Parents are loosing their children merely on exam failures....

By sri
@gamyam (572)
Hyderabad, India
April 27, 2013 6:17am CST
In our area one girl child failed in four subjects in her 10th class exams.. So She deeply disappointed herself and sat sadly in her house. On the other hand her parents abused her without thinking about her state of mind. As the result now she is no more for them... Why students spoils their own life only because of failures in their exams... Now a days every where this culture had been spread out... What is the state of mind set for the students in your area?.....
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20 responses
@Sreekala (23347)
• India
27 Apr 13
It is really sad to know about such incidents. In fact the same type of incidents increasing all over the world. The reason for the same is, kids are not prepared to face the challenges in their life. The focus on their education is only on scoring good marks, learning the things from books, then feed the same in brain and write it on paper. One who can’t do this process is failing on examinations. They need to educate for facing the challenges in life then only they can accept the failures and learn lessons from that instead of ending their life by disappointment. The educations system should be changed.
• India
28 Apr 13
Most of the child can face such situations when their parents are with them.
• Greece
6 Jan 16
We live in a very competitive world that's why most parents probably don't want their children to be left behind. But really, physical abuse is too much. Failing in class is already mentally tortured as I know teachers and classmates comments although indirectly, could make you feel stress when you fail. That's another reason why I want to home-schooled my future kids. I want them to love learning and not to get good grades just because they need to.
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@cgalavia (1405)
• Philippines
27 Apr 13
To deal with this situation,The child should not be abused just because she failed the exams,this is not an effective way to make a change of his failure but instead,cheer him up, make comfort with the child without resorting to criticism,rebuke or making feel the child inadequate or confirming their sense of being a failure.Help the child to become motivated in her studies, and make a different to the outcome of her examination.What the child needs is self motivation to study,help the child to build and work on his self confidence and of course more assistance from the parents;make a follow up or update about his activity in school,always take a look his assignments at night if she is doing well with it.With all that, I know parents can make a huge difference in the studies of each child.
@Deepak2J (1179)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Apr 13
It is happening everywhere, especially in teenage. They need more parent support, more than anything. Rather than abusing, parents should try to check, what went wrong with their boy/girl and try to encourage her/him to face the challenge next time with far more effort, without caring about friends. they should tell their child that, failure is not a stopping point, but a stepping point. Get over that point with a little extra effort .
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• Serbia
27 Apr 13
Parents put so much pressure on children about school and to do in school. Not only parents but also teachers and the entire society, actually. When i have kids i won't care how they do in school. Their grades won't mean anything to me. I want my kids to be smart, to know things and the truth about things. And the grades prove absolutely nothing as far as that goes.
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@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
27 Apr 13
I can relate with that when I was still studying. I was one of the top notchers in my section and I was really very eager before to maintain that grade and that rank. Sometimes, it was so frustrating that my grade was so low and sometimes I cannot focus myself to study more and that's depresses me. I think one factor of it is the competition in honors and comparison with other kids or students.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 13
One reason is pressure aside from being compared to other people. Their families wanted them to have the best, but not realizing that this will make their kids a lot of pressure. Another reason is that they did not let them know about the Word of God that it is wrong to take ones life even that includes your own. Cast our cares for He cares for us, if kids would know more about God's Word, they will not come up with that fate. The enemy tries everything to destroy human life and they succeed because of this, this is my own opinion.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
27 Apr 13
The poor status of a family may be one cause why parents would behave as such. The desperation and frustration, though they would not want to really let their family know about, manifests through this actions.
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• Kochi, India
27 Apr 13
Abusing her after the exams does no good.You know 10th exams do not matter nowadays,She would have lost 1 year,but it is still OK.Nobody asks your 10th Certificate..There was no need for her to do that really.
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@scubapro (1056)
• Gifu, Japan
27 Apr 13
i totally agree,in turkey same situation. here we have oss exam,if we cant pass we cant enter university and it makes all students very disappointed. i really hate the system in turkey,but i think its almost same in all countries. peace
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• India
28 Apr 13
This is the major problem of our society, the best solution of this problem depends on the parents. Parents need to understand their child psychological status.
@shielala (75)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
I felt very sad to the child. and also I feel very angry to those parents who abused their children. Even if they are their parents they don't have the rights to treat them like that. They should ask first the child what happened and then tell them in right way. Not abusing them. Maybe most of the children fail their exams its because they have problems in their family or maybe because parents don't have time for them to teach the right things.
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@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
Sometimes parents forgot the limitations of his son because of too much ambition for the son. We lived in a very competitive world , that is why parents want kids to be in a very prestigious school so when after earning a degree , thew child can compete globally then.
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@srisahara (4147)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 13
I think, parents should understand about their child. Actually this condition is still normal if parents do not pressure their child. I think it can be solved. I know most parents just think about their emotion and never think about their child. I am so sorry to hear that. In my region, most of parents pressure their children to get the best in their study without consider the condition of their children, it is so sad...
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
These kids should be made to understand that tests or exams are just like that---they are merely tests or exams and don't measure one's worth as a person. These exams are nothing. Your exam in the real world, how you deal with others is the one that matters the most. So what if you fail? To me, that does not mean anything. Who made those exams anyway? Can they even answer their own questions? It is crazy to become slaves to these systems that put a premium on papers.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
27 Apr 13
That is so sad. You do mention that the parents abused her for failed exams. That sort of pressure may have made it even more difficult to pass the exams. Some people just struggle with testing anyways.
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@Pegasus72 (1901)
27 Apr 13
I am not sure I understand what you are trying to ask here.
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@suzzy3 (8358)
28 Apr 13
I think the question is why do some parents make their kids feel so bad when they don't pass their exams with the grades they need.The parents push their kids to such an extent the kids kills itself.It is awful sometimes the parents live their lives through their kids,the parents could not do it,but it makes the parents feel better if they can brag about their kids and their exam results.Most parents don't do this as they love their kids and will always sort another career path out for them where they don't need such high grades.Where the kids will be happy and succeed.Some parents are just so selfish and cruel.
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@Pegasus72 (1901)
28 Apr 13
Ok now I understand. I agree parents push too much these days. We also have parents that couldn't care less how their children do. Would be nice if everyone took a moment to let their children know how proud they are of them instead of always pushing them. I think the kids would all do much better in everything.
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@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
1 May 13
This is so sad when you see it, the parents dont think of the child. They think of their own disappointment not that the child tried their hardest, or even the issue of why they got poor grades.
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@ShyBear88 (17537)
• United States
29 Apr 13
Where I live its a mixture of parents being to hard, to sore or in the middle. I want to the parent that pushes but not to the limite that my kids break. I understand they are human and thy will not be prefect not every thing comes o those buy as long as they try and work there as hard as they can't will not get angry.
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@bestboy19 (5482)
• United States
28 Apr 13
I've been out of school for 43 years, so I'm not up to date on the state of mind of students today.
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@suzzy3 (8358)
28 Apr 13
Poor girl.I always used to say do your best.I used to buy a cake or sweets for them no matter what happened.You should love your kids always and show them how important they are.The kids feel bad enough if they fail their exams ,they don't need to be told by parents or anyone else they are a failure.I really feel sorry for some kids.Did these parents not fail sometimes or are they all perfect.Some parents should feel ashamed of themeselves.
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