she didn't stop calling and texting....

@Cutie18f (9563)
Philippines
April 17, 2013 2:46pm CST
So this is a continuation of the invitation to dinner I got from a friend who was recruiting me to be an insurance agent. Well, I honestly forgot about the dinner and of course missed it. I thought that was the end of it, but no, this morning, I got another call from her to attend the lunch which was at a famous hotel in our place. Well, I was in the middle of work so I gave her the usual answer of "I will see if I can go." And she told me that it's a whole-day affair. What? What will happen to my work? I have tutors and a workshop to handle. This is one thing wrong with this company. It requires so much time from you. If I give them all my time, like be present for every occasion or event they have, then I will be neglecting my own business. I would be spending days sitting, listening to their lectures and earning nothing. To earn, I would have to do many things, and in the meantime, I need to survive. I cannot invest too much of my time with this company or else I will be losing my own source of income. Can't they see that? Being too active with them, attending their lectures and events wouldn't give me money yet. I need to have real income. I am sorry, but I have to reject all their invitations or else. Then the last message I got from her was a text telling me that she already has my contracting kit and where can she deliver it. How can she be so positive that I would like to be part of the company which is not giving me anything? She added that I shouldn't quit because she is sure that I will be successful in this. Well, I know, but will they give me money for sitting there for hours? No. An hour of tutoring will give me real income, but a day of sitting and listening to their lectures will give me nothing. I still have to rely of a "future" income which I am not even sure if it is coming.
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8 responses
• India
22 Apr 13
Thanks for this discussion, i have not seen your discussion, my wife worked as an insurance agent in 1980, the supervisor persuaded her to become agent, she could do some business but as per advise of supervisor she paid the premiums from her pocket, she was told she will get 35% as commission and this first premium could be adjusted, but she never got.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
Thanks Professor for this piece of information. Now I am the more convinced not to join it.
@pals101 (2011)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
You have to understand, I think its her job to convince you to come. Maybe his boss is telling her that you should attend the seminars or else she may not have an income or bonus or reward. Something like that could possibly be the reason why she does not stop asking you. The best way is to be frank with her and tell her the truth about you can't possibly leave your work, maybe she can understand this. And hopefully you can find time or schedule it where you are available to attend the session.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
I don't think I have that much time. I have already attended and spent two days listening to their lectures for nothing.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
Just take it easy and be firm with that person. Maybe she is positive because she will benefit if you join that business thing. If you are not busy, you can go and if not, don't force yourself. You can always ignore her texts if you are sure you won't be able to go or better yet, tell her what time you are available so she will know where to put you or she'll be able to find a suitable schedule for you. those you don't respect your time are not really reliable. I think that business is risky and suspicious. Keep your eyes and ears open. Don't be pressured to join something you are not sure about.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
I am definitely out of it already. Today I received another text message informing me of their activities---like I'm interested.
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
If you're sure you don't want any part of their company, just respectfully turn them down. Don't go around the bush saying "I'll see if I can go". That's giving false hopes to them and more headaches to you.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
Yeah, I just have to say it straight next time.
@emily7339 (1339)
• Malaysia
18 Apr 13
This is the way those insurance agents getting their downlines. So, it is better for you to let them know your decision or else they will keep coming to you with no ending . Being an insurance agent is a lucrative business provided you have the time and are willing to work real hard for the intial few years as there are targets to be met anually . And from time to time they would require you to pay for a fee to attend their allocated number of courses each year and it is compulsory .
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
Oh my. I don't have the time for that.
@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
17 Apr 13
Well, if there is something I know about insurance agents, is that they never take no the first time as a deterrent to get what they want. That's their job, they're trained and motivated to do it like that. I think you should tell her straight if you really don't want to pursue a career with them any longer. Be straight and firm about it. Giving her some little glimpse of hope, no matter how small it is, will make her hope that she can still get you to join her.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
I just wasn't firm enough probably in refusing her. I should do it better the next time. I cannot, and will not be able to attend any of their events because I have my own business to manage.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 13
She sounds extremely pushy and over-confident to me, two traits that would actually put me off and have me running, running in the opposite direction! You have to do what's best for you, not what she thinks best for you. After all you cannot live on thin air, time is, as they say, money, if they ain't paying you, there's no reason to give them any more time. I hope she gets the message, somehow, judging by what you have already said, I think not!
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
Yes, Wolfie, she is really quite pushy. Obviously, she got pushed also by her superiors, but I am already determined not to waste any more time with them. I have already wasted like two or three straight days listening to their lectures and all for nothing. They give you lunch and snacks but those are not the only things we need in life and I have other beings to think about.
@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
17 Apr 13
"i'll see if i can go" is not a negative answer. you're telling her that you are going to do something so you can go. why don't you tell her straight that you are not interested? if you are not frank with her, she will keep on calling and sending SMS to you.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
I thought I already told her that. I told her all the negative things I don't like about the company and I have even given her my recruit.