~Dead Site~

Valdosta, Georgia
August 5, 2015 4:32pm CST
Well since the other site is crawling at less than a snails pace I thought I would post this here...Sorry if it's on the more serious side but have to get it off my chest... My mother asked why I had acne on my face earlier. She said is it that time of month? I said no. It is stress. My father laughs and says stress? What stress could you possibly have? I know your mother and I have plenty of stress but you have nothing to stress about. WOW! I laughed in my head-but his comments were not actually funny whatsoever. To say I am over this situation is an understatement for sure.
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@GardenGerty (157016)
• United States
6 Aug 15
Is your husband having any luck with a job? When my grandfather was in his late 80's or 90's he apologized to my mom for how he treated her when she was young. I hope things start going better for you.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Aug 15
He finally just recently found a job which I am very grateful for! Now if only it stays constant, he gets paid, we can save and the car has no more issues we should be able to save and get our own place within a few weeks. I doubt my father will ever apologize to anyone but maybe one day...My mother always has to tell him to say sorry when he does something wrong to anyone. Pretty sad.
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@glasser3 (354)
• Hibbing, Minnesota
6 Aug 15
Everyone is entitled to feel stressed from time to time, It happens to the best of us. I don't personally know you or know what kind of stresses you might be currently facing but I do hope that you find a solution that helps you zen out... Regarding your Dad's comments, I don't know about you but I don't tell my parents every little detail of my life so there are things that stress me out that they don't know about and I think that's pretty normal. I guess I would personally find it very rude and distasteful though if either of them assumed that I wasn't at least a little stressed in my life. With that said, I hope you find a solution to the things that stress you out and that your parents realize the error of their ways in assuming that your life is just rainbows and sparkly unicorns all day and you have nothing in your life to worry about because we all have those things in our lives that keep us up at night.
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@glasser3 (354)
• Hibbing, Minnesota
6 Aug 15
@LovingMyBabies Sounds to me like you and your husband have plenty to be stressed out about, I know in your shoes I would be. I think your Dad could and should show a little compassion considering the position you guys are currently in. Even if it was nice of them to open their home to you guys. Hope you guys are able to get things going your way in the near future!
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Aug 15
I am living with my parents right now-with my husband and children. We were evicted from the home we were in and now we are stuck here. I am so ready to get into our own place. My husband just got a job recently so we haven't been able to save up much money to get our place. Our car broke down last week and that cost my husband 2 days pay last week. Very stressful time in our lives. Him saying that was extremely rude-but then again that's my father...
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
8 Aug 15
You can vent to us and know that we will listen.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
12 Aug 15
@LovingMyBabies I am always here!
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 15
Thank you cynthiann! Sometimes i need to in this current situation.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Aug 15
I haven't had the opportunity to talk to you in quite a while so I really don't know what kind of stresses that you are going through right now but I do know from those that I've faced in my life in the past couple years that there are a lot of physical ailments that can arise out of stress in your life.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Aug 15
Well, we were evicted from the home we were in and now my family is living with my parents again... That is enough stress in itself. But my husband just recently found a job. The car broke down right after he found work and 2 days pay went to fixing it. We have no money saved yet until tomorrow when he gets paid but it won't be much since it's only for a few days. I am SO ready to get our own place, we all are. My father is not an easy person to deal with at all.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Aug 15
WOW! I laughed in my head-but his comments were not actually funny whatsoever. That in itself is a testimony that you are stressed. When one is in stress, almost all humor falls flat and fails. (This comes from a personal experience). I dont know what is the issue right now, but recalling the past interactions, definitely, there are signs and reasons for you to have some stress, if not more. I can only ask you and pray that you start leading a normal, stress free life... Take care dear friend.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Aug 15
@LovingMyBabies I wish you good luck and do pray that things fall in place for you all.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Aug 15
Yes I am. Living with my parents at 30 years old is not easy, especially with children and a husband. My husband finally just found a job, just hoping to be able to save money and actually get our own place again. Our life has always been a roller coaster and probably always will be...
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• United States
5 Aug 15
I'm sorry, and you can make a serious post, not all have to be funny or light. I know I have made serious posts in the past...many times.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Aug 15
Thank you for understanding. Sometimes I just need to vent here or the other place.
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• United States
6 Aug 15
@LovingMyBabies I used to vent here a lot. I haven't since I been back, but I have had nothing to vent about.
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@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
12 Aug 15
Oh dear... my daughter, bless her, lives with us, with her two daughters and she can be so abrasive.. things just pop out of her mouth and she responds to things so emotionally.. Her attitude and words hurt - though she has improved immensely actually but still sometimes has her moments still. She doesn't get charged for housing nor babysitting, nor my helping to taxi my 16 year old grand daughter to work this summer.. Except my gas light is on today and I'm broke, so I'll need some gas money tomorrow if I'm to drive.. She has offered gas money kind of offhandedly, but I've yet to see any.. Not that she doesn't mean to not give any, I do know she does.. Hope things continue to improve for you!! (thanks for the opportunity to vent!)
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• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 15
We pay my parents $100 a week to live here and we are sleeping on the FLOOR-don't even have a bedroom to sleep in. Plus, we are applying for food stamps-when they come in we will be supplying ALL food in this house as well. Plus right before we moved here we were paying my parents $200 a WEEK to watch their grandchildren while we worked!! We do a lot for them as well, we don't just live off them and do nothing for them...not at all.
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• United States
14 Aug 15
@GardenGerty oh yes, negativity can really pull ya down after a while!
@GardenGerty (157016)
• United States
13 Aug 15
@LovingMyBabies and @flowerchilde it is really hard to share a household with adults, but @LovingMyBabies, I have followed you a long time and have been astounded at how you have been treated.@flowerchilde this is how it has been with my sister. Instead of gas money, which she never offers anymore, she wants to take me out to eat, which is not good for me and it also takes too much of my time. She is in her own home now, but I still transport. I could not handle all of her negativity.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
13 Aug 15
Sorry that your situation is so stressful. I hope that since your hubby got a job that you will be able to move into your own place soon. How are the kids?
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@much2say (53650)
• Los Angeles, California
6 Aug 15
Ugh. Sometimes people just don't know how to get out of their meanness - it's as if he has nothing better to say than to just be mean. As always, sorry you are having to go through this. I wish it were as easy as covering your ears and going la la la til you guys are able to get out - I hope you move outta there soon!
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 15
@much2say Yeah he has always been mean since I was 10 years old and he was hurt at work. Now that I am an adult he still knows how to get to me and push my buttons. I hope we can get out soon too, I keep praying for a miracle!
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@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
10 Aug 15
I really can't relate with that because ever since my problem are some bits of freckles in my face , but when i use those creams they seem to vanish .
@cherigucchi (14885)
• Philippines
7 Aug 15
May be he just does not see things as they are. I am still on B
@GardenGerty (157016)
• United States
13 Aug 15
I am still at B but put more energy in here.
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@cherigucchi (14885)
• Philippines
14 Aug 15
@GardenGerty I also read your posts there
@Jackalyn (7560)
• Oxford, England
13 Aug 15
I have a mother who has made remarks like this all my life. I try to let it roll off my back and ignore it. It is easier now she is in her eighties.
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@jstory07 (133739)
• Roseburg, Oregon
23 Aug 15
I hope your husbands keeps the job and all of you can be together again with a new start.
• Avenel, New Jersey
12 Sep 15
everyone has stress!! that conversation in and of itself would cause me stress....
• Delhi, India
6 Aug 15
it could be.