What will you do if one day one of your colleague doesn't want to talk to you?
By vip25sc
@vip25sc (48)
Thailand
April 28, 2013 11:52am CST
After I have been started my current job for few months, I became a good friend with a girl in the office because we are the same age and living close to each other. we like to do thing together (at workplace).
One day she stopped to talk to me, I have no idea what is going on and what's wrong. At that time I was very busies with my tasks and have no time to ask for is the matter of her behavior. I thought to talk to her right away about what's happening, why she doesn't talk to me.
However, she have a strong character, if she is not happy with someone, she can scream and say strong words. Because I know if she reply to me in the was she is I will never talk to her again. I will response to her behavior in stronger way if I don't accept that it is my fault. Until now the situation is getting better, we talk to each other but still something between us.
Should I ask her or just let it go as it is at the moment?
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6 responses
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
28 Apr 13
If I were you I will ask her .. because sometimes though you have no intention of doing bad thing.. you unattentionally commit thing that could hurt other people.. because everyone of us has different personality, so every action can be interpreted differently depending on the personality of a person.. So, there is the possibility of like that, that is why it is better to ask her and be aware of what really is happenning!
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Apr 13
In your situation I think that I would ask her what is going is on. Maybe you said or did something that hurt her without knowing it. It is also possible that she has misunderstood something or heard some gossip that wasn't true from the other co-workers. Maybe it has nothing to do with you at all and she became quiet because has some problems that you don't know about. There are so many options, and I think that I would ask her directly instead of trying to guess the reason.
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
28 Apr 13
I would definitly not completely stop talking to her. Since it's been getting a little better, I would wait for awhile, maybe a month. It may continue to improve. It might be even something she's going through. but if it stays the same, where there seems to be something wrong, then ask her.
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
Wow...maybe she has something in heart or mind that she is hesitant to express it with you. Or maybe she has a strong feelings for you that is why she is avoiding you.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
28 Apr 13
Talking about the reason would probably the best thing you can do as of now. However, if she is not willing to tell you for some reasons, I think you have to respect her decision. But at least you tried.
Have a great day!
@Jyiou7 (83)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 13
Hmmm, in a situation like this, I think it's best if you ask her out for lunch together during your lunch break with sincerity and gentleness. While eating, you can keep a light chat and see how the conversation is progressing. If she's starting to open up and be friendly, then all the better. :) Forget about the awkward period and just continue happily chatting with her. If she still is as awkward, then politely tell how you feel about the situation and ask her if there's something going on.
If she answers in a calm manner, then it's best you listen to what she says to don't disagree with anything for the moment. When she's done talking only do you start to tell your side of the story. If she starts screaming, tell her to calm down and just remain silent. Don't shout back or argue. Stay calm. Good luck! :)
