Really good friend who's a girl is much hotter than I thought, what to do?

Australia
April 19, 2013 8:18pm CST
This semester at uni I've been hanging out with this really awesome chick. She's just an absolute legend, so easy to talk to. At uni she never really dresses up and I thought I would just friend zone her because she wasn't that hot and she's such a good friend. Although I saw her in a club last week and she was like ten times hotter than I thought she was. She was like a different person. That night she was flirting with me a bit but I didn't make a move because I wasn't sure if it would make it awkward or not. Anyway were meeting up next week somewhere in the city, what do I do? I don't want to ruin the friendship but at the same time she is super hot and possible girlfriend material.
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• Sri Lanka
31 Aug 15
You live with her as a friend when she live as a friend.You live with her as a hottest boy when she live as hotter
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
23 Apr 13
Make up your mind--would you want her to be just a good friend or would you want that friendship go to the next level? Be aware of her body language and how she speaks to you. You'd feel if she is really into you or if she would just want to be a pal.
• Norway
21 Apr 13
I think that you have to search in your self and be sure about your feelings first. The main reasons here are that you in the first place did not think of beeing anything else than a friend until you saw her dress up. And starting a relationship based on apperance is just so wrong. Such relationships don't last. If try now to be her boyfriend and then finds out that this is'nt working out just becuse she's not that hot when she's not dressed up then you would definetly ruin the good friendship you have now. My tip: Be patient and work your own feelings first before taking any measures.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
21 Apr 13
Hi Crusoe! You only have to be yourself. Act normal like the way you acted when you thought she wasn't hot. She is probably eyeing on you as boyfriend material but don't be pushy. Like what you said, you might ruin everything. I suggest that you keep on with the friend zone mode until something else comes up.Just be ready for any twists and turns of events. Life isn't perfect.
@arpazia (191)
• United States
20 Apr 13
Sorry to say this, That sounds really shallow! What will you do or think when she isn't dressed up and not that hot? If you want to go for it go for it, just be upfront with her.
• United States
20 Apr 13
If you only want to be with her because you only think she's hott dressed up, stop. You friend zoned her for being herself. If she isn't girlfriend material as herself than the relationship will fail before it starts. You sound vain, you only want a girlfriend based on appearence.
• United States
20 Apr 13
Be confident in your self. Just take it slow. Be positive she wants you to.
@Frederick42 (2019)
• Canada
20 Apr 13
Hot girls are unique in their own way. However, it is true that many guys are feeling nervous to approach such hot girls. Perhaps some girls only pretend to be hot in order to make guys nervous. Perhaps they like it when men feel nervous; that gives them an edge of superiority. One should approach the really hot girls with care and caution. It is difficult to know them well. They are mysterious and strange. Guys wish to know them, but wise guys understand that there is no way of knowing them.
@Kathy1981 (157)
• United States
20 Apr 13
The best thing to do is to always be yourself with girls. They like it when you are not putting on a front. Be yourself always!!!!!
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
20 Apr 13
you say you only wanted to hook up with her when she dressed up? that's not a good enough reason to want to be with her. she is not going to be dressed up all the time. will you still want to be with her on days she is dressed down? i say leave the friendship alone and don't tamper with it. just stay friends.