Family is Family No Matter What

April 29, 2013 8:43pm CST
I have been hurt so many times by a lot of people in my life. My reactions, responses and feelings varied depending on who caused me pain and heartaches as well as the degree of offenses. However, it's far more different a story when people close to your heart, those you consider family, hurt you. The impact could be greater than you could imagine, you shed a lot of tears and being comforted should be difficult. Through the years, I have learned that family will remain a family however hard you forget them that hurt you and decide you erase them from your family tree. Have you ever hurt a family of yours, or has someone close to you as family hurt you? How was it? Did the situation create change so long as previous closeness is concerned...you know, the awkward situation when you need to meet at a family gathering?
4 responses
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 13
I do experience it from time to time but I do not take it to heart. Some family members are just mean and not know how to take care of other's feelings . I have learnt not to hold any grudges and be at peace with them. I will not let this situations affects me negatively . After all, we are all family members. Even though we may meet up with one another occasionally, but there will be as usual like nothing has happened and we could meet in peace!
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
I agree with you on that matter, whatever negative things that happened between family members at the end of the road they will still be the one who will be with you all the way. Sometimes we just need sometime to heal the wounds caused by misunderstandings but never fail to detach yourself from them. You will be the one who will suffer if you let hatred dominate your heart.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 13
That is why it is good to have an enlarged and forgiving heart, learn not to hold any grudges against anyone . Life will be happier
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Pain is a part of life. It is important as it is inevitable. People have differences and sometimes, it is the unmet expectations and misunderstandings that causes us pain. I had my fair share of pain all throughout life. Broken promises when I was a child, rejection when I was a teenager, failure in adulthood and I know that there will be more to come but these pain that we felt before will help us understand and cope to our situation. You are right that when it comes to family, usually, the pain is deeper. This is because of our expectations. Since these people are close to our hearts, we are not expecting that we will feel pain because of them. However, disagreements and conflicts are spices of family life and it is also unavoidable. I know I have hurt my family a lot when I ran away with my husband and was not able to finish my studies back then, especially my mom. I was told that she's been crying every single day after I left. Until now that I already graduated and asked for her forgiveness, I am still feeling guilty about it because I let her down. I also have minor faults that may have hurt my loved ones especially when I fail to spend quality time with them back when I was working the graveyard shift. I have been hurt but I really do not like conflicts with the family so I just forgive and forget. I love my family so much.
• Philippines
3 May 13
@Adval2013 Thank you. :)
1 May 13
Hi, nanayangel! Thank you very much for sharing a rather sensitive part of your life. I appreciate it and you touched my heart at that. You're a courageous woman who can accept and acknowledge that you've hurt your loved ones and repentant at the same time. Now it's your turn...you should truly forgive yourself already for what happened in your past. You deserve to be happy.
@dreamhome (558)
• India
1 May 13
Hurting a family member can be more painful. Family members are the ones who love us irrespective of the flaws and the failures. They can be our support at any time without expecting something back from us. But sometimes, there can be situations wherein we may actually hurt them. And this may bring in a gap in the relationship for a lifetime. I have never faced such a situation. And I hope I would never hurt someone in the future too.
1 May 13
Hi, dreamhome. It's good to know that you've never been in a hurtful situation involving family. I believe what you hope for can be possible if you can maintain a harmonious relationship with everybody in your family. Just be sensitive about other's feelings. Thank you for sharing this to us.
• Bulgaria
30 Apr 13
Unfortunately, it happened to me all the time with really close member of my family and the others in it, but there is nothing we can do about it - the person is just like that and he won't change because of us - it really hurts, but that's the life. If everything around you is "pink" there is always something that will make it black. Like it says - "the blood will tell and can't become water"
1 May 13
We all have our shares of hurts and pains. The most important thing is to experience peace and happiness by forgiving and forgetting and moving on. Thank you for your nice thought, arpecubha..