Do you regret about not apologizing?

India
April 12, 2013 10:03am CST
Hi friends,i was reading an article today that bullying can have lot of negative effects on people.I was not aware that bullying can lead to serious problems for the victim like Stammering,Suicidal tendencies and Depression.That reminded me of my college days when i used to bully lot of people,back then it used to be fun for me.I realize now that it was a pathetic thing to do and i would apologize to all those innocent people who got bullied by me,but i have no idea where those guys are now so i guess my chance for apologizing is over which i regret now.Do you regret doing something like that which you cannot repair now? were you a bully/got bullied like this?
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
I got bullied when I was in 5th grade. I would just cry every time these two 6th graders would come up to me and tell nasty things. After about a month of bullying, I just couldn't take it any longer so what I did was I went to their class adviser who happens to be also my teacher in History. I really cried while telling her what those two boys were always telling me. She warned both of them for expulsion. So, the two boys might have been scared by that, they stopped.
• India
13 Apr 13
Well its good that you had the courage to stand up against both of them.Generally people just endure such acts and these guys get encouragement.Acts of bullying should get should not go unpunished,one cannot play with people like that ,they are not toys.Thanks a lot for your response.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
I was actually more afraid of myself. Coz I might do something bad to them which I could regret later on. Good thing that I thought of telling it to our teacher. lol
• India
13 Apr 13
Even if you had something bad to them ,there is nothing wrong in that becuase its fair to bully the bullies
@allknowing (73126)
• India
13 Apr 13
Looking back I now know every situation that had an element of someone else bullying me would have been handled differently if I had the kind of maturity I have now.Those days, I would come home from work and cry on my husband's shoulder which as you know never helped solve the problem. I suffered no end during that time. But I also believe in nemesis which did arrive and those that bullied me got it good and proper.
• India
13 Apr 13
Well that is what bullies do to nice people ,they make you suffer because they know you will not get back at them.Its sad that you had to suffer like this.Actually when we live among-st good people and then after that at some point of time we have to face bunch of bullies ,that time we dont have the clue about how to tackle them.But like you correctly mentioned ,with experience you become more equipped to handle such situation.About nemesis, well bullies get away unharmed and unpunished most of the time,but its great that in few cases they get the taste of their own medicine.Thanks a lot for your response.
@allknowing (73126)
• India
13 Apr 13
Life, dubey, is a package deal and most of the content of the package is not seen by others which also contains a lot of stuff both good and bad. Those who have repented like in your case you will not be punished for the bullying that you say you have done.
• India
13 Apr 13
That's right we all have good and bad sides, but the bad side should not take over.Thanks for the kindness though,ive had pretty bad experiences in life ,although i am not sure that was my punishment but nevertheless i learned the lesson.
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
I was bullied during my 4th grade, when a friend, a janitor in our school who has a nephew as my classmate gave me $2 as my birthday gift. Two or three of my girl classmates knew and then told me nasty things, words that aren't really true, I didn't do anything but bowed down to my seat and cry and cry, I never fought for my right, I never stood up for myself and until now I am weak when it comes to confrontations, I would often cry to myself and hide somewhere no one will see me,. I don't like arguments, I am a mean one but I put it as a joke, and I don't know if people are hurt by me, but I do tell them that it's just a joke and if they knew me, really, they would understand that I don't really mean anything I say to them. I think I have depression, so I always want to be happy, like I don't have problems in front of everybody,.
• India
13 Apr 13
Hi KayeCee15 welcome yo Mylot, feeling bad for you that you had go through that bad experience.There are bullies everywhere and they hurt us more when they feel that we will not stood up against them.Once you start confronting such bullies ,life will be more happier than it is now,best wishes.
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
yeah. But I don't really mind people like that. It's just a waste of time and effort, I will not benefit anything if I fight back. They don't cross the line yet, and if they do, that's the time I will take a stand. =)
@Deepak2J (1179)
• Bhubaneswar, India
12 Apr 13
Some years ago I just disrespected too much my parents. Later I realized that I was wrong but out of fear and shame I didn't gave my apology to them.
• India
13 Apr 13
Its alright my friend ,its good that you realized you mistake. You can apologize anytime,its never late.Best wishes.
@Deepak2J (1179)
• Bhubaneswar, India
13 Apr 13
thanks
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
13 Apr 13
Hi, Sometimes we make fun of others and enjoy. But when we go through that situation we can realize how would someone feel by doing this. We should think before doin anything. because regret after doing is of no use. I also regret for something but it is of no use now. I feel very sad for that.
• India
13 Apr 13
You are right,we should introspect our behavior towards others by keeping ourselves in their position and thinking about how we would feel if someone did same behavior with us.This is a good method to lessen our mistakes.Thanks a lot for your response.
• India
13 Apr 13
I think that is our ego to not let to do apologize to others.. I was like that before never say sorry or apologize to my parents... later I changed and I became better to share my feeling each time about thanks or sorry or pardon me..
• India
13 Apr 13
Its very good to get mature with time,its very hard to tone down the ego though.There is no shame in accepting the mistakes and apologizing for them.That's the least we can do for people we have hurt by our actions.Thanks a lot for your response.
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 13
I really wish some of the bullies that tormented me so badly at school would apologize to me so I wouldn't still be carrying around all the hurts and mental scars that they caused me. Even as an adult, I was bullied, bullied at work and by my partner, no less, yes I was diagnozed with clinical depression, mainly because of the extent of the bullying in my past. I am little better now, and I am learning assertiveness skills, and to stand up to bullies. I refuse to be the victim and I am a survivor, yet I do cling onto karma that will pay the bullies back for what they put me through. The bullies went unpunished and I received NO apology from any of them.
• India
13 Apr 13
Feeling bad for you my friend that you had to face all this.Exact mentality of bullies is just to have few moments of fun at the expense of others which is pathetic thing to do.Now 6-7 years have passed since i graduated from my college and i have not bullied anyone since then,but still i feel ashamed of my past acts.I hope those bullies regret their acts and apologize to you some day.Best wishes.