Overcoming an angry situation

@writerjo (1320)
India
July 26, 2015 10:39pm CST
We human-beings get anger in many situations because of a particular person's speech or his activity .. or may be whatever it is .. I just want to share my own idea of overcoming an angry situation . What will you do , if an angry sense arise in your mind ..? Don't express immediately and lose your status , spend that particular moment without speaking or expressing anything to the opposite party . Drink little water or close your eyes for half minute and avoid the moment as a standby mode .After some time talk to the person in a explainative manner with little love & honour .. It is a very difficult & comes easy if it is practised .. I think it will a good discussional topic .. Start writing your thoughts shared here ..
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• United States
28 Jul 15
People in general (rarely) get me angry. Bad situations get me angry, or worse yet, scary situations. I get angry because then I have something new to worry about. And I'm tired of worrying, so I get mad and scared at the same time.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
28 Jul 15
Yes , its a very bitterful situation ..I agree your words .. @Druscilla0324 ....
@dpk262006 (53822)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep 15
@Druscilla034 - How come some people don't make you angry?
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@cupkitties (6702)
• United States
27 Jul 15
I just ask to be left alone for a few minutes. That or I just leave before I say something regretful. I would also suggest to others if somebody is angry and they ask you to let them alone: Back. Off. Do not follow them, do not argue and nag. Just let them be. when they're ready, they'll come talk to you. Other wise you've got nobody to blame but yourself when they put a spinning kick to your face.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
28 Jul 15
Well Said @cupkitties ..
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@prashu228 (22065)
• India
15 Aug 15
good suggestion shasta . I will try to follow your suggestion and many don't do what you have said they just keep on following the angered person and gets scolded , later they regret of following the person.
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@sharon6345 (106464)
• United States
19 Aug 15
I would just need to walk away and maybe not return to calm down a little.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
19 Aug 15
Well said @sharon6345
• Lakewood, Colorado
15 Aug 15
I run away from angry situations. Most of the time I can do that. I do not bother with it as it is nothing but trouble.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
15 Aug 15
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@GardenGerty (90213)
• Marion, Kansas
28 Jul 15
A little space to calm down helps a lot. Respect is often helpful.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
28 Jul 15
Certainly ! ! @GardenGerty , But it will come after a good practice ..
@Jlyn10 (10437)
• Malaysia
21 Sep 15
It depends on what causes the anger. If it is a serious matter, I don't usually let go that easily. I always want to have my last say.. Gosh, I am naughty.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
22 Sep 15
@Jlyn10 Whatever it may be ... I wonder that it could not happen to you easliy .. Great
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@Jlyn10 (10437)
• Malaysia
22 Sep 15
@writerjo No, it doesn't happen to me much cause I am a funny person and a funny person doesn't cause people to get angry that easily.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
25 Sep 15
@Jlyn10 Very nice to hear and keep it up . I think you are in cool zone and so you are saying like that .. Anyway be funny and make happy others , you are blessed
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@dpk262006 (53822)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep 15
I adopt the approach suggested by you. If anyone makes me angry, I try to count 1 to 10 in my mind and allow me some moments to ponder. I believe may be that person is getting angry due to his own frustrations or problems and not because of me. I do not react immediately and when the person gets normal, I share my point of view with him.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
21 Sep 15
@dpk262006 Your type of approach comes to a matured person . The point of understanding the opposite party you mentioned is really good .
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@dpk262006 (53822)
• Delhi, India
21 Sep 15
@writerjo - We need to empathize with others.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
25 Sep 15
@dpk262006 That is what a difficult factor here .. If one has the ability to empathize with others , no problem at all
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• Philippines
19 Aug 15
I used to be quite and calm when I'm angry, and in most cases I tend to get out of the situation and let myself relaxed for a while and wait for the things to cool down before starting to talk so that no bad words can be said and to avoid hurting others too.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
19 Aug 15
@Katriona_22 you have this type of mannerism , so you got good mothers in your life I think , am I correct .. ? showing or expressing anger is an unimportant one . Beautifully said ..
• Philippines
19 Aug 15
@writerjo I also don't want to stress myself out, its better to be quite when angry so that situation won't get worst, but there are times that I cried because I can't express how angry I am. Yeah, I have two good mothers and I owe it up to them, being good still amidst the anger feeling.
@writerjo (1320)
• India
19 Aug 15
@Katriona_22 Its ok sometimes . Very difficult to be calm , in all angry state . Prayers , Meditations helps us to overcome . Try & succeed Katriona
@dodo19 (27729)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Sep 15
This is definitely good advice. I will remember this. Thanks!
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
21 Sep 15
@dodo19 Welcome and Let us all be a cool person in any angry situation .. Nothing is Impossible ..
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@dodo19 (27729)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
22 Sep 15
@writerjo completely agree.
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@mom210 (5800)
• Atlanta, Georgia
24 Sep 15
I try to bite my tongue there are times when I open my mouth and everything just falls out though.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
25 Sep 15
@mom210 Of course we are human beings with all type of emotions . It is nature and falls out though without our control sometimes .
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@tessastv (276)
• Inverness, Scotland
20 Sep 15
It's difficult to overcome an angry situation but these tips could really work.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
21 Sep 15
@tessastv It is not easy to overcome .. But it is possible after some practice Thanks
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• India
15 Sep 15
I had experienced same very you are pick of anger we do or speaks lots of things which can only regreted later. But one thing is sure it is very complicated to deal with. I am also trying to ignore a other peoples immediate reactions came out with instant anger and give them to time cool down to avoid loss of my cool mood
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
21 Sep 15
@utkarshan28 Yes because nobody wants to lose their cool mood in any situation .
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@allknowing (55132)
• India
19 Aug 15
The fact that you are asking this question is half the battle won. Some think it is normal to vent one's anger. Having said that the best as many have said here is to leave and come back when as they say time takes care of diffusing the situation somewhat.
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
19 Aug 15
@allknowing .. You have judged the journey of this topic . To leave & come back will be the apt solution . Wonderfully implemented the word .." diffusing the situation " . I will be happy if we all follow & succed .. Thanks for your participation
@Boonie1 (431)
• Ashdod, Israel
19 Aug 15
I will probably get away from the situation for a while, trying to relax and come back with a calm mind
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
19 Aug 15
@Boonie1 Yes handling the critical moment in a smart way is surely good for us commented good
• Austin, Texas
17 Aug 15
Provided you know you're not the reason for the anger, let the angry person shout it out while you tune them out. Hone back in every now and then. Sometimes from the bits and pieces you extract you can figure out what's bothering them. Worse case scenario, they'll yell until they get tired and then shut up! If they get violent never stay in harm's way. RUN!
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
18 Aug 15
@cmoneyspinner Your comment itself cool .. I have just laughed .. Said Amazingly ! ! Yes an angry man open his mouth and shut his eyes ...
@prashu228 (22065)
• India
15 Aug 15
Hey Ebenz indeed it is a good topic to discuss. I think we saw in many movies to control anger they start counting 1 to 10 which is hard to do . I prefer to stay calm without saying a word when i angry. I hope hope it is simpler than counting numbers which we forget to do while we r angry .
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@writerjo (1320)
• India
15 Aug 15
@prashu228 sometimes we may even angrily count the numbers .. So keeping quiet and try to pass that particular moment will be better I think ..