Avoiding Others For One..!!!!

@Dassodils (2013)
India
April 28, 2013 1:30pm CST
Haii.. Now I am going to share some thing that I cant agree at any cost.I have seen so many people behaving like this.When they get engaged to a person,they will be very decent or act like that and they will surely avoid others by concentrating to that one person.In my view,That is not a good thing.Every one should make a respect on every relation ship.And accept every one till we are engaged.I have so many experiences like this.Thank you..
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@lijoos (346)
• India
28 Apr 13
i dont want to say any thing about this . because i got an experiance..
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
28 Apr 13
I think there is nothing wrong in making friendships with everyone even when a person is engaged.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
28 Apr 13
Well, maybe you will have had many experiences in the field sentimental love in engagement, etc.. But I do not! Choose about personal life = to be single forever! However, your question is sobering. In fact, when a person goes into a romantically involved with the so-called "soul mate", the overriding love, selflessness and your attention to your loved one. This of course does not exclude away from friends and dear people, mind you! Other words I can not say. Correct me if according to your point of view, I wrote in the comment something wrong. However this is only the result of my personal opinion
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@grvdubey11 (1882)
• India
28 Apr 13
Well getting engaged to someone means you are about to get into a serious relationship.When that happens you are supposed to give undivided attention to your love interest,in doing so it is possible that they wont be able to give as much time to other loved ones like they used to give before getting into relationship.I agree that person should try to balance ,but even if the loved ones of that person feel that they are being left out, i think they should understand.Its so much different when someone gets committed.Best wishes.
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• India
28 Apr 13
Hello, I hope that you have already hear that "give the respect and take the respect". We should show our respect to each and every person. Whether it is to a child or an aged man/women. In our childhood days if we are sitting in home and if our parents or grand parents come there then we will wake up and give the respect. Like if any guests comes to our home, then should give the respect to them by allowing to sit and give some water/tea etc. Children may ask you some arrogant question when you are busy. During that time you will not show any interest with the child. But what I should say that even though we are very busy we should listen what he/she is asking and give correct reply. Let us see the happiness from them. Good night.
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@mensab (4207)
• Philippines
28 Apr 13
that is the essence of engagement. it is a decision to stick to one person because a decision has been reached to have that person in one's life. it is definitely acceptable to focus on that person and avoid others who may influence the decision in one way or another.
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@Hatley (164484)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Apr 13
okay twice now copy,. dassodils human nature requires us to pay more attention to the engaged one at first then we sort of remember to be normal again around our friends and relatives.But without this instinct engagements and marriages would not really last long as we must put the engaged person first in our lives.
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@ShyBear88 (18148)
• United States
30 Apr 13
Do you think could clarify a little bit better for me. Do you mean when someone gets engaged they avoide others because they are focusing on there wedding and getting married. That is a pretty normal norm because they want it to be perfect. I did a court wedding which was quick and easy no fuss or anything. I'm hoping that is what you meant.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
I don't get what is your point. When a person is engage or not she or he should always be concentrating on one person and that is his or her lover and no other. He or she is committed with someone and so he or she should be responsible enough to be honest and trustworthy with her / his partner or fiance.
• India
29 Apr 13
Hello Dassodils, It is quite normal to feel frustrated on account of being neglected by someone, who has been close to you, after his/her engagement. I think you need to understand this that every new relationship requires time. Whenever we become friends with someone we start spending more time with them. It is not that we loose respect for other relationships or our old friends, it is just that we need some extra time to help nourish our new relationship or bonding. Likewise, when a person gets engaged he/she would naturally want to spend more time with their would be spouse. Being friends we need to understand their emotional inclination at this point of time. It is not that our friends forget us, it is just that they expect a little more understanding from us.
@celticeagle (119880)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Apr 13
I think that couples can share relationships with others. Maybe these people that you mention are afraid of losing them to someone else. That is sad. They lose alot.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
29 Apr 13
I think that it is fine to meet new friends. But of course, one should know his/her limits of getting too close to other people coz you'll never know what might happen. Some people would be attracted to people who are engaged and try to win his/her heart just for fun.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
29 Apr 13
When a person is young, newly engaged , this is bound to happen.They will live in a dream world of their own. Just give it a bit of more time ; won't you? If it is a friend, then call her after two weeks and tell her that there are other people who are waiting for her and let her have some eyes and ears for others too ..Tease her gently and it will all be wonderful.
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
28 Apr 13
I also agree with you that everyone should make respect on relationship. I think there is nothing bad about talking to others and not avoiding others even though a person is engaged. I think most times we should behave like what we expect from others.