?
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, My brother's family is happy with ;lots of money he earn and spending luxurious life. His wife is also earning. Children are also used to of their family life. So there is nothing to worry. But his family miss him and he also miss his family. So waht is the use of that money?
• India
12 Apr 13
It is true guy's. People get jobs and earn money with a wish to make their lives cheerful, comfortable and happy. But when they start earning after getting the job, they get so involved into that job that they forget their happiness and comfort. They forget the reason for which they started doing job.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Apr 13
Hi, Welcome to mylot. You are right. People start job for earning for happy life but after some days they forget the reason of their job and always busy in work and forget their families. thank you for the response.