Do you want to be like your mother?

New Delhi, India
August 25, 2015 8:13am CST
I came across a quote which has inspired me to write this post. Before I share the quote I simply want to ask you, would you love to step into your mother’s shoe? Though I am expecting a mixed reaction from the readers, if I have to answer it first then I would firmly say ‘yes’. Well, it’s quite a big mission for me. A thought of spending days and nights without parents was a nightmare but God has His own way to make us learn. Now that when my parents are not in this world any more I have learnt to live my life without them but certainly they are very much present in my everyday thoughts. If I analyse my worth I find myself holding a negligible place in comparison to my mother. What a wonderful person she was! I am emphasizing on the fact that she was an extraordinary person and naturally it makes her a great mother by default. From my childhood I had witnessed her popularity, the respect she enjoyed was enormous, the love she showered was selfless and never knew to be biased, as an extremely patient person while anyone fell sick in a big joint family, a great cook and all these made her an extraordinary homemaker so my siblings and I felt blessed to have her as our mother. I aspire to be like my mother just like the quote: ‘I hear a lot of people say how they would hate to turn out like their mother. If I became half the woman my mom is I would be so grateful. I love you mom.’, but it’s next to impossible because my basic nature never allows me to ignore myself completely but my beloved mother had always put others before her. She was indeed a great soul!
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@kataomoi (708)
• Japan
25 Aug 15
I love my mother and wouldn't mind turning out like her, but I would really prefer not to. My mother's had a tough life and it took her a lot of time and effort to get us to where we are today. Instead of trying to be like her, I think I'd want to be better than her so then I can afford to take care of her.
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• New Delhi, India
25 Aug 15
@kataomoi You will definitely be well placed to take care of your mother. It is not necessary to become like our mother but in your case what I felt is you don't want to go through all the hardships she faced and that's quite natural. Who would like to face obstacles in life? But see you will definitely want to be as strong as her to deal with such situations in life. Isn't it?
• Indonesia
26 Aug 15
Unfortunately no. I'm not close to my mother since I was kids. She scream to me too often and I don't like it. She is closer to my sister and she never try to approach me. I learn from her and love her but I don't see myself want to become her. I hope to be a better version
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• New Delhi, India
26 Aug 15
@redvakaurvaki It is a general conception that a mother is always right but as I go through the various comments I have received till now have given me a food for thought. Some mothers need to amend themselves or else it will create a huge gap between the mother and her children. I wish you to become a better version. God bless!
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• Indonesia
31 Aug 15
Thank you, @Shampasaid. I myself don't like that stereotype that parent always on the right side. That stereotype suffering me a lot honestly. It makes me feel like showing my opinion is a mistake. Most of time, I have different opinion with them and the only thing they know, I against them. They never know how much I care to them
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• New Delhi, India
31 Aug 15
@redvakaurvaki It happens with all those children who speak up their mind and invariably there will be some differences. So, don't bother at all. Just never allow the love for your parents to die. One day parents will understand you. God bless!
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
30 Aug 15
I have a wonderful mother who is kind , very understanding and very loving and I share all my life's details with her and ask for her advise at times ! I am the oldest of her children and do have some of her qualities but on the whole I am different from her and I would not want to change that since we are both different individuals brought up differently and have gone through different kinds of lifestyle..
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• New Delhi, India
30 Aug 15
@kiran8 It's quite natural and I think that your approach is perfect because then only you can maintain your natural attributes intact.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
26 Aug 15
You have a very kind and good mother indeed ! No wonder you want to emulate her . Me, i am like my mother in many ways . Not that i don't want them , but i am proud to be at least like her too.
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• New Delhi, India
26 Aug 15
@SIMPLYD Absolutely true! My mother was an epitome of love and knew how to make her household worth living. I definitely want to become like her simply to enjoy love and respect from every quarter but side by side I cannot give up my personal wishes which I know are not harmful rather very harmless to others.
@sofssu (23662)
26 Aug 15
I am okay with being who I am .. I have certainly taken out some pages from both my parents books but I guess I have processed them to be me in my own way. I would love to have her ability in solving math problems.. but I don't want to be a passable cook like her. She was wonderful in her own way. I enjoy being me.
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• New Delhi, India
26 Aug 15
@sofssu I think you have the right attitude. It is always good to emulate the positive qualities and to work upon the not so good qualities so that it becomes one's strength.
@fufurinha (11930)
• Portugal
25 Aug 15
Being a mother isn't easy at all.
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• New Delhi, India
25 Aug 15
@fufurinha Yes, indeed it is very tough. I hope to become like my mother one day but it's very difficult.
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@fufurinha (11930)
• Portugal
25 Aug 15
@Shampasaid i don't know what kind of mother I will be too.
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• New Delhi, India
25 Aug 15
@fufurinha The person who thinks like this has to be a very good mother. So, just don't worry. God bless!
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
7 Oct 15
it depends. In certain aspects I would like to be like her...but there are mistakes that I consider she made/makes and I wouldn't want to repeat them
• Delhi, India
26 Aug 15
thats awesome
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@LadyDuck (457822)
• Switzerland
25 Aug 15
I love my mother very much, but we have very different personalities, I am more like my father and I love this.
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• New Delhi, India
25 Aug 15
@LadyDuck Glad to meet you here. It is quite obvious because you cannot shed away your own attributes just to follow your parents. As I cannot give up me factor entirely. I am happy too but when I recall my mother's personality I only wonder that how a person can ignore herself totally for whole lot of people.
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