I Don't want to be a YELLER! ABUSER! or DISRESPECTFUL! But Peoples makes me...??

@Tushavi (2077)
Karachi, Pakistan
April 15, 2013 5:54am CST
hi to all well, kind of sad discussion, I don't know why here peoples always not understands me, I study in ISLAMIC SCHOOL so here peoples expect me to be a Angle & not saying them anything even If they want to steals my money or anything, I am not a bully & fighter kind, nor I'm care about the other peoples life, its truth I'm jealous kind but its all because peoples insulting common peoples here by their emotions, not by their act but use some silent words, You calls me ANGRY YOUNG MEN, who want to change everyone, but in last I know its not possible, I know its very bad to be a disrespectful to your elders specially your aunt/uncle/mom/dad but sometimes, they enforce a things that is totally not acceptable by me, Now you have 2 options 1 option is say NO TO THEM (its called disrespectful) the 2nd option is Accept & follow (99% I am in trouble after following them) the last option left is to open fight, so all know you are bully & yeller & already disrespectful so no one expect anything from you??? I guess you feels I am mad or what?? but I write the real condition of me here, what you say about it guys I don't want to be a BULLY! YELLER! ABUSER! & FIGHTER! But peoples makes me??? have a nice day
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9 responses
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
24 Apr 13
There is no need to be disrespectful, even when the other is disrespectful. There are any people nowadays who talk about Islam with disrespect, but if muslims also respond to them disrespectfully, then there will be no difference between muslims and those persons. When we respect a person even when he is disrespectful, then there is every possibility that he will feel ashamed of his behavior and he will begin showing respect.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
16 Apr 13
You are not alone with having this go on in your life. I am similar to you in that I am the kind of person that wants to be kind to everyone and it is something that sometimes doesn't work in my favor because of the fact that my children do have a tendency to take advantage of my kindness. That said, in the world there are going to be people that do rub us the wrong way and when we encounter those kinds of people in our life, that will be the moment at which we will end up losing our temper.
@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
15 Apr 13
Everyone here has some very good advice! And I also want to add, don't let unintelligent people get to you! Be confident in who you are and in your intelligence! Because that's all you need to deflect anything bad, people say to you!
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
15 Apr 13
You can disagree with someone and not be a yeller, bully, or abuser. It's called self control and something sadly lacking in the world today. Control your temper and close your mouth to angry words. Tell them you disagree with them, tell them why, and then either discuss it if they are willing or walk away. Getting angry does not solve anything. Controlling yourself shows that you do respect your elders even if you don't agree with them. In fact, if you can learn to control your temper and other emotions, you will advance in every way--in business, in your personal life, in matters of love. And you will win the respect of your elders and others who are important.
@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
15 Apr 13
You also don't want to be pushed around and bullied, especially when you're in the right. You need to sit down to talk with your elders. Let them hear your position and you hear theirs. Among all of you, perhaps a solution can be reached.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
I think bullying, yelling, abusing and fighting is bad. Just take time to widen your temper and control it as much as you can. You can save fights if you do that. You are well educated than them so just act as one
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
15 Apr 13
The fact is, you can't please everyone. You are who you are and no one can play your role and we all have our flows that may not be the liking of others. Since we are in a global community we have to respect the community at large. Don't take words or views from others too personal as they are but individual views that may not be universally acceptable.
@dpmathur (55)
• India
15 Apr 13
i am suggesting you a simple and sweet idea, just ignore them. some people views and idea sucks.dont care about them. i am not asking you to go and take revenge by fighting them. just avoid them.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
15 Apr 13
No need for that.. just talk to those people who bother you in a good way. Might be better than getting upset at them or at yourself. Take care have a great day there.