Got No Friends????
By bird123
@bird123 (10632)
United States
April 13, 2013 3:56pm CST
Let's work on that. Happiness is a Big Draw. Don't you just love being around Happy people? People happy and having fun draws us all because we all want that for ourselves. Step one: Be Happy! Generate fun and they will come to you.
Everything we do in life returns to us in time. If we give Unconditional Love and Kindness to the world, it will return. Think for a moment. Aren't you drawn toward loving and kind people?? Step two: Give Unconditional Love and Kindness to everyone you meet! Help those you can and encourage those you can't. They will come to you.
So often in life we want,we fight and fight, clawing and scratching our way to Get. Little do some realize we can get so much more by Giving and waiting for our goodness to return.
2 people like this
7 responses
@Hopefull90 (921)
• United States
13 Apr 13
I know what you mean. It is hard not to like the leader of Iran because he has a twinkle in his eye and a smile on his face all the time. If I get a twinkle in my eye or a smile on my face I have to consciously put it there unless someone is really making me smile or laugh. My husbands and his family always have a somber look on their face unless someone is really making them laugh.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
14 Apr 13
Think of all the joy you can bring into the world if you could keep that smile on your face. You never know when something as little as a friendly smile will make a big difference in someone's life. If one is in the habit of having a somber look, can't one also develop a habit of a happy, smiling look?? I'm working on mine. 
@Hopefull90 (921)
• United States
14 Apr 13
If it was just a habit I could break it but when one is born that way it is hard to change it as it would be to change my skin from pure white to tan like I would rather have.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
13 Apr 13
i really don't have much time or desire to be with any friends. i don't have many, but the one's i do have make me feel good. the less people you have around you the better and safer you will be.
@averygirl72 (37715)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
Same here. I used to have many friends but most of my friends turned very competitive that they always want to be on top of you. I can go easily with anybody provided we are good to each other. I just hate people who don't consider my rights and feelings.
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
14 Apr 13
If you are really happy , then you do not need any friend. happiness itself is the greatest friend anybody can have.
if you think that we would get no friends if we are unhappy and miserable, then you are mistaken. I am happy and I have got some unhappy and miserable friends. of course, my own happiness could work as an anti-dote on them because happiness is a strong power, infront of which unhappiness cannot last for log.
We also must remember that we should be who we are. If I am unhappy, then I should not force myself to be happy, freind or no friend.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
14 Apr 13
Yes,be who you are. On the other hand, happiness is no more than a choice since each chooses how they value things. Further, it has never been just about us. Interaction among other people is an important factor in the teaching and learning that happens among people. Diversity is so important in this. You, for example, where would your unhappy friends ever see daylight without you shining your light in their eyes? Point them in the right direction whether they hear or not. There will come a time when they will discover the answers and the answers need to be in the world.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
20 Apr 13
Hi bird: Thanks for your message. Some years ago I was more worried about having friends but as I grew up I realize that it's not thinking "I want to find friends" that you get them, but when you give the best of you. If you give love you'll find love instead of just searching for love, you have to love first. And don't wait anything from anyone. That's the key for not suffering.
ALVARO
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
14 Apr 13
Being in love with someone is lucky cuz you found the one to spend life with you.Well to love others is also a necessirty between people.Thanks for your tips and i think it works for all of us and nice to hear that.Overall,faith and genuine heart is so important,isn't it?lol
@laddiwaller (2)
• India
14 Apr 13
I have no friend and i feel very alone all time do not know why.
I use facebook sometime to find some good friends else i feel so boring through out the day.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
14 Apr 13
There is an entire world out there looking for help, love, and kindness. Make it about others. Serve their needs and they will serve yours. Busy people are not bored. Walk your neighborhood even in search for someone to help. Look around your world. It all waits for you. All you must do is Act!!
@jingbautista (2456)
• Philippines
14 Apr 13
yes, this is certainly true. unconditional love is what others need at the most. i myself can attest to this. i need it. i want it. i longed for it. you know what, there was a person in my life who started helping me. i consider her a friend. we were there in good times. she was there when there was peace. but then, at times of the bad times, she was not around. even asking and demanding me of her needs. to inform her most of the time. putting me in a box perhaps. but then, i still valued her. i was not able to live up to her expectations and hyped. she left me. i am contacting her and emailing her. but i received no response. for her, it was all over. but i am still hoping..
UNCONDITIONAL love you say? please practice it also. hehe.. 
there are people who needs it more that you ever think of.
there are people who needs it more that you ever think of. @bird123 (10632)
• United States
14 Apr 13
Yes, there are selfish people in the world. They do need selfless people around them to point them in the right direction.
So she won't answer your email. Maybe you need to out think her. Question: Do you say anything in your email that she wants to hear?? Get in the door first, then interact.
