Why does love always turn into hatred ?

India
September 6, 2006 2:15am CST
Why do most relationships go rally ugly and all that is left is hatred ?
6 responses
@wsue1023 (1396)
• United States
7 Sep 06
This doesn't have to happen, but you know we're only human and I think our expectations of others are sometimes too high, so we get angry with one another, get hurt by one another, say things and do things we shouldn't out of this hurt... it's not pretty, but it happens a lot. Before you know it you feel so much anger you can't coexist any longer. Practicing forgiveness and mercy is the best way to get along and stay in love with your friends and family. Next time someone hurts you remember they aren't perfect, far from it... same as you! Forgive and move on with things.
• United States
7 Sep 06
Hate is the opposite of Love which is still a passionate feeling. The real trick is learning to not have feelings for someone anymore wether it be love or hate.
@rainbow (6763)
6 Sep 06
I think when you are certain a person loves you and your guard is down it is easier to feel hurt. Tiredness does not help. The key is not to allow bad feelings to grow, say sorry sometimes even if you do not feel it is your fault or if you are apologised to say I'm sorry too even if you're not but you must be sorry that the situation is out of control. It's not nice to fall out but backing off stops bad feeling brewing. You do hear of people who never argue and let off steam who suddenly up and kill their partner, so perhaps a good fall out does you good.
• India
6 Sep 06
true love never turns into hatred...
• India
6 Sep 06
I do understand this problem because the same thing happend in my life too, although am honest, due to unavoidable circumstances it ended wit hate. It is due to their own problems, if selfishness and lack of mutual understanding exists between the two then only it ends in hate.
@y2ksuprio (850)
• India
6 Sep 06
u have asked a question that is very hard to answer in words,but i can give some examples about it. why darkness comes after light,why + comes after - . when we start loving someone in that time we don't know properly each other,but as we come close we find each other's drawbacks,which we don't know at the starting of relation ship,this draw can be of any type.this drawbacks lead the relationship from love to hatred.