Day 3 Without a Car. Feel like a Prisoner

@cynthiann (18635)
Jamaica
April 24, 2013 5:04pm CST
Monday morning, my mechanic took my car and diagnosed a blown head gasket (and no, I have no idea what this is) and it should have come back Monday evening but it wasn't ready. As he was driving back to me yesterday he received a call from the daughter who told him about my brakes failing last week as I went across an intersection and the truck just missed me? Did I tell you about that? So he took it back to the garage and decided to check everything out. He did call and said he wasn't happy re car brakes but I would get it back today. So I get a call from daughter a while ago, saying something about rotary thingies and sludge in engine. Seems to get worse all the time. Thank God my daughter is paying this cost. I am plucking up courage to call him as he has probably found something else wrong with it. Meantime, I feel like a prisoner in my house. I am so glad that I stopped at a convenience store and bought stuff I needed on Sunday so plenty of food is in the house. I am just used to getting out and doing my thing. I was able to check on my part time job though and organise that from house. It is not good being without a car is it?
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@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
27 Apr 13
There seems to be alot of things wrong with the car. Are you sure these people working on it are legimate people. They wouldn't by any chance see a female bringing in the car and try to take advantage of you?? I hate when mechanics do this. They do it to females and the elderly. I would not be taking everything they say at face value. I would have someone that knows about cars check it out before they do the added work.
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@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
27 Apr 13
No the mechanic is highly qualified and he works on my son's car too. He is kind of a family friend and although he will charge my daughter for the parts he bought In know that he will give a mega discount on the charge for labour. My daughter taught his child tears ago and he needed so much extra attention not to be classified as slow and my daughter gave his child so much one on one teaching for a couple of years so that he eventually grasped the concepts and made headway
@emily7339 (1340)
• Malaysia
25 Apr 13
Car repairing is very costly here. I am glad that your daughter help to pay the cost of repair for you . Yeah, it is true that without a car it is very inconvenient. I can't get to places where I want to go as it is not possible to walk there.
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@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
I really need to get to the bank today and do some washng - need detergent I will call him at 9am for an update
@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
24 Apr 13
Oh tell me about it, I live a good 3 plus miles from town and no car for I don't know how long, at least a good 10 years or more. In a way it is good, because if I had my own car, once my husband's car has a problem, he'd take mine instead of fixing his.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
24 Apr 13
I couldn't cope. I say that but I did cope when I wass in the same position when we lived on the farm years ago. It was not good
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• United States
24 Apr 13
It isn't too bad, like I recently told another member, I have a lake in my backyard for swimming and fishing and I have two neighbor's who are walking distance that I can visit, plus my 10 y/o and his friend's keep the place hopping sometimes. And I do get out on weekends and sometimes for special trips I am taking this Sunday meeting a classmate who has a book I need for one of my summer classes. So I do have things to look forward to and enjoy..
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
Now the lake would make a big difference to me too. It sounds wonderful
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@GardenGerty (90217)
• Marion, Kansas
24 Apr 13
I am glad your daughter is paying for this as well, as those are expensive repairs. I threw a timing belt and scored pistons and blew a headgasket doing 70 on a freeway a few years back. The car was never the same after that. I think it is much better that your car stay with the mechanic until it is all better.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
So expensive? Then I am glad that she is apying for it too. But guilty as she is saving to build her own home But yes, it has to be done
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@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
Sorry for typo
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@GardenGerty (90217)
• Marion, Kansas
25 Apr 13
Hubby points out to me that expense is relative and some of it depends on the mechanic as well. Of course a mechanic you deal with often will be less expensive than a dealership for any repair
@lilybug (21182)
• United States
24 Apr 13
Oh I HATE it when my car is out of commission! Where I am working right now is only about 2 miles from the house, so if I absolutely HAD to I could walk to work. Or take the bus a good portion of the way to work. The bus drops off in front of my work, but the stop to get on is about 4 blocks. As he was driving back to me yesterday he received a call from the daughter who told him about my brakes failing last week as I went across an intersection and the truck just missed me? Did I tell you about that? Ummm....NO you did not tell us!!
@lilybug (21182)
• United States
24 Apr 13
P.S. I sent you a friend request on FB.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
I didn't tell you! You my first friend on Mylot? Slaps right hand using left hand Wails: But I tell you everything Okay - of course I will accept but I am rubbish on FB too
@lilybug (21182)
• United States
25 Apr 13
If nothing else you can keep better tabs on me. LOL I don't post too much on myLot lately.
@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
24 Apr 13
I don't have a car at all. It really sucks sometimes, but I don't ever let it stop me from doing things. I walk where I need to, and it's good exercise. I do walks across town. It's about 3 miles one way to walmart from where I live, I mean it could be worse I could live in a bigger city, but that's still a lot if you have to be anywhere in a hurry. I walk to the park. I have walked about everywhere in my town. I have family that will give me rides if I need it, but I hate relying on them. I try to avoid asking for anything if I can. We just can't afford a car right now, hoping to get one next year. I guess it's a matter of perspective. It's good to have a car to get places you really need to go, but it also sucks to rely on a car to have to take you places if you have two perfectly good feet and legs that work. I mean think about people who can't walk. They would love to be able to walk anywhere. I try to look at it from that perspective walk where you can drive when you have to.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
24 Apr 13
I have to explain that I live in Jamaica in the hills and a long way from the nearest town. I cannot walk to town - physically after open heart surgery, I just cannot do it. Couldn't do it if I was fit either becaue of the hills. My part time njob is 30 mins drive from my house too so haven't been able to go but that is okay as guests are not in the Villa. I do hope that you get one next year and it is great that you live near the town so you are self reliant. Healthy too
@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
25 Apr 13
Yeah, I'm lucky where I live is very flat. We went to see my Boyfriends family in Pittsburgh Pennsylvania and it has so many hills I wasn't used to that. My boyfriend said he did a lot of walking when he lived there. I could probably deal with the hills some, but I don't imagine you would be able to get as far as fast. It helps that I do live in town. If you don't live near anything you pretty much need a car. I lived in a town like that when I was younger it was out in the middle of no where and we didn't have much in town. No gas station or grocery store. All we had was a park, a post office, a church, and a school. As I said though walk where you can. If you can't walk it then you obviously need a car. That's the biggest reason I wouldn't want to live in the country.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
I'm hoping to get it tomorrow as I will need it to get to the bank. I don't like to go to the bank on a Friday as it is so crowded
@RitterSport (2452)
• Germany
26 Apr 13
Dear Cynthie, hope you get your car back soon and it runs like new then. I can relate, as I dont have a drivers license and no car but my husband has both..... so when he was in hospital for quite some time now I had to do all the errands walking and the shops are at least 25 minutes to walk to, plus I had to walk to the station and back in the evening, same distance of around half an hour as well.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
26 Apr 13
I did not learn to drive un til my husband became sick and I was in my forties. I had attempted to learn on and off but it was not really necesary as he would drive me or get a driver to drive me wherever I wanted to go. To be honest - he did not want me to drive and subtly did everything to deter me. Then I realised that if he became sick at night as we had no phone on the farm (too rural)then he could not get to hospital. So I learnt. Please take lessons and do not let your husband teach you. Get that license for both comfort and freedom to do what you want. You deserve it
• Germany
26 Apr 13
hi dear cynthiann, I tried to get that drivers license in my early 20s when I started working and thought I should do like all others do. It was money thrown out of the window as I have some problems with my sight. I cant really estimate how wide and long the car is. Years later I found out that my sight field of the left eye is not intact, part of it is missing and no one could explain to me why this is so.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
27 Apr 13
Oh I am so sorry - that would give you so mnay problems in seeing to drive.
@allknowing (55139)
• India
25 Apr 13
You guys out there are frozen without your vehicle. I saw that when I was holidaying there. I was frozen too as I had to wait for my hosts to get back from work to take me out. Here in India we have a superb public transport system.
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
but why do i see pictures of trains covered with people?
@allknowing (55139)
• India
25 Apr 13
They have choices. They can avoid the crowd if they wish to. We have taxis, autos, and buses that ply not just on highways but also on roads that run through towns.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
That is amazing. There are plenty of taxis in the towns but not many in the hills.
@katsmeow1213 (28837)
• United States
24 Apr 13
Is that the shocking thing you didn't want to talk about? Sounds super scary! I went probably 5 years without a car of my own. After hubby left his job as a manager of a pizza place, he went 8 weeks without a job. We had 2 cars at the time, but they both got repossessed. His parents gave us a car, but we only had the 1. I would drive him to and from work when I needed it.. but since that was such a pain, most days I just stayed home. Then we had more kids and we couldn't fit all the kids in the car in order for me to take him to and from work. My oldest was only 9 years old, but sometimes I had to leave him home alone so I could take my husband to and from work if the kids had a doctor's appointment or something like that.. although I tried to make these for hubby's day off because I didn't feel my son was ready to stay home alone. At one point during all of this my husband was transferred an hour and half away so I could not drive him to and from work and could not have a car. Thankfully at that point we lived within walking distance of the bank, convenience store, post office, and library so most everything I needed was right there. When we finally could afford to get a 2nd car I was so excited, I was out all the time for the first few months just because I could be! Of course we still sometimes have days where we're down a car or 2 because of repairs or whatever.. at least it's easier to deal with now because I'm used to having a car and don't mind being home a couple days.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
24 Apr 13
Isn't it amazing when we look back and see what we went through? I often think of my life on the farm without a telephone and sometimes so hard to pick up a television signal. No the truck thing was scary but the other thing involves a man of all things. A GF just called me but I don't need her to buy anything as it is only me and I have all that I need. Just annoying as I am not really a stay at home person.
• United States
25 Apr 13
I am, so I don't mind it at all. I really want to know this story now.. were you hurt at all? Please tell me you weren't!
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
Not physically hurt. I will post as it is in me and I cannot tell my family or any GF's
@bounce58 (17550)
• Canada
26 Apr 13
There's a strip mall literally two blocks away from where I live. In this strip mall is a Wal-Mart, and two other small groceries. There's plenty of small restaurants and fast food chains within the area too! Around the strip mall, and around the many housing complex here are a few small parks. Some are for children with activity areas, some are for pets to run around, and a couple of big wide spaces adjacent to schools for people to play football/soccer or baseball (and some basketball courts too). I work just a few blocks away too. It would only take me a couple of minutes when I drive in the morning to get to work. With the proximity of all of these from where I live, I still feel helpless without a car. Maybe with the summer coming up, I wouldn't need the car as much. Oh where art though, my bike?
@bounce58 (17550)
• Canada
26 Apr 13
darn! thou, not though!
@hereandthere (23031)
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
if you lived outside of town, yes, it's frustrating. it's the same way in my parent's hometown. when my cousin visited with her family they brought their own transport. good thing because while she was there, she was able to drive our aunt to the hospital who needed to have something looked at. what kinds of public transport do most people use there?
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
We are rural - in the hills above our local town. Most people take taxis but they are so overcrowded and there is no schedule as to when they arrive or depart. If you drive then you tend to give a drive to someone who is walking. The cities do have public buses etc and on the main roads throughout the country but we are off the beaten track. But is is cooler where I live
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
overcrowding happens here, too, both in the cities and the provinces. actually, there are many types of transport here that i haven't ridden myself.
@scubapro (1058)
• Gifu, Japan
24 Apr 13
i can understand your situation,its hard to you because you got used to driving it. but believe me i am so happy that i cant drive in turkey now. when i was in japan i was going to everywhere by car.but now without car i can walk,i can feel the air better.and i jog every morning. of course cars are really important in our life but sometimes throwing them away and doing some sports is also great. peace
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
24 Apr 13
I live in the hills outside of town so cannot walk to anywhere that I want to go to. Very difficult for me. Too old to jog dear, but I do walk in the cool of the mornings - well - sometimes
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@scubapro (1058)
• Gifu, Japan
26 Apr 13
sorry,i didnt notice. peace
@artemeis (4007)
• China
27 Apr 13
It is a love and hate relationship for me here. Love it that I can go anywhere I like at the instant of my decision. Comfort where I can adjust my seat and feel the nice cushy feeling. Most of all, hygiene where it beats most of the taxis that ply the road. Hate it, when I need to look for parking. Inconsiderate drivers and pedestrians who seems to think that they own the roads. The visits to the workshop for the tuning which is needed if I do not want it to fail me when I need it. Like another baby who doesn't speak to you literally.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
27 Apr 13
You write so well I cannot decide if you are a doctor, lawyer, scientist or journalist. Yep! I cannot do without my big old piece of c*ap that is my baby
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
It must be a lot of inconvenience on your part without your car. It is so easy to go places, to work and do things when you have your own vehicle. I hope it's okay now.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
NO, not ready yet and it is day 4. I have hopes that it will come back today though.Just have to wait an hour before I call
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
25 Apr 13
Ugh, I hate being without a car. I just had a ton of work done to my car a couple of weeks ago and went 3 and a half days without one. Lucky for me, I live within walking distance to most shops and whatnot. I do work out of town though and so when it came time for me to return to work, the mechanic was kind enough to loan me one of his cars. Leave it to a mechanic to have a vehicle with the engine light on and an empty tank of gas! Hope you get your car back today and no further problems come up.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
Your comment about the mechanic is so true. And when my car comes back from being repaired I know that the gas tank will be empty and I will have to coast down the nhill to the nearest gas station to fill up. I hope to get it back today too as I really need to get to the bank and do shopping plus check on staff at my part time job. I just can't take another day of this
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
25 Apr 13
No being without a car is awful.We really do start to feel like prisoners in our own home. We can easily take for granted having a car, being able to go here and there as we please until something happens. I'm hoping that we will be able to get another vehicle soon because right now we are down to one and my husband has to drive that to work and so that leaves me without a car all day until late in the evening.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
It's an awful feeling ecause I cannot move! Need to get out today - shopping and bank
@AmbiePam (45808)
• United States
25 Apr 13
I wish my dad were there. He could get the work done on your car for half the price. In half the time. I'm thankful I have a dad who is not only mechanically inclined, but has mechanic friends! I am also glad to hear you won't be footing the bill. The times my dad has been without a car has driven him nuts. He'll call me and tell me he didn't want to ask, but could I come over so he could borrow my car? And the answer is always yes, of course. He cannot stand to be sitting still for more than a day. Before we were able to put my mom in daycare, if I was too sick to help he would get cabin fever.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
There rarely is a day pass that I don't go somewhere - even close by to visit my GF who has cancer. She lives in the same gated community where I live. I wish he was here too I feel gulty about the daughter paying for it all but I just can't do it at present
• United States
25 Apr 13
No, it's not good. When one is in a rural area, being without a car makes things nearly impossible. Been there; done that. Even when you are in an area that isn't rural and has a bit more transportation options available, it's still a pain. Personally, I am far too attached to having our own car to be able to cope for long with taxis or other options.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
I am the same. I just want to get in and turn a key and hear it come alive and set off. Feel dislocated and weird
@bunnybon7 (32555)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Apr 13
oh you poor girl. it is terrible. cause if you need something really bad, you have to do without it.or call family or a friend. i know. havent been able to drive now for about 4 yrs. worry that if i did i would have one of my dizzy or fainting spells and kill some other poor soul. i sure hope you get it back soon. is there no way you could afford a better one? but then you have so much money spent on this one that you probably could have.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
No, we cannot afford a better one as my children are in such debt over my surgeries in the U.K. last year. Mega, mega debt. I just have to keep going. Sorry that you are unable to drive though.
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
24 Apr 13
I bet thats bad. Sorry to hear that. We really dont need cars here. As taxis are very cheap like a dollar. But I know in las vegas was hard with out a car. o I know how you feel.
@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
Not good. Spent a lot of time online but I am rubbish at earning really