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Philippines
April 19, 2013 2:33am CST
I have just deleted a friend here in mylot. Why did I delete her? Because she makes a lot of discussions. As in A LOT OF DISCUSSIONS. Discussions which she never even reply to when people respond. Normally, I would just let it pass since I have the option which discussions to read but I am in no mood for being nice this time. I am waiting for an email from my employers and guess what, my inbox is flooded with notifications of her discussions. FLOODED. Now, I know you think, I could set the notifications off, right? But then again, why would I do that just because of one person. Thus, I let her go. I did not delete her on impulse, mind you. First, I deleted my inbox messages, waited a few minutes, browsed through mylot, discussed with myself whether I should do it or not. ...then I finally did it. How uncool am I.
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16 responses
• United States
19 Apr 13
That might have been the best thing for you. nothing wrong with that at all. I have over 3000 messagesin my box and I look forward to my friends posts every night around 8 when I open my box. I wish one of my friends would post like me I woudl have the time of my life with them. take care dear.
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• Philippines
19 Apr 13
Wow, 3000 messages in you inbox! I would not know how I'd manage that! I guess you have auto rule in your messages. Now that I mention it, how I wish gmail or yahoo have auto rules.
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• United States
19 Apr 13
I have a pattern that I follow most of the time. I go to my gmail box at 8 at night and I only respond back to my friends.. in the morning I come her and respond back to people who responded to me. after that I make all the posts i want til a certain time in the afternoon. then after that I go to another pattern and complete my day. you would never want me in your friends list. so far I been up all night I already made about 30 posts. just look and you will see. I wish you luck take care.
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• Philippines
19 Apr 13
30 posts! how do you ever come up with all the ideas!
@Mavic123456 (7910)
• Thailand
20 Apr 13
I did that but not turned notification off. I observed that I just kept on deleting their posts (Actually there were two friends that I have) Yes, it doesn't make sense if I added this person in my friend's list when I have lost interest in their posts. You just didn't know how much I had been loyal to their posts... only their are not loyal to their own posts too I am not sure if they skipped on my response or they don't comment at all. Who cares anyway, I earned already from that response. However, the notifications that they created such number of posts a day spam my inbox and I need to go to page 3 or page 4 to other important mails. It was a relieved however after deleting them in my friend's list..yepeeeeeeeeeeee
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• Philippines
20 Apr 13
I feel that I might miss other's discussions because all I see is her discussion! And I don't want to keep on taking my time just disposing her notifications. Thanks!
• Thailand
20 Apr 13
and to top all those dilemma the discussion is all about "whatever". all stories about his/her family and even the dog of the neighbor and the cat of the person living 10 blocks away. as if you know everyone in her/his life already. I mean no offense here..just stating the facts.
@pals101 (2011)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
I can feel you are very annoy about these emails. I sometimes do, so many notifications about discussion created, I think they focus more on creating discussions rather than replying or commenting on it. I guess they believe its much easier to earn here if you have many discussions.
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• Philippines
19 Apr 13
I'm not usually annoyed at this notifications. It just got me on a bad time. Thanks pals!
@pals101 (2011)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
I hope your bad time is finally over now. Hopefully you will not get irritated by these so many notifications..
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
I don't usually post discussions because i know my self that i can't manage well my posted discussion i can't exchange idea, i usually reply to the post when i have time, i am to busy with my work to focus on what i'm posted on mylot. Everyday i received lots of email from mylot regarding the discussion posted of my friends here in mylot, good thing for me, i don't need to browse which post to be reply, my priority is to reply first their post then when i finish replying to there post, i usually check the no response post, i don't want to see a posted discussion that has no response, i'm trying my best and use my extra time to reply those post. Its all in us on how to handle things, we to things which is good for us. Maybe deleting your friend is good for you, so i guess you did the right thing. But how does it feel when same thing happens to you? I think we should not expect things from other person or our friends because we don't know what is happening to them or what's their status.
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• Philippines
20 Apr 13
hello jonastabuena, I don't think I will even notice if a friend deletes me from his or her list. I don't memorize all my friends. But I do memorize some friends here. Those whom I have been exchanging discussions with. If those friends delete me, I think I would know but I also think that it will take time before I notice.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
19 Apr 13
Hi girl_thinking Of course there are other ways to block mails and notifications from such friends, but I too would delete such a "friend" who posts and posts and NEVER returns back on discussions. I am around for discussions and if you do not want a discussion, I have no obligation to read your blog entries. That is what has been my rule and this is why I dont make friends that easily. If you remember, your FR too waited fr around a month before I accepted you as a friend here - and that is my normal rule for almost all
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
Hey thesids, long time since we last exchanged words! Unlike you, I accept a friend request immediately because I thought the more discussions I would read from different people, the better for me to find my interest.
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
19 Apr 13
I wonder why people do make so many discussions. Most of the time people who do so are just making up something. also it's seldom a real discussion, just some king of message (copied from elsewhere). I don't know if there is always a need to answer each reply, it's kind of useless too just to say: oooh or thanks or? BTW I also have plenty of questions placed at a discussion but seldom get an answer. Not really a reason for me to delete a friend. I think these friends are just there to find their interests/discussion easier.
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• Philippines
19 Apr 13
I don't know if it is just me or whether everybody feels the same. I seldom find discussions which interest me but it doesn't keep me from responding every now and them but to say a discussion which really kept me going back. So very seldom.
@cherigucchi (3904)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
We are all free to do what preferences we want when it comes to that. I can see how annoyed you have been. I do really admire also people here in myLot who have so many responses and discussions which at times I found some not really interesting and with no quality. Sorry if I am quite too frank. sometimes I also feel like doing what you do but I chose not to be annoyed and just go on with what I am doing. God bless.
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
hi cherigucchi, thanks for your thoughts. Though I think I will not be able to choose my reactions.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
20 Apr 13
Yes, that is uncool. But what the hell, it had already done , it can't be undone. You can't turn back this time, the worst case scenario is you lost a username in your friend list, your number of friend drop one digit. She must taught that you love to have lot and lot of notification filling your inbox coming from a friend here, she make a wrong assumption on you. Sigh!
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@cynthiann (18572)
• Jamaica
19 Apr 13
If the person has not proven themself to be a friend and is so rude as to not answer when people have taken the time to respond to their posts - then yes. turn off the notifier or delete. The person has behaved inappropriately towards you. Some people just ask for friendship just so that people will respond to their posts.
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@sishy7 (25632)
• Australia
19 Apr 13
You do know you can turn the notification off for just that one person, don't you?
@pals101 (2011)
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
I don't know about that? How can we do that?
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@sishy7 (25632)
• Australia
19 Apr 13
Go here and choose which friend you want to have as 'notify is off' http://www.mylot.com/nr/friends.aspx?t=0
• Philippines
19 Apr 13
Awww.. I did not know that!!!! Dang! That's what I should have done! Hey, thanks sishy!
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@cylle_06 (233)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
you're not uncool. in short, ur cool..hahaha.. so she becomes your ex now..as in x-friend..hahaha...and you did the right thing..oh well, maybe she's just so desperate to earn..that's why...
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
hey thanks! haha! I don't mean to be rude to her or anything. I just want to keep my inbox free of "spam" messages. I don't think I'm her loss anyway. She should be fine!
@cylle_06 (233)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
i know that..haha...you'll really be pissed of what she was doing...if i'm in your positions, i would probably do the same.. :D
@cutepenguin (6458)
• Canada
20 Apr 13
I do end up with a lot of email in my inbox that is about discussions people have started. The odd thing, I find, is that I don't think I get notified about every one, just a lot of them, and it seems to always be the same few people. I kind of ignore it and then my email inbox fills up.
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
Wow. Good for you. I am too sometimes not in a nice feeling if my inbox is flooded with those nonsense discussions. I haven't tried deleting a friend, maybe I have to consider it now just like what you did.
@lsjapdoit (652)
• Indonesia
20 Apr 13
You are just exercising your freedom of choice. We all have it and that's cool :)
@mariaperalta (19097)
• Mexico
20 Apr 13
Isnt making discussions here, part of the way the site runs? I didnt know we had a limit as to how many we could or should post.
@Kathy1981 (157)
• United States
20 Apr 13
You should always do what you think is best for you and what you beleive in. Good for you in beleiving what you think is right and doing just that.