Dominating partner.

@roshigo58 (4871)
Pune, India
April 17, 2013 5:39am CST
Hi, My sister is very dominating. She always think that she is always right and everyone in the family should listen to her. In my family no one is dominating. We take decisions together by discussing and understanding each others views. What about you? Who is dominating partner in your family?
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@Pegasus72 (1901)
27 Apr 13
I like to be right but know that I am not always right and can take criticism as long as it isn't given meanly.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
28 Apr 13
Hi, No one is perfect. As you said we can not be always right and so we have to accept criticism. Thank you for the response.
@Pegasus72 (1901)
28 Apr 13
You are welcome. Sadly I am a perfectionist at heart.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
28 Apr 13
Hi, It is very nice that you are perfectionist.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
17 Apr 13
In our house responsibilities are clearly demarcated and my husband ensures that smooth operation takes place . However, we do have a few dominating people at home and my husband handles them. He is totally non-interfering but quite assertive where his house is concerned. But, I know a few dominating people who want everything their way and think their planning and organizing is the best. As allknowing has pointed out, it is quite irritating.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
17 Apr 13
Hi, Dominating behavior is very irritating. For spending life peacefully everyone listen to such people. thank you for the response.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
17 Apr 13
And such bullies get more and more dominating because noone stands up and defies them.
@allknowing (69422)
• India
17 Apr 13
That is the point kala. It takes effort to assert oneself and so most of the time peace is bought!
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
It's my dad who holds the budget and decides where the money goes and how it is used. My parents think they are always right and don't like listening to me when I try to correct them. It's a typical family, I've got.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
18 Apr 13
Hi, When I was a child, my father decides everything in our house. I ahve to obey the orders of my parents. But now in my family we take into consideration the opinions of my son also. Thank you for the response.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
That's a good family practice ^_^ Keep it up!
@celticeagle (119857)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Apr 13
I am the dominant one in our family. I think that my granddaughter and I don't get along very well because she is also dominating. My poor daughter is not at all dominant.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
18 Apr 13
Hi, It means your daughter has to listen to you and her daughter. She must be very adjustable and quiet and calm in nature. thank you for the response.
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@celticeagle (119857)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Apr 13
Yes, she is. She is a Libra too. The balancing act.
@allknowing (69422)
• India
17 Apr 13
We too have had such an individual in our life. Everything would have worked well if others asserted themselves in the absence of which it made matters easy for this individual creating havoc around. We now have another individual from the younger generation doing the same thing and here again lack of assertion is giving her an upper hand.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
17 Apr 13
Hi, Thus you have two dominating persons in your life. It must be very difficult for you to handle with such people. Thank you for the response.
@allknowing (69422)
• India
17 Apr 13
We all live independent lives. They have no say on important issues but they are irritants all the same.
@sylvia13 (1851)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
22 Apr 13
Dominating partner, sister, daughter, they might all be dominating, but I love them anyway, as that is their personality and the way they are!
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
22 Apr 13
Hi, It is very nice that you love dominating personalities. Most of the people don't like these people. thank you for the response.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
20 Apr 13
Both in my childhood family and in my marriage, the male was always the dominate one. Now that my husband is older and frequently needs my help, our roles are beginning to change somewhat.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
20 Apr 13
Hi, In the old age we need each others help so the positions get changed. In our country also most of the families are male oriented Males are given importance in the families. In joint families older male is dominant and others have to listen his orders. They don't have right to tell their opinions. Ours is a nuclear family. So there is no dominant person in our family. Thank you for the response.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
19 Apr 13
In my relationship with my husband, I really don't feel like either of us is the dominant partner. There are some things that I will take charge of and there are other things that he will take charge of. However when it comes to the major decisions that have to be made for our family or our household, those are decisions that we will work on together. Now with my brother and his wife, I never thought that my brother would be subsurviant, but it is clear to me that his wife is the one that is the most dominant in their relationship and there are a lot of times that my brother's voice is not heard at all.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
19 Apr 13
Hi, It is very nice that you and your husband take decisions together when it comes to the major decisions. In your brother's case your brother's wife is dominant. Your brother doesn't want to oppose to his wife. It is better to keep quiet than fighting with each other. thank you for the response.
• United States
18 Apr 13
It's good that your family is done that way. In ours my sol says this is how it's going to be. I'm not married to him so I ignore him when I've heard more than enough.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
19 Apr 13
Hi, You are doing right thing. It is better to ignore such people when they are dominating. Thank you for the response.
@cgalavia (1405)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
Have a dominating partner is not really good.Parents should discussed together what is good for the family.In my family, no one is dominating,we take part in all decisions we have to go through.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
19 Apr 13
Hi, It is very nice that there is no one dominating in your family. Taking decisions together makes our family relations healthy. Thank you for the response.
@lelin1123 (15644)
• Puerto Rico
18 Apr 13
My family is like yours we discuss and decide together. My husband does not dominate nor do I him. I have a younger sister is dominates her household. She is the boss and my brother-in-law says it to everyone. Yes, he says "my wife is the boss what she says goes." He believes if the wife is happy the household will be happy. I think he is a pushover myself and I know I wouldn't tolerate this type of behavior.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
19 Apr 13
Hi, Your sister's husband is very nice. He tolerates her bossing and try to keep your sister happy. Thank you for the response.
@grvdubey11 (1882)
• India
18 Apr 13
People becoming dominating when people let them dominate.This happens when there are either nice people in your contact, like in this case you and your siblings or when you are surrounded with lot of people who are lesser in ability than you and you can control them.In this particular case like you mentioned, your sister had nice people with her who avoid the controversial situations and adjust accordingly,hence this thing must have become habitual for her.Now about dominating person in my family,well my grandmother was dominating she is not in this world now.Then one of my aunts had dominating nature but when she tried dominating we confronted her strongly and she was singled out,she never repeated that again.The same method might work on your sister too.Best wishes.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
18 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. My sister has nice family and so she is surrounded by the people who are ready for adjustments. No one wants to oppose her so she is habitual of forcing others to listen her. Thank you for the response.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
My partner is a bit domineering compared to me. With this kind of personality we sometimes end up fighting. But sometimes, I am just too tired to argue. I just let him talk all by himself and leave the room.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
18 Apr 13
Hi, Your partner is dominating. So it is better to leave the room to him than fighting with each other. Thank you for the response.
@namiya (1599)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
In our home I think it's my daughter. I have two son's eldest and youngest and she is in between. She always takes a stand in every issue but it doesn't mean that she demands everyone to bow down. It is only that her ideas seems to be the most effective one most of the time.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
18 Apr 13
H, It is very nice that your daughter always comes forward to take the important decisions in your house. There should be someone in our house who can take the responsibility of the house. Your daughter has the ideas to solve the problems or can think effectively. So there is nothing wrong in listening her. thank you for the response.
@Deepak2J (1179)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Apr 13
No oneis dominating in our family. But my sister ,who is younger to me, always gets very angry, when we don't listens to her.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
18 Apr 13
Hi, It is very nice that there is no one in your family who is dominating. Younger siblings are always become angry when no one listen to them. Thank you for the response.
• Singapore
18 Apr 13
My elder brother is dominating but he moved out after marriage. We didn't mind it though as he always has our concerns at heart and most of what he says really ought to be done.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
18 Apr 13
Hi, It is very nice that you were obeying your elder brother. Thank you for the response.
@berting600 (3458)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
I have also experienced that before,that is because I am still very young and almost most of my relative dominated whoever is younger than them,yet I am not dominating either one of my younger siblings before.I think that depends on what you believe is the best things you should do with your relatives and friends alike. I believe in the consequences of anything you do before has a receprocal effects in your life in the future,so better do good into others,so that you have a good life in the future to come.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
18 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. We have to face consequences of our behavior with others. So we should be nice to everyone. We should understand each other feelings. thank you for the response.
• India
18 Apr 13
Dominating the word comes to family only if we do not understand each other. If one person wants to dominate in an issue leave it in his/her way. If the result is positive then do not take it has domination. Think as she helped in your issue. At the same she also should realise if her decision goes in a wrong way. The mutual understanding between every person will never face the issue of domination.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
18 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. When the results are positive then we don't have to worry about dominance of a person. But some importance should be given to the others opinions. there should be mutual understanding in the members of the family. Thank you for the response.
@cherigucchi (4866)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
No one dominates the family. Every one is each his own person that sometimes make each other clash most of the time. It is kinda complicated especially now that both our parents are gone and no one stands as the head of the family.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
18 Apr 13
Hi, Sometimes when no one dominates the family there are some clashes among the members of the family. Then it becomes very difficult to take the decision. There should be good understanding among them. Your parents are gone so there is no head and no experienced person. There should be someone to guide you. Thank you for the response.
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
in every family there is one who is dominated we cant deny the fact that in a tree one of its fruits is not totally grown well. but this kind of act should not be tolerated anymore...
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
18 Apr 13
Hi, you are right. It is very difficult to tolerate the dominance of one person in family and others don't have importance. thank you for the response.