Long Distance Love
By lizziegee
@lizziegee (297)
Philippines
April 13, 2013 10:31am CST
I never really believed in long distance relationships before. I always thought if you're going to spend some time apart because of some inevitable circumstances, then break up. If you're meant to be, you can just get back together when you're home. But things change. The tables turned and I am now in this kind of affair. We've been together for six years, the last one year we spent thousand of miles away. I miss him everyday. We cry together through Skype, but it helps that we both get strong to survive this situation. It's never easy, as I expected it to be, but I've realized that if you both work it out, things will fall into place.
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11 responses
@taiwanlife (746)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
Long distance relationship is not for me. "Been there, done that. It sucks." I was dating with my computer all the time. It was just not worth the energy to keep setting up a schedule to chat. But for some it works, like you. But better be together soon. Six years is way too long for a long distance relationship...
@taiwanlife (746)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
We were together for almost 8 years before I had to leave for another country too. We didn't get to see the light of the 9th year. It was all sorts of reasons why. I guess, that is why I had to leave and not had to get engaged before setting off overseas. Whatever each one's issues were, long distance was the major reason why the relationship had to end.
Just keep your heart and rationale balanced then. For some, it is a need to be in such a situation. Thus, both parties have that unbreakable strong will to keep it burning.:)
@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Yep, I know it doesn't work for everyone. The thing is, we've been together officially six years, but spent over one year apart. We were together for five years before he left for Riyadh. But I'm happy to say he's coming home next year. Can't wait! :)
@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
I share the same belief. I have not heard successful relationship which is in a long-distance situation. True, that the law of proximity can be the problem here because you are apart and there is always this presence of strong temptation.
@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
It could be hard, I admit there are times when paranoia eats me, but I try to be as optimistic as possible. All I can hold on to is the love and the faith. :)
@jingbautista (2456)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
having a long distance love is a way much better today than the other years. but again, the mere presence of your loved one beside you is totally different. you can feel the emotion, the excitement, and the depth of his or her feelings for you. not to mention the times when you need a hug, or a comforter, long distance love could not offer that much. but again, it is a case to case basis. it is on the lovers on how they are to fill each others absence.
@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
It is indeed a case to case basis. I've always been so pessimistic about such relationships, but it turned out to be the only choice we had for the sake of our kids. It helps to know that some people believes in it, because now I do. :)
@smtrego (181)
• United States
13 Apr 13
I am in a long distance relationship and it is tough at times. Mine is a little different though because we are married and he transferred to another states half way across the country.
I have the children here to help pass the time, but that also makes me a single parent most of the time.
Like I said it is hard at times, but if it's meant to be, it will work. Just have faith, hope, and love in your heart for one another.
It does not work for everyone and I wish our situation was different but we have our reasons for handling it this way.
Good luck and great love to both of you!!
@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Oh, we're actually pretty much the same. We're not married yet as the wedding is due next year, but we have kids too. We have two lovely daughters, and like you, my kids make it easier somehow. They're the main reasons we work this out because we know the kids are worth it. It can be really tough at times, but you're right. Faith, hope, and love will work this out. Good luck to you guys, too. :)
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
14 Apr 13
This has been a common topic to ask and i suppose it's about whether you guys trust each other but not the distance.There are examples that both got the trouble out and finally made it.So good luck to you and you guys can work it out.I know it's really hard to do and easy to say.
@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Thank you so much for the encouragement. This is all gonna be worth it, I know. :)
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
13 Apr 13
yes you can have love though all the mile I have just found the love of my live and i know soon we shall be together it has been hard for the both of us but we both talk every day and we to cry together
@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Happens a lot to us, too. But soon, we will reunite and relive the romance to make up for all the times we lost since we've been apart last year. Best of luck to you!
@nenyalorien (899)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
Hi there Lizzie,
I started out with my relationship as a long-distance thing. We had around 5 years spent as a long-distance couple, and for two years now, we've had more interactions with each other in real life, living in the same municipality.
It's really a test of one's fortitude and patience, but if it's worth it for both of you, and both of you are willing to wait for each other the whole way through, it's truly worth it. :)
Good luck to both of you!
@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Thank you for the good luck. I guess we really need that amidst all the trials this sitch brings. I just learn to be optimistic every day as I wait for the day he's gonna come home. It's nice to hear from someone who have survived this ordeal I'm in now. I know in my heart it will be worth it because we love each other so much.
@grvdubey11 (1879)
• India
13 Apr 13
Well that's very interesting.I too had the same idea that long distance relationships doesn't work.I had been in a long distance relationship ,it didn't work for me .Its great that its working for you,six years is a pretty long time,you guys are doing great together.Best wishes.
@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Thank you very much. You're right. Long distance relationships do not work with everyone. It can be pretty hard, but I would like to believe it's still possible. We just have to trust each other and hold on to the belief that one day, we will reunite and be together again.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
i have a boyfriend before who lives away from my place and has his work in that place.i met him when i have a staggering relationship with my boyfriend before meeting that far-away boyfriend of mine. my second boyfriend as i called it knew my stories about my love affairs with my ex. he made me happy (sigh) and when he went for a training, my ex came back to me. it was hard for me to forget this ex it was because he was a very kind person and that this second bf of mine is so far away and actually we never meet in personal yet. i mean, our relationship was being established through virtual like in phone, chat and even in uzzap. i know i love him and he does but still chose my first one. i gave way for a reason that i cannot explain. our relationship with my first boyfriend is getting finer but still i cannot deny that there were times when i can think of my second bf (haist)
@mithulamba (2)
• India
14 Apr 13
I believe in long relation or long distance love because its always true.
In this love, both girl and boy are waiting to touch each other to kiss each other and they always think about each others. they never lie to each other.
@RandomnessPrincessx3 (280)
• United States
13 Apr 13
I feel couples need to do what works for them, whether its to limit the distance or bare it. If love is true, long distance can work out. Best of luck in your relationship.
@lizziegee (297)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Thank you for the wish of luck. I guess it's true that couples need to do their best and do their roles into keeping the love alive despite the distance. It can be hard and trying most of the time, but love and patience will do the trick, especially when you both believe it'll be worth it. :)
