jealousy or being supportive on mylot? which one suits you? (+) power on mylot.

@scubapro (1051)
Gifu, Japan
April 12, 2013 2:39am CST
i was not here last 2 days, but i am getting online again for a long time in this week.why? because my friends or supportive people gave me many (+) and my ratings are getting better,so it motivate me to come here again. after i report the person to the mylot,i am getting better here, i totally understood that some people can give you many(-)without any reason or just because of jealousy. but why so serious? even we give many (+) to the people we dont loose anything here right we can be supportive and friendly here,i love and i know many people here love mylot so why dont we make here peaceful place,we can do it i dont say we must give (+) to everybody,but we should give (+) to the people who deserves it. i always give many (+) without being tired and with supportive feeling, because i think if i support people,they support me back do i think wrong? give me opinions about this please.
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@sylvia13 (1850)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
14 Apr 13
I think it's better to be supportive!
@leateagee (3667)
• China
14 Apr 13
. Let's support each other. Support me! And I will support you!
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
15 Apr 13
of course i will,i always do.
@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
14 Apr 13
totally right,i agree
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@Pegasus72 (1898)
14 Apr 13
I did not know there was a rating system here that we voted on, I thought it was something that mylot did.
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
14 Apr 13
. That is so nice of you scabupro to be encouraging people to be aware of the rating system. Pegasus72 you are an active member then. Now that you know, rate us.
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@Pegasus72 (1898)
14 Apr 13
No I have just gotten into using the site each day a little less then a month ago.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
14 Apr 13
really?? you Are really experienced user here,you didnt know. i am really surprised at it yes that (+) and (-) s are makes our rating better or worse. so they are imortant i think. thats why i gave you(+) now , peace
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@leateagee (3667)
• China
14 Apr 13
. I am so sorry they did that to you. I don't know if someone gave me a negative (-) rating. I have a good heart, I always give a positive (+) rating to the deserving discussions and replies too. With the little effort or support we could make someone life better.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
15 Apr 13
i can see it on your face, i am sure you give positive ratings like me peace
@leateagee (3667)
• China
21 Apr 13
making someone day is a good thing to do. Lifting someone's heart is not a heavy task. So why not do it right?
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• India
12 Apr 13
Welcome back friend Is there any way to know if some one gave you plus or minus? If i respond to a discussion or put a comment; i always give +, so far i have never given - to any one; if the discussion does not suit my temperament, i will not respond; why give a - at all.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
12 Apr 13
I also agree with Professor that it is good to give positive to everyone and not to give negative to anyone. I also try to give positive signs as far as possible and to help others to get more rating.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
12 Apr 13
of course you two are right,we cant understand but you cant feel it ;) at least ratings from your friends right ;) i dont know people give me or not,but i never forget to give (+) to the topics that i read and the responses under my discussions peace
@Hugsy25 (274)
• Canada
12 Apr 13
I think everyone should be supportive, unless there is someone just giving horrible rude responses that are uncalled for. I think from what I noticed so far everyone seems to get along fairly well here in Mylot. But I'm sure like everywhere else there will always be a few people who are only here to cause drama. I'm just happy that I haven't come across any yet. I'm really enjoying it here.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
12 Apr 13
i enjoy here too and rating system if its fair, actually its fair but some people try to break it,thats the thing makes me sad but i am ok now peace
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@Hugsy25 (274)
• Canada
12 Apr 13
glad you are okay now!
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
12 Apr 13
thanks my friend
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 13
It is good to hear that we have good friends here in MyLot. So far, I notice the mylotters here are friendly and helpful . And I think we should support one another here . I guess there would be no benefits of being jealousy . Happy Mylotting!
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
12 Apr 13
yes emily like you and me,you always support me,and believe me ,me too also support you it makes me happy appreciate
• India
15 Apr 13
Its my 2nd day on MyLot, and I already felt the negative vibes from few commentators..... People just want judge you on drop of a hat...
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
15 Apr 13
Some people rate your responses negatively just to be spiteful because they disagree with what you say. It is really sad that some people can be so immature.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
15 Apr 13
yeah i know,nothing to do anything about it. peace
@celticeagle (157563)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Apr 13
I think some people are just immature and if they see one person getting popular or having good responses they don't like it so they find fault. The only way they have of facing this is the (-). If this continues I would be thinking of taking people out of my list of friends.
@celticeagle (157563)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Apr 13
But you are seeing things through a more mature mind. Looking through a immature mind you may see things differently. If everyone would look at things more positively and maturely it would be easier to get along.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
15 Apr 13
yeah being mature is very important but not easy peace
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
13 Apr 13
yes exactly immature pople do that,feel childish and jealous but there is nothing to be jealous here. mylot says welcome to anybody so lets make it here heaven together. peace
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@JohnRok1 (2051)
13 Apr 13
When I remember, I try to give plusses to people I know have been unfairly minussed, especially those of whose views and/or lifestyles I disapprove. It's not the views themselves that should be marked, but the level of the contribution to the discussion.
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• Philippines
13 Apr 13
If you know you are not doing anything wrong you should not get too much affected with their comments. We cannot please everyone. Just don't mind those people. Like you just said there are a lot of good people here in mylot who knows what the (+) and (-) ratings are for. As for me, I really rate posts positive if I find it interesting or helpful or I had fun conversing with the other person. However, I also don't hesitate on giving a person a (-). That's because i only do it when I see that the person has been really really rude and offensive.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
13 Apr 13
same feelings my friend. i dont use negative rate,if they are not annoying or rude peace
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@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
Hey there, scuba. (your avatar still reminds me of ponyo) There were cases before stating that they have been abused by that - button given to them by members who hated them. I think mylot would notice this and would take care of the problem as soon as they can. as for me, I am only reminded of the + button if the respond really moved me or very informative(whether it disagrees or agrees with my point) I don't give + to everyone. It will always show that those with high ratings and stay atop truly deserve it. It doesn't mean we have to s-ck up to everyone for them to give us +, but we build our integrity and reputation here as a member who give reasonable, helpful, thought-provoking discussions or responses.
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@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
... do you really look like your avatar?
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
12 Apr 13
yeah thanks for the response you are also right my avatar is me ;) hugging everybody here with love
@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
13 Apr 13
i would like to,but i am man
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
12 Apr 13
Im glad you are here.. But I also think you put to much into the numbers here. Have a great day.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
13 Apr 13
ok,i respect to your comment i will try to forget these kinds of thing peace
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
Hi ! A friend or not in Mylot if she deserves a positive rating i always give it but i don't give negative rating unless the post is somewhat very dirty and does n't deserved to be posted in Mylot from my own point of view. Maybe some give negative rating , i don't know what they will be getting from it ! Purely jealousy indeed , a crab mentality. So sad for this kind of people.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
12 Apr 13
yeah i agree, and i also cant give (+) to some topics if they are so annoying but dont give minus neither peace
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
Yeah, you are right. We must support each other here. It would help a lot. It is just a little thing we can do and give to our fellow lotters and it is not our lose anyway if we could rate our fellow.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
13 Apr 13
yes supporting is very important here there is a peacefull and friendly media here so why dont we use,right
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
I do not mind giving out (+) to everyone as well. :D its been really great of a feeling when you are able to give out what you want others to give you as well and here in mylot a positive rating is a good one too. i remember when i have created a discussion, those who responded to me, those who took the time, i would give them plus ratings already even for the effort and that is how i showed my appreciation to them. :D
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
15 Apr 13
yes me too, i have never forgotten to give (+) to the people who responded my topics, its a must to me,i care them because they cared me, peace
@sonusd (1547)
• India
13 Apr 13
Dear scubapro, you are kind hearted person, when we give some one (+)we encourage that person to stay more active and when a person get active whole site will get active. What ever you are doing for the benefit of all and that can not be avoided. And Internet is a virtual world there should not be any kind of zealousness by seeing his/her improvement, rather asking them the secret of their growing so that we all can grow .
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
13 Apr 13
yes if we ask their secrets about their success they always answer i think,so why being jealous and serious i agree peace
@velvet53 (22528)
• Palisade, Colorado
13 Apr 13
I have never really read up on the rating part but I guess I should. I came to MyLot to have fun, meet new friends, and learn new things. To me that is the most important part of being here.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
13 Apr 13
yeah me too i love friendship here peace
@akp100 (13640)
• India
13 Apr 13
Hello.. Well, I think there is no meaning of '-' button here. If somebody is breaking the rule one can easily report the admin by pressing '!' button. But we have that so can't do anything. Personally I never use that '-' button. And I really don't understand the use of that button just because of jealousy !! I always used to give '+' button when I found someone's post helpful.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
13 Apr 13
akp100 thanks for the response,i also think same,minus button has no meaning maybe but sometimes we should use if the person is so annoying or irritating, but for jealousy we musnt use it peace
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
13 Apr 13
Hi scruba, I have been here going on two years this fall and I have been nothing but contented..The people here are very nice and was and still is very supportive to me and others...I've had only on issue here when I lost my cool because I was accused of something that was not true and the person here was way of target for the things she said and I just lost it...I don't even respond to anything of her's anymore...but neither do I rate it...But to be honest I just never remember to grade the post or responses...when I first started I never knew what that meant so I started withour rating so I never picked up on doing it everytime...I guess I can not be accused to giving a bad rate because I don't rate anyone....if I see a post I like I will respond if I don't like it I just skip it....I don't pay attention to all these number...I just really like this forum, now don't get me wrong, I like the cents but I just like interacting with the knowledgeable and experienced people here....See I think the rules and regulations are done by admin...so I am just here to mylot.... Have a wonderful weekend....
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@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
13 Apr 13
Thanks so much, I do try very hard to be honest and it really isn't difficult..This is a forum where you can be honest and those who give negative feedback you can just ignore them and continue to do what you are here to do...see I realize "you can't please all the people all the time"....my grandmother use to tell me that all the time... Have a good weekend...
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
13 Apr 13
at least you give honest answer,believe me i liked it many people hide their real opinions in the world in these days really apreciate
@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
13 Apr 13
of course we cant please all the people,its not normal and not possible i agree your grandmom is right peace
• Indonesia
25 Apr 13
I agree thoroughly with you. I love friendly people. And it's sure there are many friendly people in mylot. Yes, so why don't we start to give (+) to people who deserve it since we lose nothing by giving the positive reputation. I also like to be supportive and like supportive people as well.
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@scubapro (1051)
• Gifu, Japan
25 Apr 13
of course there is no reason not to give plus rating ,and also we can support people by that. peace