Was NIce Meeting you!Moving to another table.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@Hatley (164743)
Garden Grove, California
April 25, 2013 3:28pm CST
Not sure how I feel right now. Shocked, puzzled, amused. I now wonder if some way Steve had learned of my new discussion about him and his fussing about orange juice.He told me he just thought its good to see new faces and that he had enjoyed being a table mate. Okay maybe thats all and I am not to blame. .I just feel a bit shocked and hope he is not angry at me for something. As far as I know he doesn't have a computer but if he did and found that discussion oh my Gosh.I still think this is kind of sudden but the man is not anything to me but a friend and co resident.But I wonder mow if people dislike me because I do not talk a mile a minute. I guess I do feel a tad pissed off but I see a new name tag so some woman is going to be in his place.Maybe she will be easy to talk to..
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@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
25 Apr 13
I would ask him why he is switching tables, oh well maybe this new woman will be nice, and talk with you, and can relate more.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
o I am too angry with himas he could have told me why and he did not so to hell with him. The lad woh was o take his place had decided not to come to Gold Crest . Alicia the table mate that sits beside me is good enough company let them leave this tabjle alone as I say to hell with them all. am tired of whing people. Steve told me he wanted to see new faces so let him. He has only one person another man, i BET THIS OTHER MAN IS ALSO a football buff for football stats. GOOD RIDDANCE OF BAD RUBBISH
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
26 Apr 13
I guess eating with the same people an get tiring, and you want some change. If he wants to be with someone else, get someone else never know who will replace him.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
It feels good now as he was snapping at me as i had not looked up; something for him on my computer as i had been ill that day.So let himn do his own looking up; things. I an not his wife or secretary or slave.so no I do no miss him.It will be nice to have som enew faces perhaps
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
25 Apr 13
Hi dear, dont let the old fart get to you. Im sure you have plenty of people there who would love to sit with you. I know If I was there I would.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Apr 13
hi marika yes I guess thats the best way to lok at it as I do not like foot ball so when he talked foot ball I would just listen., I guess it just surprised me.Should get used to it around here.I am just me ,quiet and not talkkng a lot nlesss I am talked tol lol
• Mexico
25 Apr 13
I understand that, But Im sure soon youll have more friends there... and better ones.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
Alicia is so qiet and jumpuu she does not talk to me except for good mornig and how are you and she cannot sit still She is Mexican an very slender and has two bad hips evidently. I am hoping she will eventuality talk to me.she gives me a hug as she l eaves. I dislike asking her why she is so fidgetty so will probably learn sooner or later.I hope she does not think I am bigoted because I am not at all.
@artemeis (4018)
• China
26 Apr 13
Cheer up, Hatley! Believe in yourself that you are basically a good person. It is his lost besides, if he is able to meet new people then good for him because likewise you will too. I am sure you will meet a better one too, if I may add. But, you need to be positive as always because you are magnetic and when you are negative, you will draw negative towards you. So, be happy no use getting yourself worked up over minnows like him.
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hi artemeis thanks and I feel much better now as he was beginning to snap at me when he did not hear me and asked me to repeat it i raised my voice. He snapped "why are you shouting at me?"I think he is getting senile so good riddance. NOw Alicia and I will share the table alone.The woman slated to take his place changed her mind about Gold crest.Alicia is Mecican quiet and soft spoken so we get along fine.
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 13
Very unlikely that he saw your discussion and just take him at his word. He wants to meet other residents and thta it okay. Do not take this personally please. You know thta ou are wonderful and you also know that we can't be friends with everyone. He is ust expanding his range of friends. Nothing wrong with you and I am sure that everyone there likes you. How could they not?
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hi cynthiannes I think now t hat io reflect on it that yes h e wanted to meet someone else and he got another man who seems to be a football stats lover so they should both be happy. As for me I think he has started down the long path to Alzheimer disease and I do not want to have him at my table anyway. I have all I can handle with my roomie having Alzheimer disease. I do not want anyone else needing my help now., I am old and tired and need to relax.the woman slated to take his place has changed her mind, the lady who sits beside me Aliciaill keep each other good company .
@AmbiePam (48119)
• United States
25 Apr 13
I seriously doubt he found out about your discussion. Sometimes when things like that happen it makes us a bit paranoid. I know it would me. But logically I just don't see how he could have known. It's kind of cute how he told you that you had been a good table mate and that he wanted to greet new faces. I mean who thinks to do that? I would think most people would just have moved and not said anything. But this has upset you and I'm sorry for that.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hi AmbiePam I am over it nmow as the way he has acted latelyh doi ng odd things an forgetting things and getting angry at me,I think the man is senile or starting alzhemier.I guess it was time he move d to a different t ble. And the lady who was coming decided not to come to Gold crest not that I blame her given if I had more money I would choose a better retirement center myself .
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
25 Apr 13
Lets face it what you put in your discussion was no fabrication, it happened, it's the truth, if he can't deal with it, then tough! Maybe it will question him as to his idiocy over the orange juice, maybe not. But maybe he didn't read it, does it really matter, are you that fussed that he has moved away? Do you miss him? Besides it's his loss if he doesn't want to know you, plus they don't know you like your friends here know you!
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Apr 13
hi wolfie yi are so right ts not him that i amfssed about I guess just that for unknown reasons people keep leaving my table so i guess maybe I was just feeling sorry for myhself. Thats silly as I know I anm a gdood decent person so there has to be better reasons for people to leave my table. Now I just don't care. I only hope the new woman will be easy to talk to as i am sort of shy.,
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@velvet53 (16122)
• Palisade, Colorado
26 Apr 13
i don't understand people. Don't worry about it. If he can get upset over not getting his juice before his cereal than he is not going to be happy about anything. It is sad to hear this but it is his choice.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hivelvet I think first he is getting senile second he found a man who is just nuts abut football so they have a common interest and a table all to themselves I am releived in a way as I get tired of his grumpiness and lately he snaps at me so good riddance.the new lady decided not to come to Gold C rest. So the woman who shared my side of the table Alicia and I will soon learn to know one other better. Now there are two empty chairs. In a way I wish we would be left alone as I am sick of people just stopping there for awhile.
@velvet53 (16122)
• Palisade, Colorado
26 Apr 13
It sounds like things worked out for the best. You have a wonderful lady friend to get to know and talk with. He has found someone that shares the same interest as him. Maybe no one will sit at yours or his tables and you will have some peace. Have a great day.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hi velver y es I really think so as steve had lately been snapping at me over nothing .I think hes getting a bit senile. Now its peaceful with just Alicia and myself. If we get nobody else it will just be perfect now.
• Pamplona, Spain
26 Apr 13
Hiya Hatley, So its going to be no more orange juice complaints for you now he can cheer himself up with the latest football news or whatever and that will take his mind off the juice and all that well at least it should do. Steve be happy to talk about your Football and be thankful that Hatley has listened to you for so long. I don´t talk a mile a minute either well sometimes I can but most times I am as quiet as a dormouse he he he. If you are going to have a new table mate see if she is nice to talk to and you get along like a house on fire but that´s only an expression of course.xxx
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hi lovinangels instead21 yes I am sure he is in seventh heaven now, and now to tell the truth I really do not miss him.He had at last been acting really mean snapping at me because I raised my voice as he wanted me to repeat something so I just raised my voice to help him to hear me. So how without raising your voice pray tell was I to make him hear me? l still have a companion Alicia so we can get to know one other.The other woman who was to take his place has decided not to come to gold Crest.really I now hope they just leave us along.Getting tired of people coming and going lkke a revolving door here. lol
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• Pamplona, Spain
26 Apr 13
Hello Hatley, Has he left the table already then? Do you see him from where you are? Alicia I think that you have mentioned her before or not? Maybe you can have some chance to talk to someone who is not into Football all day long. That can be quite tiring I know. Oh the other lady is not going there then? It must be quite tiring for you to see so many people coming and going out then. Like a revolving door I like that. Well if you had to shout to him for him to hear you he should at least have thanked you for bothering in the first place surely. xxx
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
he he I am beginng tp emjkpu not hearing him grumbled abt everythibg. He never smiled and I did i get tired of that plus he expected me to spend time looking up stuff for him oon mycomputer and when I did not get all of it done ghe snapped at me like I was his secretary. I am glad to be free of that now,..
@JohnRok1 (2051)
25 Apr 13
OK STEVE, YOU ARE RUMBLED!!!! Come on and tell us just what Auntie H said that was wrong. Or maybe it's what I said about you having Alzheimer's?
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Apr 13
hi Joh thanks for the laujgh. I think heiks going down that path way as he has been a bit odder lately.Too I hink he resents that I am better educated than him but thats not my faylt,I wanted to get my BA in English so at 43 I went back to the UJniversity Cal at irvine and got my last two years, graduated at 45 with a BA in English. IU is an old single man who is jujt whiny and sour. I am hoping myh new tablemate who is a woman will be more easy to get along with.
@JohnRok1 (2051)
25 Apr 13
Oh well done you! I just scraped O Level English Literature - I'd never have got a DEGREE in English.
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@JohnRok1 (2051)
25 Apr 13
though I might have been able, with the tops of a couple of cornflake packets, to buy a doctorate in English from the type of American University that accepted them.
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
26 Apr 13
Hi Hatley, I doubt that he meant anything at all by it. He probably was really looking forward to getting to know some new people. I think that because you had just made that discussion, you automatically associated it with his changing tables. Even if Steve has a computer, what are the odds that he is on it reading Mylot discussions? And even if he were, you did not say anything offensive.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hi sid yes you are really right and no he does not have a computer so it was me just feeling guilty.But again all I said was the truth I find now its kind of nice not to be snapped at by him for nothing at all. He got to thinking I was to be his helper some way and if I hid not do as he asked he wo ld snap at m e. I do help my roomie but thats altogether a different thing.We have been roomies and friends for several more years and only a cold hearted b,i.t.c,h., would not help her own roommate. But Steve I did not owe this too. I even lent him a dollar which he never bothered to return . Its okay let it go but I do not want any more to do with him,Alicia whp has been sitting beside me for severAl months and I get along fine so let those two chairs stay empty for awhile.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
27 Apr 13
I would imagine that while you maybe got used to dealing with Steve, it had to bring down your spirits a bit listening to him. Grumpy people are not fun to be around at all. I am sure you are loving having some nice pleasant conversation during meals now. Truthfully, first thing in the morning that grump attitude would just set my day off to a bad start.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
hi sid Ithink the last two days when he snapped at me and Ii for once snapped back that decided him.So now I am counting my blessings as he has been using me because I have a computer I worked all my life so I think now deserve to have my time to myself.What I did he never thanked me for anyway.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
26 Apr 13
I do think in your writing, you reveal more then you intend. For instance, you give actual names and places and so Steve can easily find out that it was you on mylot. I would bet that Hatley is your real name, either last name, middle, or first name or somewhere you live. And just because you write a lot, does not mean you are a great talker. For instance, I can write a lot, but as for talking, unless I am very excited I keep quiet.
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hi susp enseful you are right hatley is my married last name I use it to honor my deceased husband. I am an open person for some reason but really shy.I can write openly much better than talk as like I said I am pretty shy.I don't think that Steve has a computer as he was always asking me to look something u p on the net, Now somehow I feel freer as while I do care for my senile roomie and do it with love I was getting sick of Steve treating me like some sort of mother figure.I hope nobody gets the idea I had any love interest in Steve as its just not so. I had one great love and that is it ands nobody could take his place. I have great memories.I like the freedom again of being single.ou are a keen observer and right on everything about me. I like you can be talkative if I am really es cited about something.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
27 Apr 13
Steve could just be computer challenged. That is, he may have a computer but be like a friend of a friend of mine who also has a computer but does not know how what key is the any key, etc. As for your name, it is all right to honor your husband, but if something goes wrong, for instance, someone sues you and even if they are in the wrong, your name will be blackened. Also it would be easier for someone to track you down, like a stalker. That is why we have aliases here.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
es you are right bt I am such an honest open person and iust keep forgetting there are a lot of people on the net who arenot honest,. So I now know better.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Apr 13
Doubt he would have found the discussion. Maybe he just met somebody he really hit it off with, and moved because of that.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Apr 13
hi dawn I am suspsecting thats the thing as he loves to talk to other men about football and I know beans abut it and care less.
@JohnRok1 (2051)
25 Apr 13
American football or real football?
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@JohnRok1 (2051)
25 Apr 13
(Ask him next time you see him - in front of his friends. Well perhaps not, NO man would even speak to you after that)
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@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
26 Apr 13
hi dear Hatley, I dont think he got wind of that discussion I remember you put here. Maybe you will be even happier with the new tablemate you will have soon sooooo please keep us posted about her and how the two of you get along with each other.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hi ritter sport again gremlines just st0le my big comment grrrrr.copy. well I am now happy as he had been snapping at me the last few days and I really think he is becoming senile,. He would forget something and get mad if I had not looked up something for him. I am not his servant and he was really getting much too bossy as I am only a table mate not a substitute wife for a grouch who has never been married.The supposed new lady had changed her mind and is not going to live here.But I still have one table mate who sits beside me.so Alicia and I can in time really become friends,.Like me she is soft spoken and maybe a little shy.Also she is very nervous I noticed. NOt that is bad just that she maybe be a bit shy as we have not talked much yet but I always greet her and she seems very pleasant. She is Mexican and thats okay.I like to know people from allover the world.
• Lippstadt, Germany
26 Apr 13
hi dear Hatley that really sounds good with Alicia as your table mate. I am not really soft spoken but shy and sort of a recluse..... old bookworm that is...... and if I had a table mate from Mexico I would be thrilled as this has always been my dream to see that country. Maybe because I love TexMex cooking so much......
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
Yes it will take a little time but she is at least friendly and is not asking me to look up umpty nine things on my computer.I got tired of that as now I am retired I want to have my own time on my computer,. I feel I earned it,
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
25 Apr 13
Mmmm maybe you're a Gemini then..or you have Mercury in Gemini, in which case you would HAVE to be a Gemini or the one in front or behind i.e. Taurus or Cancer. I'm determined to narrow it down. You see, when you said you talked fast that gave me a clue. I'm gonna look silly if I'm way out lol. I know it's off topic but anyway...silly man. Hope the new lady likes talking as much as you. It's good to talk, stops the brain from becoming fuddled.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Apr 13
Janey I do not talk a lot I said i am not a mile a minute talker. I am a Scorpio who is a bit secretive and not talkative at all.Oddly steve is alsos a Scorpio too both of us born in November. I do not love the man in fact I do not even really like him but I was nice to him as I felt sorry for him, Its just that he could have told me yesterday he wanted to move to be with the other man, I do not miss him its just that I am now losing confidence in my self esteem. that I do not want to do. I felt angry that p eople seem to be playing table ro ulette.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
25 Apr 13
Oh right, I see what you mean now.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
hi I think Alicia nd I can keep each other company and that will be nice . of course if they seat others at our table it will be okay really. I am sure there are a lot on nice people here whoo I do not really know.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
26 Apr 13
I hope the new person who will be sitting with you is nice as well. It would be nice for you to sit by someone you could talk to. In a sense it is like meeting up with a friend for a meal.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hi Dominique25 That lady changed her mind and is not coming to Gold Crest but I still have a companion in "Alicia who as been seating next to me for a month. So we can get better acquainted now. I am happy as Steve was starting to snap at me a lot for no good reason at all. I can do without that.I do think he is getting senile in the way he has acted lately.
• India
26 Apr 13
Mom Thanks for this discussion So he is in mylot, i have friends who talk things i don't like, i just ignore, have you read my discussion-clarification?
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hi professor no really h e has no com p uter so I do not think he is on mylot I was worried b t no I do not think He is here. He had found another man who also loves football so he should be happy. I find I really do not miss him at all as he was starting to snap at me when I raised my voice as he had asked me to repeat something. I think hes started to get senile s I was not shouting at him though he asked me "why are yu yelling at me?" this after I had repeated the same thing several times. He found a man who also loves football an d football stats so he should be very happy.I am finding I do not miss him at all.So the lady who sits beside me ' alicia and I now share the table alone which is fine w ioth me.
@emily7339 (1340)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 13
Hi Hatley, I believe Steve is trying to get someone who could relate with in his interest . As you have shared, he likes football and he will find some one who has same interest as him. Well, in this way you could have more rooms to share in MyLot at ease . Anyway, I hope you could meet up with someone nice and friendly to be your companion there !
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hi Emily well now Alicia and i share our table alone as Steve left and the other chair as been empty for several months. I like Alicia and we get along fine.As for Steve's place the lady who was coming decided she did not want to come to Gold crest.So okay just leave us alone.The Two of us will do just fine and get to know each other. Steve found another football fanatic so good for himl, He was starting to get senile becoming very cranky and snapping at me because I raised my voice trying to make him hear. "why are you yelling at me?" He could possibly be getting senile too . I m,ean I was not yelling at him but had just raised my voice so he could hear me.
@BarBaraPrz (19379)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
25 Apr 13
Hey, if nothing else, it gave you a new topic to discuss here. With luck, your new table mate will provide lots of fodder for discussions, too.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
wah boo hoo BarBarPrz this is getting downright funny the new lady called Gold crest and told them she had decided not to come to Gold C rest.so okay I still have the Mexican Lady who sits beside me and is named Alicia. Sje is sweet and soft spoken.So there are two chairs empty and so what Leave them emptyI like A licia and in time we will become good friends too
@ARIES1973 (9534)
• Legaspi, Philippines
25 Apr 13
I don't think it has anything to do with a discussion or anything so don't worry much about this thing auntie. You can still have other friends around. Have a great day!
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
hi Aries I do not think so either as he once said he hgd no computer.Tne lady scheduled to come take hij place decided to go someplace else which I do not blame her for. the woman who sits besides me is Alicia a Mexican lady whom I like as she is pleasant and soft spoken.
@much2say (38744)
• United States
25 Apr 13
Naw - most likely he didn't "find" your discussion - unless he's already on myLot (in which of course I have not seen a raging discussion on not getting orange juice at the proper time - ha ha). Not to worry about that guy . . . there are plenty of other people to be table mates with. A new person would be refreshing (you can all chat over orange juice! ).
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 13
mujch2say Yes i doubt that he did given he has no computer he would not have any way tu o get on mylot I amuwondering given his odd behavior and the ways he has acted lateley I think he is getting senile.He forgets things, he gets angry too easily and well maybe its best he did move.As for the lady who was going to take his p lace decided not to come here to G o ld Crest..So for now there is me and the Mexican lady Alicia.We get along fine and I am okay without another person after all its just for meals.