My friend? Not? Yes?
April 13, 2013 4:31am CST
well, i'm so glad,,, no. i mean i'm really glad when i have new friend. it just, the first time when i come to my new class, i'm little nervous, scared didn't talk to anyone until they came to chatted with me. in my perception all of them are really kind people. they always helped me, and have done so many things for me. but when it came to did homework, or exams, tasks, they always clinging to me. well of course i helped them, they are my friends. but after all of the tasks, exams and homework have finished, they back to their selves only talk to me when they need. do you think they don't take an advantage to me? or it's just me who always get negative thinking for people kindness?
• Bangalore, India
13 Apr 13
Well, i understand what you are going through. The dilemma in which certain people leave you with is really hard to take it. I too have a few people around me who come to me when they need me to help them with something. They say that we are great friends and things like that. Once all is done, they get busy with their own lives. Sometimes, it is not that way. Not always people take advantage of your friendship and your goodness. In the fast moving world, we all always live with the present. When you start having a lot of things to do with people, they hang on with you, else they get busy with some one who has got something nice to do. People stick on to people mostly who can get them some entertainment. That is why they do not get time to speak to you when they do not have any work with you. It is in a way important to you also to make your friendship circle with care. Try to do some activities along with your friends so that they get to know the person who can do things other than the tasks. Then they will start sticking on to you also. May be they just don't know you as good as yet. Sometimes, there are people who in the name of friendship take advantage of the goodness of the people. For such people, I would say, if you think that person as a friend, do it without any complaint. May be he is using you, but for you, he'she is your friend. Expecting nothing happens only in true friendship. You don't expect and it is as simple as that. This is for only people whom you really think as a friend from your heart and you wont feel bad to do things for them.
14 Apr 13
in every relationship there has to be limitations. there was a day when i am tempted to post on facebook that you don't need to share everything. have something for yourself. in this way, you are to preserve something from you. that is a mystery to others. this is also what i want in every friendship. you don't need to do or share all things. but you can in most things. but not in all. you see, they will not or never learn the value of education if you are to do what they are asking. it would be nice to do some of it, but not all. just explain to them plainly...
14 Apr 13
hi, maybe your view looks some reasonable.but in my opinion,friends are some ones who can make you comfortable and help you in some key conditions.everyone has both merits and demerits.everyone thinks different from others.you just give your sincere heart to them,and they will return you.if you have not yet feel that,the problem is just the time.
• United States
13 Apr 13
I can't blame you if you feel cautious about meeting new people. Some people are not really trustworthy and it is but right for you to be wary of those who are just out to use you to your advantage. Anyway, by being overly cautious, you might also be missing out on some people who are genuinely nice and are really good friends. Just try to get acquainted with them, then see if they are someone whom you can be good friends with.
• Pune, India
13 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. some make friendship for only their advantage and after they want to even speak to you. This is very unfair. But we have to accept such friends. We can not say no to them when they are taking advantage of us. Such friends are taking advantage of your kindness.