he forgot their 8yrs wedding anniversary !

@Mintlin (322)
China
April 27, 2013 9:27pm CST
my best friend has married for 8yrs. friday was their wedding anniversary,but her husband totally forgot about this. last night,my best friend complained to me,she thinks her husband doesnot love her anymore as how come he forgot such important day! I just married for 1 yr,and i think as long as couples love each other,support each other,it's actually not that necessary to celebrate the special day.if my husband forget our wedding anniversay,it's fine to me. not to mentioned they are alreay married for 8 yrs! i never see my parents celebrate their wedding anniversary,but they are getting along well during 32yrs. what do you think ?
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
28 Apr 13
It is purely a female thing to believe that remembering important dates equates to "love". Really it does not Its also a guy thing to forget those dates because they don't see it the way you do. He loves her just fine, She might need to help him out in remembering next time so they can celebrate without the drama.
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• United States
28 Apr 13
It seems maybe she forgot something important too. She is upset because he forgot a day, but how has he treated her as his wife? Has he not been a good husband to her? If she thinks about those things, it seems a little silly to say he doesn't love her.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
28 Apr 13
Shame on him.. some men are like that. My ex always forgot ours. My son always had to remind him of these things.
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@Mintlin (322)
• China
28 Apr 13
so you care much about the day ?
@maximax8 (31055)
• United Kingdom
28 Apr 13
I think that it is best to talk together about an upcoming anniversary like "it is going to be our wedding anniversary on Wednesday". Then the person could say "do you want to go out for a walk along the seashore followed by a drink at a bar". It is necessary to love each other and be supportive. Sometimes life is very busy and I am sure he didn't mean to forget their anniversary. Your friend and her husband have been married for 8 years so I hope they will be better at both remembering their special day.
@youless (112096)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Apr 13
I think everybody is different. Some are more romantic and some are not. Especially I have to say that sometimes men have bad memories. They can't remember so much stuff. Or they even don't think it is something important. Today most men have work and family pressure. And therefore they hardly have a break and it can be understanding that they forget the wedding anniversary. Because sometimes they even can forget their own birthdays. Your friend can hint to her husband about the anniversary so that it makes everybody happy.
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
Hi Mintlin! I also think the way you do. I don't really believe it's necessary or a must to celebrate wedding anniversarys/birthdays/monthsarys. People nowadays need to be practical in their expenses. They can celebrate their love everyday. I very seldom celebrate my birthday. I also believe it's for kids/elders. Hehe. I prefer expressing my love to my partner in my own special way. Doing simple things that are usual and not usual will be okay. It does not have to be expensive or in a monetary way. So far, my fiance and I are happy and our love grows more. It's like everyday is a brand new day!
@cherigucchi (14885)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
I guess there would be time that men forget about special dates because they are too preoccupied of some other things like earning money for the family and the baggages that go along with it. For us women it is quite unforgivable that our man forgets that special date. I have been married for 14 years and we never fail to celebrate our two weddings, the civil and the church wedding. So we celebrate the anniversaries twice and good thing that my man has never forgotten that!
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
28 Apr 13
Ok I can understand both side to this. Some men just don't keep up with birthdays and anniversaries. Its just the way some of them are. My hubby has never forgotten. We don't have to celebrate as long as he wishing me a happy birthday or happy anniverary I'm good with that. However, he usually always want to take me out to dinner for these occasions. In fact our anniversary is Monday it will be 25 years together. If he was to forget I wouldn't think he didn't love me anymore. I would think he is very busy with alot on his mind. As for the women there are some who are very romantic and want to be pampered with love and flowers and a good time. For me I don't need all of that. I know my husband loves me and that is all that matters. I know other couples who don't celebrate either, its like just another day to them especially when you get older.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
I understand that wedding anniversaries are special, but sometimes married people forgot the date. But it doesn't mean they don't love their partner- there is good reason why they forgot it. Maybe some are too busy with their work or they are having issues at work. My parents are already married for 44 years and still happily living together- but they do not celebrate their wedding anniversary every year.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
I still would love to celebrate my wedding anniversary yearly . But having bu husband who doesn't care at all for all the other important events in our lives, I have just learned to shrug it off. yes, I would sometimes cry about it, but there is nothing i can do to let him make it a special one. I don't like to have to remind him all the time. If he doesn't remember, fine. But it doesn't make me happy. Maybe he doesn't care. Well, I feel sorry for him. Coz he just wasted having a better life with me.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
28 Apr 13
Some people do make a big deal out o anniversaries but I don't. Not unless it's been ten yrs, 20 and so forth. But the 8th year?! No way. I've been together with my husband for 10 years and for valentine day he bought and expensive set of rings that say "I love u" inside! He totally caught me by surprise when they came in the mail. We've been married for 9 years on New Year's Eve this year. I think little things count the most and the little things he does for us are more important than what he doesn't do. Women have to stop assuming that just because he loves me he has to do something or buy me something that says how much he loves us. Why can't we do that? I already do that. I know a lot of woman in my country do that to the men or bf in their life. I ur not confident about urself or if u have low self asteam what makes u think he would feel the same with u?? Grow some backbone and love urself!
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
Hi ! That is okay for some really are not particular about anniversaries because they are too busy working to earn a lot for the family. They maybe like that but still you can see how good and faithful they are to their wife and family. While on the other hand there are some men who is so good in remembering celebration but the truth is the are not faithful to their wife. Like its their way of making guilt lighter. Woooo i prefer to have a thoughtless husband than having thoughtful but not faithful.
@hereandthere (45671)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
i know 2 guys who married on their birthday. i hope that ensures they never forget their wedding anniversary! your best friend could have taken the initiative by reminding him and make plans with him, if she wants it to be celebrated yearly. he did not get married alone. it's different from him forgetting her birthday, isn't it? sure, celebrating milestones feels great, but it doesn't have to be lavish. some choose to mark it every 5 years instead of yearly. if he's a good father and husband, that's something to be thankful for.
• United States
28 Apr 13
I don't see this as a big deal unless he forgets all the time or doesn't do anything special for her. My husband and I both forgot out anniversary 5 or 6 years ago and we laugh about it often. While I would rather we both remember our special day, we do little things for each other quite a bit so forgetting once or twice doesn't seem all that important.