parents when old.

@maryannemax (12156)
Sweden
September 5, 2006 3:18pm CST
when your parents are already old, will you take care of them or put them in nursing homes?
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@Rolf46 (162)
• United States
12 Nov 06
I know my father has prepared some insurance funds to take care of his older age, but even if he had not, I surely would do what it takes to make sure he and my mother were comfortable. They have given me so many opportunities as a child and adult that it is only fair that I take care of them too. They have been such great parents to me and my sisters, and anything we can do to assist them is a pleasure. I would be happy for them to to live in my home. It would be a good chance for my children to enjoy their grandparents and for my parents to enjoy their grandchildren.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
15 Nov 06
it's so nice to hear that even in this fast paced ever changing world, we still have deep within us love for our parents. that no matter how busy we may be, we still give our full love and care to those two people we owe our lives to.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
8 Feb 07
Yes they have given their lives to bring me up, look after me and bring me into the world, so I will return that love, I do not have a partner and I'm not married so I would either live with my parents or remaining parent or have them move in with me whichever is easy for them. I would never abandon them.
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@blessonje (1651)
• India
26 Sep 06
i will take care of them
@Ilyasgul (881)
• Pakistan
14 Dec 06
why not,
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
It is good to know that there are still many who considers taking care of their old parents. I have heard of so many elders who are roaming the streets and others get adopted by homes for the aged because their loved ones no longer desire them around the household.
26 Sep 06
I'd opt to look after them if I had the skills to do so, although if a home could look after them better than I could then unforunately that would be better option for my parents.
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
4 Jan 07
i'm a filipina too, you know we don't do that, do we? :) so no, i provide for and take care of my dad the best way i can and putting him in a nursing home is not an option.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
6 Jan 07
there are a lot of nursing homes in the philippines already. some are in tagaytay and pampanga and in some other places. but i will still take care of my parents than put them in nursing homes.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
26 Jan 07
whoa! haven't heard of those (outdated koko, yikes!), not in isabela nor baguio anyhow :)
@lilmeowsy (685)
• Philippines
12 Dec 06
I will surely take care of them once they get old. I really pity old people who have been put to nursing homes by their sons and daughters. It's too bad, they can't take care of their own parents, the way their parents took care of them when they were still young. I hope that everyone realizes how important family is so that they will be able to make an effort to set things right. I'm so sorry. I have a soft spot for elderly people. Anyway, nice topic! Thanks for posting it! ^^
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
12 Dec 06
we do have the same thoughts. i just hope that today's children can look after their parents when they are old and helpless.
@Ilyasgul (881)
• Pakistan
14 Dec 06
right ideas. one day you will see only that days with yourself
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
31 Dec 06
I think my mom would prefer a nursing home, that is just my mom but if possible i would try to take care of her myself =)
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
6 Jan 07
yes. it's always better if you can take care of your mom and look for her welfare instead of having someone to take care of her.
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
I'm a native Filipino and our culture does not really cater to putting elders to nursing homes. This is one quality trait of Filipinos because we are family oriented and we'd rather want our parents to live with us rather than putting them in nursing homes. Even if we don't come from a well to do family we still want the family to be intact as this makes us happy.
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
Oh, I forgot! Yes, I would be taking care of my parents when they grow old.
@anirudhan (183)
• India
23 Dec 06
our children are looking to us for lessons of life..if we give that lesson to our children no doubt we also get that from them...so for showing our gratitude..for showing that we are not just animals..for showing that as a best example for our children i think it is better to look after our parents in our home with love.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
24 Dec 06
yep. it's true. we should pass on to our children good virtues. how? by doing good to our parents.
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
I am a Filipino and custom dictates me to take care of them until they die. It is rather sad to see other people leaving their parents in nursing homes. Although I understand the fact that Americans are generally workaholics and would not have time for petty things such as taking care of the elderly. It is however very rewarding to take care of the elderly and to let them know that you appreciate them for all the hard work they have done for you.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
6 Jan 07
yes. and i am glad i am a filipino, too. the drive within me to take care of my parents is too deep that i can't see myself leaving them in nursing homes.
@harsha500 (161)
• United States
5 Jan 07
when parents are old means they are equal to kids.when we are kids our parents strained much to take care of us.Then how could we leave them in nursing homes?Definitely i will take care of my parents.It is a golden opportunity to show our love and care which are most needed for them during this time.Do u agree with me or not?
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
6 Jan 07
i agree. it's just like we are paying back what our parents have done to us which is just right.
@goldjay (465)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I will do whatever I feel is best at that time. Right now my mom is perfectly great living on her own. If she ever needed to come live with me, I would gladly make room for her and do whatever I needed to do to make her comfortable here. If a nursing home were what she wanted or for some other reason was the best option, then I would find the best one that I could and I would still be with her as much as I could to make sure that her care was adequate and that she were comfortable and happy.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
6 Jan 07
yes. some parents just don't want to be a burden to their children and prefer to be in nursing homes. but i still hope you get the chance to take care of them in their remaining years on earth.
@paulyn (81)
• Philippines
7 Jan 07
hi! personally, if my parents would grow old, out of %100, theres a %70 chance / probability that i will not be sending them to the home for the aged. but im not saying that putting them in nursing homes are not good. its also safe there, they will be able to have friends there too. but if i will be putting them there, i will be visiting them from time to time. but personally, its not that im against it, i will not put them in a nursing home. i really love them and i cant stand seeing them there sleeping with other old people...
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
7 Jan 07
i understand what you mean. but loving kids as us, we want to take care of our parents when they are old.
@Deane_2005 (1644)
• Philippines
7 Jan 07
I will probably take care of my parents and never put them in any housing institution. Filipinos will never do such thing. I don't mind taking care of my parents even if they will become old.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
7 Jan 07
that's why we are always proud to be pinoys!
• United States
12 Dec 06
I would say they will live with me but it all depends on the situation. If they need a lot of care and attention I would probably look for a good nursing home. In home nurses are expensive around here. So i guess it all depends on the situation
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
12 Dec 06
hmmm. but i still hope you can be there to support them and that you can find time to take care of them.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
15 Dec 06
I just read about nursing home in the Reader's Digest for Dec. It is really scary. Old people dying in pain and being neglected. getting bed sores, and letting them become dehydrated. That's the last place I would put any family. Don't know if home health care is any better. Read the article "Deadly Neglect" if you don’t get the readers Digest go here and read the article http://www.rd.com/content/openContent.do?contentId=31303
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
15 Dec 06
i've heard scary stories in nursing homes for the elderlies, too. it's just so sad they could not get proper health care. and yep. i will read through the link later. happy holidays!
@homediva (113)
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
I was thinking of that thought recently 'coz I observed that my parents are getting older, but not that too old they're incapable of even taking care of themselves. I can't promise or commit myself of taking care of them when the day comes but I think I'll do, that's the only way I can repay them back for taking good care of me.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
14 Dec 06
yep. after all, they are your parents. they took care of you when you were young and vulnerable. so, it's payback time!
@sou7887 (1164)
• India
14 Dec 06
we should take care of them both physically and mentally.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
14 Dec 06
that's a good point to ponder. yep. not just physically but mentally and emotionally. be there with them and talk to them. they need someone to talk to and lighten up life
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
Filipinos are known for having close 'family' ties. That's why the average number of persons living in an average filipino home is about six. It's normal for us to still stay at our parent's house when we're 18. We live with our grannies up to the time when the man above takes them. peace!
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
14 Dec 06
yes. and i love being a filipino. we are value oriented and we respect the elders and we take care of our parents all the time.
@Ilyasgul (881)
• Pakistan
14 Dec 06
when parents old, should take care them and put them with before of your eyes.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
14 Dec 06
yes. we should look onto their needs. be there for them.