I'm worried about my friend.

@elenaliu (150)
China
April 12, 2013 2:33am CST
Two days ago,I heard that one of my roomates was pregnant,I got shock,she hasn't got married yet,she met a man two months ago,and felt in love with him soon,the man was more than ten years older than her,we have exhorted her before,but she was still uncontrollably fall into.What's worse,the doctor said she probably was ectopic pregnancy.She just like a helpless bird,she dares not to tell her parents,maybe she has to get married with that man as soon as possible,I hope she can be well soon,please pray for her,thanks.
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20 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
12 Apr 13
I am sorry to hear so but I doubt this 10 year older man will get married to her. If he was a honest man he would have wait having seks with her! He just abused her. So the hoping for... I would not count on it. I think she better thinks over what she wants for herself in this life. What her possibilities are. There are plenty of women worldwide already since ages, abused and dumped by men while being pregnant. Most men did not keep their promises or said they are still not adult enough to get married. A small part will show up years later if the child is great to show off with and brag with and they don't need to pay or be a dad anymore. There is no way she can change what has happened but how to continue with it, is in her hands. I think she does need a friend now who can advice her well. Not a friend being naiev hoping for a marriage or asking for prayers. Sitting, hoping, waiting won't help. To act will! Go over to that adult guy and ask him straight away what his plans are and when.. if not tell the parents name, address, etc. plus that he abused their daughter!
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
12 Apr 13
I think most probably she had to be careful on that. I think most men does not marry girls who sleep with them before marriage. I heard one dialogue in a movie that if a girl sleep with a man before her marriage even if she loves him most probably she might have slept with someone else also. I think most probably the person might not went for marriage to have the girl sleep with her and for physical pleasure.
@Mavic123456 (12605)
• Thailand
13 Apr 13
I agree with you Kitty go ask directly what the plans are... and do it right away. otherwise threat the guy of his actions. by the way what's your friend's age? if she is less than 18 she is a minor.
@srisahara (4147)
• Indonesia
12 Apr 13
I think, we do not pray her but remind her to responsible with her action with the man. Each action needs responsibility, she should know what should she do with her carelessness. I think you should not worry about her problem, but help her to solve her problem. Suggest her to take the best way.
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@rsa101 (14878)
• Quezon City, Philippines
12 Apr 13
Ectopic pregnancy is quite dangerous as it may cause miscarriage. For as long as the man is there to support her in this trying times then that is fine at the moment. But I think she should tell her parents about this so that she can have some support from her family too.
• India
12 Apr 13
Thanks for sharing i am sorry to hear this; i just wonder why a woman lives and sleeps with a man without getting marriage? We will pray for her no doubt, but does prayer really help? You should take help of police and try tracking her from her mobile.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
Exactly Prof ! Now she is suffering alone from the consequences of her action ! She is conscious in doing it , i guess she will find ways in solving this. This little girl need nothing now but comfort and support from friends and family.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
I guess, she must tell it to her boyfriend and if the guy loves her, then he must take an action and will not leave your friend. Your friend's pregnancy is in critical condition and she needs her boyfriend in this kind of situation. You need to encourage her to tell it to her boyfriend first.
@grvdubey11 (1882)
• India
13 Apr 13
World is really harsh for women.Now poor girl has to suffer alone ,i dearly wish she gets out safely through this mess though.Even if a girl is intimate with his partner she should use make sure there is enough protection and precaution ,because if she gets pregnant then she has to suffer a lot,the guy can get away easily.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
13 Apr 13
Ok what should we pray for? for the man to marry her or for the baby not to be? I just can't figure why a woman in modern age is not using contraception! and you hope she can be well soon? well she is not sick she is just pregnant! the only way for her is to tell her parents and hope for the best I Am sure her parents will be there to help her or maybe a grand ma or aunty tell her to talk to a family member she can trust and they may be able to talk to her parents on her behalf. Good luck.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
I hope that everything will be fine for your friend.. being in love makes us do some crazy stuff so I can't blame your friend but I hope she has learned her lesson.. and I also hope that the man your friend is in love with will support your friend all the way whatever decision they have made.. unwanted pregnancy is really a hard situation so your friend really needs a lot of support..
@jadoixa (1171)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
that is really a big problem, i pray all will be ok with her and wish her all the best. hopefully the man will not leave her, if they would want to get married or choose to do so because of her condition, they should both want it and not just because of force and the situation. also let us hope the pregnancy is well if not then there is nothing we can do but accept the truth and just move on and learn from the consequence and mistake that has happened. if the pregnancy is ok, it is best to tell the parents, at first it might be hard and shocking for them but soon when they see the little angel everything will be different and will change for the better. god bless her.
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
12 Apr 13
dont worry she will be fine soon and she will find a good person soon and things will fall in place
12 Apr 13
Whatever happens is emotional error or human error or intentionally by the man but the consequence is reality and coming one is innocent. It is better to inform the parents and do the needful. Praying here is useless.
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
marriage is not an answer for her problem . what she needs are prayers and support . she should tell her parents immediately because all parents can never resist their children , they are also the most people that can help her through out her situation and can give her the support she needs .
@yugocean (8768)
• India
12 Apr 13
No age bar in love, there are several such cases age dose not matter in love but.... but having se* before marriage is not a right step in any case, your friend was on fault, she should know what is right or wrong, but she decided to go ahead without getting married. Now you and her friends have to make her get married to that man, the man will agree if he is not a cheater, now she must learn what to do before something important
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
12 Apr 13
She needs to tell her parents now. Im sure they can help and support here. Take care, lets hope shes ok.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
Honestly, it's really a shock. Delicate girls who are in love with their older partners end up pregnant. It's very common. I'm sorry to hear this about your friend. But she should have known better. Now she will have to deal with it. She's gotten herself into the situation herself. I hope this guy would take responsibility too. I don't really advise going out with older men. They are not that entirely better than the younger ones. Any guy who would get a girl pregnant before marriage is not a reliable guy regardless of their age.
• United States
12 Apr 13
I think is it crazy to make that girl marry that man all because she got pregnant. she is not even going to see that child grow up most likely. and she might figure out really she does not love that man.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
12 Apr 13
Hey elenaliu, i'm worried for your friensd as well. They are only together for two months. I think it's not a very good idea for them to get married. Does your friends really love this man? or are they together just for the fun of it. How old is your friend currently? Furthermore, if it is now a ectopic pregnancy, what does the doctor advise? i pray for her to be well.
@kenshin2143 (1882)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
That's a saddening experience there for such a young age and an unmarried person but if we look at it, its still a consequence of her actions. Lets just continue to pray for her health, her physical and emotional part.
@beta715 (57)
• Australia
12 Apr 13
Pray is helpless.She should do something to slove this problem. As time goes by, the baby will grow so fast in her body,and expecially, she is ectopic pregancy, which is very dangerous. The thing is I donot think that guy will marry with your friend. If he will take responsiblity on your friends,you may not hear the news in that way. My suggestion is that she should talk to her parents, who concern her the best. They will try their best to help and support her.From your side, do some thing that really help her, not just pray,if you really care and worry her!
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
12 Apr 13
I am sorry to hear that your friend got pregnant before marriage. I hope everything gets okay for you. My prayers are with her. May God bless her and show her the right path.