Do you believe we choose to fall in love?

United States
April 15, 2013 12:25pm CST
Some say Love is a choice? Do you? Me? I'm new to the game. I know I didn't plan to fall in love but I did fall. the only true choice I remember making is finally saying "I Love You". The rest? I'm not sure there was any choice. what do you think?Do we choose to fall in love?
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@Zer0Stats (1147)
• India
15 Apr 13
You never choose the feelings,they just happen..
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• United States
15 Apr 13
I agree the feeling happen but don't we decide to express them?
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• United States
15 Apr 13
By the grace of G-d, my guy was in love with me Way before I fell for him. He waited and waited! I know what you are talking about the risk. It happened with my ex. Once We said the words, he disappeared. That is why it took a long time for me to say those three words again! But but my guy was and still is worth the wait.
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@Zer0Stats (1147)
• India
15 Apr 13
Yes you just need to express your feelings,it shows him that your confident.The worst thing that could happen is that he'd tell he just wants to be friends.Nothing wrong with that..
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@Yunara (12)
• United States
15 Apr 13
We do not choose to fall in love that way we could choose what to have for lunch. We do however, open ourselves up to the possibility. We expose our hearts, expose personal aspects of ourselves in hopes that they will understand. So while we do not technically choose we always seem to expose ourselves to the "risk" of falling in love.
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• United States
15 Apr 13
Thanks. I understand!
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@dawnald (85129)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Apr 13
Not so sure about that one. I would have chosen to fall back in love with R, it would have seemed so much easier than divorcing and moving and all that, but conditions were not right (ie his temper, among other things). I think if conditions are right, ie all our needs are being met, we can choose to. But is that what causes the love to happen, not sure.
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• United States
15 Apr 13
All I know is that when I was ready , I turned to find a kind , loving and definitely patient man waiting for me! I agree it is easy to stay when all your needs are met.
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
26 Apr 13
No, there is no possible way to choose to fall in love. It just happens. But like I have said once before, most of the time we fall in lust, not love. We get fooled thinking e are in love. But the real deal is a totally different feeling that those lusting feelings. We cannot choose who to fall in love with. It chooses us.
• United States
26 Apr 13
I have always been able to tell the difference between lust and love. Lust is fleeting! True love is eternal!
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• United States
26 Apr 13
Yes. It is like coming home from a long , lonely journey. That is as close as i can get to describe.
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
26 Apr 13
I have also, but it can fool people into thinking they are in love. Some of the feelings are the same. And like I said, you know when it is the right person. There is no other feeling quite like it. It is like an inborn feeling, something comfortable about it.
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16 Apr 13
I believe falling in love is a matter of fate and cannot always be controlled because our heart has a " mind of it's own " and doesn't always like to listen to what our head tells it. Happy mylotting!
• India
15 Apr 13
we dont choose to fall in love. . we fall in love without even knowing:-) and its the best feeling
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• United States
15 Apr 13
Not for me. Falling for my guy scared me. I Knew he was going to leave. The best time is now, 3 years in. I Now know how much he loves me.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
26 Apr 13
I think most probably people do fall in love with personality of people. I am not sure about more details of love and fall in love and choose to fall in love. I think most probably it might be right.
@AmbiePam (84628)
• United States
15 Apr 13
I think we choose to fall in love. I think we can't help who we are attracted to, because that's kind of instant. Love however, I think is a choice. I sure wish I had my own guy right now because I could really use a hug. This Boston thing is so depressing.
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• United States
18 Apr 13
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
16 Apr 13
Hello Sarah I´m so happy for you. We can tell our mind of whom to become in love. But we can´t control true love when it embraces our whole being: mind, soul and body. I think that you did what you had to do: express it! Blessings Sarah... dainy
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• United States
18 Apr 13
Thank you.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Apr 13
Hi behen Yes, 99% of the love happens because we choose. I mean, the kind of love you are talking of, happens naturally, but the choices are limited by our preferences. We all know what traits we need in our partner and that makes us find and confine our choices to the people with such traits. I mean, if you look at it, it is something lke we selecting a friend.
• United States
18 Apr 13
Yes. Friendship should come before love.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
17 Apr 13
To some extent we choose to love,while we don't know whether we can make it when we facing someone that we really fall in love.I meet the right guy and i get to know him,to try show my best side to him and probably love is so different from like.You know it exactly.
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@lifes97 (884)
• United Arab Emirates
16 Apr 13
i believe we do not really have idea to whom you will like but you do have over whom you love, love is not a day its a situation and attitudes, so its process, so you sure decide your process and with any person you are spending your day.
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