When was the Last Time?

Philippines
April 24, 2013 8:58pm CST
my youngest daughter would usually rush down from our room every time she gets up to give me that warm morning hug. today, she lifted up her arms and gave me that gesture that she used to give months back, wanting me to carry her to the garage for a bye-bye kiss to her off to work dad. she's a bit chubby and my arms seemed no longer that strong to carry her a bit longer [hehe, signs of aging?] not that she's heavier now than years or months back...but the sweet thought that growing up years are really fast. then i suddenly thought to myself, until when would she sweetly ask me to give her a lift? until when could i give-in to such request? oh, i would always hope to maximize the time that my family could enjoy me. ...feel the same way too moms/dads out there? ...and what about you, younger ones, when was the last time you've made your mom/dad feel that they are the very first persons you wanted to see each waking morning?
7 responses
@sissy15 (5689)
• United States
25 Apr 13
I often think about this with my son. He always wants hugs and cuddles, and sometimes I'm busy and tell him in a minute. Then I stop and realize eventually he is going to be too big or not want me to give him hugs and cuddles like he does now. It's a sad fact of life. Our kids grow up and no longer want that public display of affection. I think I just need to slow down and enjoy my son while he is still so little. They grow up way too soon. You know what they say you aren't going to remember what your home looked like whether it was a mess or not. You will remember all of the love though. I think sometimes I need to just stop and enjoy him being little instead of being busy and telling him to wait a minute. He just wants held or read to. I mean it's not going to hurt to put off things for a few minutes. I guess it's just perspective. Enjoy our babies while they are still babies. I just need to remind myself to enjoy this time while I still can for they grow up all too soon.
• Philippines
26 Apr 13
hello sissy15! very true! we may at times more busy with chores, wanting to be all organized -- for the sake of the kids. but you're right, we really need to maximize quality time with our kids more importantly because they will never be kids forever :)ProfGail
@sissy15 (5689)
• United States
27 Apr 13
I don't know that I would say organized, but clean...ish lol. I have a 2 yr old the second I clean anything it's a mess again. I'm really hoping what they say is true, because I really don't want to remember my home being a mess.
@bintang9 (196)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 13
Talking about my children, makes my tear felt down. They are apart of us (my daughter and me). They are living out of town with their dad ,since three years ago. I always remember early in the morning I used to make a glass of chocolate and fried rice for them. Now, who prepared them the breakfast? One thing that entertained me is when they send me sms or BBM (Blackberry messenger) and say to me ," I love you mom, I miss you. Wish me luck....." May God bless them
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
...oohhh, quite sad about it, "bintang9" :( moms would as much as possible do certain things for the kids, right? but in situations such as yours, you're right, it's at least a consolation that your daughter misses you. Better still, the best we could serve them each morning even in our absence are our prayers, where we claim "may everything be well with them" even if we aren't by their side. :(ProfGail
@bintang9 (196)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 13
absolutely right. Our prayers especially as mother will be the strength of them. God will always on their side giving help. (Oiya, I mean my two sons now are living with their dad, while my daughter is living with me. We are separated in different town since I divorced with my husband three years ago). God bless you friend....
@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
25 Apr 13
my son is already 23 years old and he has baby of his own. however, i will always think of him as my baby. he is my only child. he gave a new meaning and purpose to my life. i fondly cherish memories of his growing up and sometimes i long to be able to re-live these moments again. moms will always be like this.
• Philippines
26 Apr 13
hi dagami! so true! moms will always cherish those moments. and in your case, now that your son has his baby, you can still grab the opportunity which you wanted not to end :)
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
How sweet, i have a nephew that every time he sees me, he wants to play with me, since i live in other place, he is so talkative, he has a lot of story to tell with me, i visit to their house, we usually sleep late in the morning, i'm just the listener and he is the story teller, and he is just 5 years old. I miss my nephew.
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
hi jonastabuena, thank you for your response! your nephew is lucky finding a listener in you! i sure bet, your nephew misses you too! :)))
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
Lucky me, my son is only two years old that's why he always greets me in the morning with his megawatt smile and say "Morning"and then kiss me . If he's in the mood, he would even give me a hug! Honestly, I would want him to stay a baby forever! lol but then, as early as now Im teaching him to be expressive and we are really close so I hope that he'd still give me hugs and kisses even if he already is 40!
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
hi watchamacallitz! thank you for your response. lucky for you really that you were able to develop that habit in your two y/o son. continue guiding him to be expressive and keep up that closeness for him to bring it up until he grows older. that becomes a legacy that he would pass on when it's already his turn to be a dad :)ProfGail
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
25 Apr 13
I miss that feeling already. Ever since I grew up, I felt like I need less and less my mom and dad around me. I rather be free to do whatever I want, and not my mom around me nagging about what I should do or not. But when I think it over, she just loves me, worrying me, and concerning me. Sometimes I let my mom and dad down, and I really want to say sorry. Until now, in my heart, I still love them both.
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
hi kingparker, thank you for your response :) it's always a nice feeling that the young do miss that feeling. sad thing is, if there's nothing to miss because we havent really experienced those things during our childhood. lucky for you that you have that feeling to miss :) i suggest, go grab the opportunity to say sorry for letting them down. let that love out :)
@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
My baby is now 9 years old and doesn't want to be called a baby anymore. He no longer sits on my lap like he used to when he wants to talk or show me something. He's acting like a young adult, wanting to grow up fast. I want him to slow down because i'm not yet ready to be a grandma. What i love about my son though is he still tells me he loves me.
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
hi toniganzon :) thank you for your response. it's actually good if your son keeps on telling you he loves you! if you can notice that he's starting to be a little bit matured in his gestures, i guess it's good that you support him on that. 'just dont give up guiding him to healthier thoughts; but i think it's not yet time to give him that notion that just because he is striving to be matured in his gestures already means that he is already on his way to some petty relationships that would make you a young "grandma" :))))