How would someone know if she/he already moved on?

@cyjh21 (160)
Philippines
April 28, 2013 5:17am CST
Well.. I just want to ask this question because some of the people around me are still saying that I still love my ex-boyfriend. He is one of my dearest friends before we had that something special.. We broke up two years ago and he looks happy now with his new relationship... I am also happy with my own life now. It's just that i want to be friends with him... My friends (our common friends actually) keep on telling me that I still love him whenever they hear me saying that i wanna be friends again with that guy... All i know is i got over him already and i just miss hin because he's my mentor and my friend... But why do they keep on telling me that? Am i just in denial or something?? Whew! What are the signs that the feeling is totally over ??
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6 responses
28 Apr 13
hmmmmm... that's tough, for me, in denial? probably it's because ex's don't make friends at once not unless the guy makes a move, it will really looked you haven't gone over him since your the one whose looking forward to befriend of him. Try not to put that idea instead let him decide on that matter whether he wants you two be friends again or just remain to be away from your friendship.What if you feel that way but from his point of view you really don't matter that much especially that he has someone else now it will not be a good idea.
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@cyjh21 (160)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
Yeah... I've thought of that a lot of times already.... He doesn't see me anymore because of his special someone... Well.. I don't know... Thanks for the reply anyway. :)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
Urhhmmm, that I cannot answer, lols! I'm not you, granting no one knows you better than yourself---feelings and all! Still I'm free to comment, right? Urhm, okay, so here it goes... Since your friends know you as well, then maybe they can tell, and maybe they are right, or they're only teasing you, who knows! My question is, how often do you tell them that you want him back in your life (as a friend)? Do you keep remembering him all the time? If yes, then his always in your mind..... awwww...fishy fishy.. You said, you and your x bf are already happy with your own lives, obviously that's a good sign! you've moved on! 2 years is sufficient enough for some wounds to heal.... okay, since you've missed him, maybe your just longing for his companionship, not in a romantic way, but a wonderful friendly connection that him alone can give. let's say that you've moved on, but do you still love him(your xbf)?
@cyjh21 (160)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
yes... at first, I was thinking like that.. companionship... really... I though it was only like that...!!! But just last night, I had a conversation with one of our common friends and he asked me directly if I still love him... Well, at first, I could answer like 'yes'. He laughed at me and asked another question that made me think so deeply. Whew! After that, he asked me again if I still have feelings for my ex... and ... and... and... I couldn't answer him frankly... I mean.... I answered like this... "..uh... of course I don't have but sometimes... uhm... well.. I don't know. I've moved on, I know, but .. uh.. well... I can't explain." like that!!! So how cold he believe me... He said I even couldn't answer him straightforwardly... which I think was really correct! He got me there!!! But why? I mean... I'm okay now... I know... I just miss him... But... ahhhh! (I hate this feeling!) Regarding your last question... "Let's say that you've moved on, but do you still love him?" -----is it possible??? I've moved on... but I still love him???
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
It is hard to draw a line between just wanting to be friends or if you still have feelings for him. He was a good friend to you and I do understand how you feel. I have been in the same situation. But I didn't want to complicate things, so I just have to forget wanting to be close to him again.
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@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
28 Apr 13
Only you can answer that. How does it feel whenever your friends would accuse/tell you that you are still on love with him? There are some tell-tale signs and even symptoms that you still care for him and other people would see this is still being hung up on him.
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@joizee (502)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
Hi Cy! I think your friends are saying you still have feelings for him is because perhaps you keep on insisting to be friends with him. Why insist? That's something for the friends to understand as a sign of not yet moving on...completely. You are the one who can best answer it - just friends? or become lovers again. Good luck Cy! :)
@cyjh21 (160)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
yeah... I know... and I also know it's not that I want us to be lovers again... well, I guess so... hoho!
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@srisahara (4147)
• Indonesia
24 Oct 15
I think you have been move on, it looks when you feel happy with you own life now. Keep a good relationship with our ex-boyfriend as friends is a common thing, because he is the one we've ever cared course we want to be liquid and forget the past. I think your desire to be friends with your ex does not mean you can not move on.