Mom's habit sometimes can be annoying
April 28, 2013 9:18am CST
We all love our moms and dads dearly but, come on ,there are no perfect parents and of course we ain't perfect children at all. Like my mom, has a habit of talking to me while I am in class. When I say I am class that means I am teaching my student from the other side of the globe and they want to get their money's worth so they expect that my place is clear of any distractions and noises that will distract their attention from the class.I have been doing this for years!( Since 2005). Well, during my first year of teaching they were considerate. I had explained to them what is the nature of my part-time job and that student don't want to get distracted from noises and activities on my end. They were cooperative. But as days and months and years go by...they become so inconsiderate, specifically mom.More often that not, she would talk to me, or ask me questions while I am in class and my headset is glued to my ears which apparently shows that I will not hear her but she still does this habit everyday.Worse is sometimes she would ask me to solve mathematical problems while I am teaching. Last night , while I was teaching she asked me something.When I did not answer her, she asked me again and finally for the fourth time she asked again... I decided to talk more loudly to my student so my mom would stop blabbing. Here's the weirdest habit of my mom,SHE TALKS TO ME WHILE I AM SLEEPING so I don't always get enough sleep and this worsened my sleeping order. The funny this is, she had accompanied to me several times to medical clinics,faith healers,etc.So more or less she knows how hard it is for me to get to the land of Nod because of my sleeping disorder. I remember last year, while I was taking a nap ,because of lack of sleep, mom suddenly came home and spoke with me. To be honest, I WAS SO ANNOYED because I almost dozed off. I told her that moment, "Mom don't talk to me when I am sleeping okay" ooohhh my she got crossed! I couldn't believe it!
28 Apr 13
well I am not sure just what to say to this and yes if my mother had done this to me I would be upset with her as well as she know I would be teaching as in your case and that I can't be stopped to answer her what i am not sure is the ones that you teach are they in your home when you teach them if not and your like just in your room then buy a lock for your door and when it is your time to teach or sleep lock the door
28 Apr 13
oh blackrusty! I used to do that , you know, locking the door so nobody could enter.But whenever mom passes by my bedroom door she would open the door and say " what a piping hot room! keep the door open!". Then, I would reply," the television is soooo loud and my students could hear you chitchating."
28 Apr 13
well then two things come to my mind is that you sit her down and tell her that when your in your room you are not to be bothered you are working or sleeping and then go buy a lock to lock her out of your room sad that you would have to do that but the other option is to start looking at moving out on your own if she can't give you the respect that you need
• United States
28 Apr 13
How old is your mom now? Old people can be pretty annoying and I know she should understand that you need some quiet time. But she could be undergoing something, like maybe she is insecure and she needs you and your attention. Our parents are already in that stage wherein they get so sensitive easily and stubborn.
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
belle of the ball moms are just humans like you or I so they can be pretty inconsiderate too just like any other human. Tell her again and again if you have to not to disbturb you while teaching or whil,e trying to get some sleep.Age does not mean we older ones are perfect at all. tel lher you love her but do not do this.be firm.
28 Apr 13
I would be more than annoyed with that. But I know that you live in a very different culture and I have seen my friends here from your country treat parents with more respect than they deserve sometimes. I feel that if someone wants respect, the person has to earn it. I would talk to my mother and explain that while I work, I need absolute quiet. Another idea is to lock your door if possible. And, can`t you go and live alone? I am sure that a lot of what your mother does is because she still thinks that you are a small girl under her command.
30 Apr 13
You could always take out your headset when you are working. If you are not wearing it, how can she interrupt you? If I am at work, I make it a point not to have any distractions around, and if people are going to annoy me, whether they realize they are doing it or not, I am absolutely NOT going to stand for it. If they do it, I will make sure they stop. I will tell them, and if they don't listen, I will turn off all ways that they can possibly get a hold of me.