Love or not?

Jakarta, Indonesia
January 4, 2015 11:18am CST
I've been married for 6 years now, I have 2 great kids, both are boys. My husband live in other town for work, so I just met him several day in month. I feel more distance to him, we never talk each other even when we meet each other. I don't know did I still love him or not. How can I make myself fall in love again with my husband
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10 responses
• China
5 Jan 15
its a little hard...becase you both have to try... but you can be more active and think about the happy memory you have!
• Jakarta, Indonesia
5 Jan 15
Thank you for the advice. I think we should spent time together longer than usually
• China
5 Jan 15
@Indrisanz yesn_ncouple need to be together~yortwo should usually have dinner together~
@enlima (12)
• Malang, Indonesia
5 Jan 15
ask your heart
• Jakarta, Indonesia
5 Jan 15
I still don't know whay my heart want
• China
6 Jan 15
be more thankful and make some surprise in your daily life . to stay a healthy family ,it need more patient and responsible and also some surprise .for example , when your husband gets back from work ,maybe you can try something different meal for you husband .or just to hold a birthday party for him . I think you still love your husband ,try more something different you will find your passion of marriage . wish you good luck .
@mythociate (21438)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
6 Jan 15
Grow up! Sorry if that sounds like 'harsh advice'; but it sounds like you're 'wishing for a fairy-tale happy-ending,' and ... I don't think that's how "love" is I think you're looking for 'the state-of-mind you had when your relationship was new.' That requires some focus & concentration-work from you (maybe your husband too, but I wouldn't count on him doing for you any more than you do for him). In the past, the love was fun and laid no burdens on you but what you felt like carrying; now there are responsibilities (BECAUSE of that love) that have delayed payback, and you have to remember that--tho the payback will come--that's not what you're 'in the relationship for.' I think of 'being a professional musician': the music is great, and inspires feelings in everyone who hears it; but after playing about a dozen shows a week, the musicians don't FEEL that way when they hear themselves play it again. But they have to play it just the same, as if the 'feeling' never faded! That's how you might look at your relationship---maybe you STARTED for 'fun' or 'because you have a special talent,' but "the new wore off" and you realize more-&-more that the relationship is "a job" where you & your husband are 'co-workers' ... it might help to think of your children as 'audience-members,' for whom you & your husband have to 'play' your relationship as if it's "music."
@Qsunny (10)
• Hong Kong
6 Jan 15
Distance destroy love between two person, which means you two exposed in different environment, met different people everyday, and no chance to handle sth together. As time passed, no common topic between the couple and they seems to be stranger. try to share what happened daily to opponent, and license to your husband. Finally, the best way is to move to live with him.
• Guangzhou, China
6 Jan 15
A kiss is still a kiss
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Jan 15
You see communication is the prime factor for strengthening a relationship. You need to speak to your husband as often as possible, when he is with you, you should speak in person. Else, you could speak to him on phone. Remind him that you manage alone without him and you miss him a lot. I believe if you convey your feelings to him, he would reciprocate. All the best.
@hannaxxh (67)
• Orange, California
6 Jan 15
you need talk to him and find the way..... ~~~love always finds a way~~~
• Purwokerto, Indonesia
5 Jan 15
You must tell your husband to move the workplace for your love or divorce
@enlima (12)
• Malang, Indonesia
5 Jan 15
take a look at the similarities and appreciate its diversity , because by looking at the equation we can understand each other