I am feeling little upset . .i run this group on f/b and stood up for a few folk
@littlefranciscan (18327)
United States
April 11, 2013 9:20pm CST
I run this group for PTSD since i have it and there are quite a few members. This group is on facebook. Anyway two of my members were discussing what they are taking to help them get through the day. Sometimes PTSD ..post traumatic stress disorder..can be very hard to handle. So medication helps one calm down or not feel so sad about the memories and flashbacks that are part of the condition. ANyway. they were discussing and some other member kinda put them down for being on meds.. then another jumped in .. then I jumped in and asked the ones speaking against medications to just drop the subject as it could trigger those who take meds into a bad way.. Well for doing that . .one of the members started to hurl mean words and worse.. the one i defended ended up being upset that I tossed the member who became "unruly" and said she wants to start her own group so she can stay friends with the mean one who was bashing folks.. anyway what am saying is I stood up for the two who were just discussing stuff and was put down by one of those two afterwards..
I ended up deleating the thread as that is my right to do so as admin and owner of group but got bashed for doing that too.
I just felt leaving negative comments could be triggering to rest of group.
O well.. facebook is not the easist place to be on.
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@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
12 Apr 13
if you want a conversation where there is no flaming facebook is not the place. i have PTDS and i take meds. i probably would have been triggered, but then again it's only facebook. i don't care what people say. i have to do what i have to do to take care of myself.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
12 Apr 13
well see am the admin of this group and i feel that ..if a thread gets out of hand.. and after I have attempted to put out the "flame" and failed. that the best thing to do is delete it.. well i got jumped on all over . .and I am so very sensitive.. I not only got pounced on by the one who was doing the wrong but by the ones who were really being belittled..it's hard..
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
12 Apr 13
well, it's like you said...it's facebook. you have to have a thick skin over there.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
12 Apr 13
something i haven't been able to ever get.. i think mine keeps getting thinner 
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
You can't prevent stuff like that from happening, especially on Facebook. Even a simple status update post can have arguments like that. You can just report those, I believe, and just trust Facebook to take care of it, instead of prolonging the nonsense.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
12 Apr 13
I don't want to report anyone but since I am admin.. and have the "golden power of veto" I can remove which is what I did but then i feel guilty. partly it's my own unhealed self that feels sorry for the offenders but the smart self says they should not be allowed to carry on that way 
@ShivenderRajput1 (110)
• India
12 Apr 13
even i have a group in facebook and it gets sometimes quite difficult to handle debates. Sometimes both parties are my friends and i cant favour anybdy. Not even give my view in favour of one coz the other party wud get angry with me. Really its tough.;-)
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
12 Apr 13
Well the group I am is not for debates.. 
but i am admin of it and i was trying to extinguish something that I thought could trigger the group.. and one of them became very offended..and challenged me . .and really i thought whoa... this is the group I started and am responsible for and you are insulting me. .then the one who was hurt ended up bashing me because she wanted to be friends with the person who was disrupting..I ended up having to delete the thread and remove both the people.. as the group is for people who have been hurt by some tragic even in their lives and felt it would trigger. I stuck up for a couple of them as they were hurt but then one turned and lashed at me
but i am admin of it and i was trying to extinguish something that I thought could trigger the group.. and one of them became very offended..and challenged me . .and really i thought whoa... this is the group I started and am responsible for and you are insulting me. .then the one who was hurt ended up bashing me because she wanted to be friends with the person who was disrupting..I ended up having to delete the thread and remove both the people.. as the group is for people who have been hurt by some tragic even in their lives and felt it would trigger. I stuck up for a couple of them as they were hurt but then one turned and lashed at me 
@RandomnessPrincessx3 (280)
• United States
12 Apr 13
You did the right thing to stick up for people and to remove the thread. Don't feel down on yourself, please. Let whoever make another group. You know why? If they're that mean only the mean people will follow. You seem to have a caring heart and people with that same trait should be part of your group. Its a place for support, not to be put down. Cheer up! Have a good night.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
12 Apr 13
Thank you for you words..they really make me feel a whole lot better. .I have been going over the situation now for a few days..guess that's part of who I am too. trying to figure out why someone I helped would turn around and hurt me. but..that's good wisdom you put here.. thanks so much ..
