Regret after helping someone.!

India
April 21, 2013 11:36pm CST
Yesterday myself and three other friends were having dinner together, one of my friends who is a Police Officer got a call that one of our close friend needs help as her sister is getting beaten by her boyfriend.We immediately went to the place where that idiot was misbehaving with our friend and her sister.We tried to stop him but he was drunk and attacked us too.So my friend called his colleagues from Police station and they took the violent guy in,he got released after sometime though because the girl didn't file any complaint.Just now all four of is got the mail from the girl who was victim that she hates all of us ,god will punish us for interfering in her life and for''harassing'' and ''bullying'' her boyfriend.She also wrote that her sister is a B***H as she called us.Now i cant understand that how her sister is a B***H ,what would you do if some drunk idiot knocks on your door at 10 Pm at night and stars beating your sister,obviously you will call your close friends for help.I regret helping that stupid girl although i went to help my friend as she called us.Did you had any experiences like this where you had to regret after helping someone?
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7 responses
• Serbia
22 Apr 13
If there were no children involved. I assume there were none because if there were kids i would tell you that you should have beaten the life out of both of them, because of what they are putting the kid through. And she also wasnt any one of youse sister. Because if the phone call comes in and its your sister, or one of your friends sisters. That's it, the brother truns off and goes to handle the situation, and his friends follow, or not. Naturally. Since she was just a sister of a close friend, i say you should not have gotten involved. I mean i understand that you kindof had to do something because of your friend who requested that you come. But not call the police and all that. You should of went, calmed down the bully for a minute. Talked to the girl and ask her what does she want you to do. She would have told you call the pigs, don't call the pigs, kick him out of the house, beat the life out of him (of course in this case, youd have to tell her that you wont go to jail over this, so pigs will be necessary), so whatever would have brought the situation to an end would have been her choice, and that gets you "off the hook" for any blame you might be getting the next day. Like you are getting it now. Stupid pathetic little girl. She wants to stay in an abusive relationship. Let her. I hope he keeps on beating her every day! Stupid stupid stupid. Just tell her to NEVER have chrildren. To do her children a favor first, and to do the rest of us a favor second. There's enough such people on earth, we need no more...
• India
22 Apr 13
It seems you haven't correctly read the discussion starter, these guys got a call because one of them was a police man. So it was like close friend who is in police service. This AOL was drunk and he attacked these guys as well and rest of the story you know... But my advice is, still they've got a chance, they should beat the sh!t out of that bastd, this will be called reactive beating. Had they have screwed his happiness then it would have been proactive beating. Summary is, when you get a chance to handle such AOL, you should not miss the chance. All you need is to smash his tool with a baseball bat, that's it, it'll make sure their future will be good. It's the tool because of that this problem is there.
• Serbia
22 Apr 13
I did read it correctly. So what if he is a police man? Does it give him special priviliges? What does he want a medal? What i mean to say is, if she had called a friend who is in the Army, would that make it like she called the military? No it would not... Unless she really called the military, on their military drone killing phones :P The fact of the matter is that the friend, called friends. The friend did not dial 911 = the police. If she had dialed the cops, differend story.
• Serbia
22 Apr 13
And the oink oink was out with friends. If he was on duty, it would also be the differend story. It's like if i was a piggy (god forbid). And a friend in trouble called for pig help. Id have to differentiate in some way, by asking the friend, whether the friend wants me to come as a pig with 5-10 other guinea pigs and arrest everybody i feel like. Or come as a friend and deal with the situation Rightfuly. There is an enormous difference between Lawfuly and Rightfuly. It's like a difference between a Doctor and a Healer. The Lawfuly means to destroy your life, in most cases. The Doctor means to make business, keep you sick so that you keep going back and keep buying toxic pharmaceutical chemicals. The Rightfuly means to do the Right thing, be Righteous. The Healer means to Heal you, make you well so that you may live a long, healthy and happy life with no health concerns. The lines are thin, but they are there...
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
23 Apr 13
I would ignore this girl. She is foolish if she does not appreciate that you helped her from being abused by her boyfriend. You know what...if I were you, I'd ignore it and even if I got another call..I'd do it again and let her btch and hate on me. Domestic violence is not ok and if she chooses to be in that situation so be it. If I know of it then I am going to do all I can to stop it and I really don't care what anyone has to say on it.
• India
23 Apr 13
You are right, she does not deserve the help.There is no limit to human stupidity,she is facing violent treatment by her boyfriend and she calls us bullies.Normally i do not interfere at all in matter of others,just because my close friend was involved i went there to help her.Some people does not deserve help,life teaches them the lessons then ,the hard way.Thanks a lot for your response.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
24 Apr 13
You misunderstand me. She does deserve the help and it is sad that she doesn't appreciate it. She is very lucky to have you for a friend. What I meant was that you should ignore her and interfere each and every time you witness the abuse and ignore her insults toward you. She deserves your help but maybe not your friendship.
@dollar3235 (2063)
• India
22 Apr 13
Hi Gaurav, I can relate to your situation, I know how it feels, I was in a worse condition as compared to yours. Last year, for four months my life was upside down because of something like this and at the end something similar to your situation happened. I was stunned, it took me 3-4 months to get back to normal but now I know b****s are b****s..you shouldn't help them, you leave them like that, so that they can die day by day and they have an inbuilt firmware that forces them to get screwed by b****ds. My Suggestion: Now that she has said that you were bullying and harassing that b***d, you should now take him to a better place and kick his a$$ nicely, trust me you'll feel good. Personal experience.
• India
22 Apr 13
Hi bro, feeling bad that you had to go thorough even worse experience. Actually the thing is no matter how experienced we are its very difficult to detect such people.I went to help my close friend,i am satisfied that at-least she is grateful for it.As for the stupid girl and her drunk owner i would love to do what you suggested but for my friend i had to bear this.Anyways i can make out what you must have done to the idiots involved here, Bhandara as we call it in our desi langauge, haha
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• Singapore
22 Apr 13
My advice is not to feel bad about this, you helped to the best you could and if it isn't appreciated, it is fine as you have acted out of the goodness of your heart. You have still made the world a better place simply with your selfless thought and action in helping, regardless of outcome.
• India
22 Apr 13
Thanks a for the kind appreciation.Since the close friend was involved we had to help her when she asked for it.However we didnt expect thank-you and all that but still a hate mail for all that is bit too much.Anyways there are stupid people and we cant help it.Thanks a lot for your response.
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
22 Apr 13
i haven't experienced helping someone and regretting afterwards. i didn't know that the victims need to file charges in violations of the criminal law. i thought that this is only needed on civil cases. i was thinking that it's between the state and the violating citizen so even if the victim doesn't file a case as long as the police officers witnessed the crime, it becomes their duty to arrest and prosecute the offending person. obviously i am wrong...
• India
22 Apr 13
Since she was victim in this case, she was the prime witness. In-front of the Police she cried and requested that that guy is her life and all that.That is why they let them go with a warning.I am not sure about how things should have gone by the law,may be they could have acted on their own.I don't think you are wrong, that is what normally happens ,i mean what you described about prosecuting a offender.Thanks a lot for your response.
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@emily7339 (1339)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 13
I am sorry for you to be in that situation after lending a helping hand to the victim . I have not been in that scenario before. However, once beaten twice shy. So, I believe you will know what to do when such thing happens again . The girl seems to be not thankful with the helps given. I believe she chose to be in that condition and will surely learn the hard way. That is her liberty to do so .
• India
22 Apr 13
You are very nice human being so i wish that you dont get stuck in any such scenario.Its like wrestling with the pig.The girl is extremely stupid,people dont get help even if they ask for it like thousand times,and this is what she mails to people who actually helped her.Icing on the cake is she is abusing her sister too.Thanks a lot for your response.
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• United States
22 Apr 13
Yes, I have had the experience of helping a friend and then regretting it because they didn't appreciate the help. What you experienced is common with domestic abuse victims. They will stay in an abusive relationship until they are ready to leave, and resent people trying to help them.
• India
22 Apr 13
I didn't experience any case of abusive relationships before, i had been into relationships and some ended on really very bad note but still there was no abuse involved.So i was not aware that there people act like the girl did in most cases.Her mail came as a shock for me.Anyways you got it right ,she was totally supporting him ,called her sister a B***H and all of us bullies.Sometimes we get stuck in such situations with idiots and then e regret later.Thanks a lot for your response.
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