How do you let go of someone?

Mauritius
August 26, 2015 2:15am CST
Letting go is undoubtedly one of the most difficult thing someone will have to do in his or her life. Even in my life, I tried to let go but it has been so tough and I always fail. I love someone for years but we are not together. Yet, I love her in the distance and my silence. How do you let go of someone? Is it really important to let go? Tell me more about your experience. I would love to learn from what you have been through.
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@SIMPLYD (81467)
• Philippines
26 Aug 15
Letting go is the hardest thing to do indeed . What you should have in mind is to love yourself first . Only then , will you be able to let go .
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• Mauritius
26 Aug 15
WOW! That's the first time someone gave me this piece of advise. I will surely try this. But when you say love yourself, can you elaborate more what you exactly mean though I have a blur idea of it. Thank you.
@allknowing (68726)
• India
27 Aug 15
My motto is 'Love yourself and help save planet earth' I need not elaborate on this. A bit of analysis and you will know.
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@SIMPLYD (81467)
• Philippines
27 Aug 15
@allknowing I don't understand why in addition help save planet earth ? Sorry , i am slow in analyzing it.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
26 Aug 15
In all seriousness, I dont believe in letting go of someone whom I love. If, I love someone, I love him/her. That is all. I dont expect reciprocation of my feelings and I have no expectations and even I am not that possessive that I need him/her to be around me physically, mentally or anything else. If I am that possessive or have a desire to be around him/her, I think my love is flawed. To me Love essentially means to give. I know, it is quite tough to keep myself that way and I have not been that strong yet. There are times when I falter, but I am still on the paths of practicing and mastering that belief.
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• Mauritius
27 Aug 15
I like this response. It has a lot to do with detachment - loving without possessing. Thank you for shedding light on this subject. But, I think you'll agree with me that this comes only with great practice.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Aug 15
@excellence7 It surely needs a lot of practice and control. I am still trying to master this but many around know that I am impatient and easily get bored doing the same kind of stuff specially when I dont get results quicker
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• Mauritius
27 Aug 15
@thesids All the best in your mastery of this practice. I will try too.
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@GardenGerty (101748)
• United States
27 Aug 15
If you truly love someone you want the best for them. Even if that is not being with you. It is hard and it takes practice. You also have to tell yourself that not being with that person does not mean that you are not a good person as well. If you love someone you are equally important.
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• Mauritius
27 Aug 15
Right. Loving is not about owning; it is about setting free. I keep convincing myself that this is the ultimate reality but yet, I often fail in practice as I dream of having her next to me for the rest of my life. It's really hard.
@allknowing (68726)
• India
27 Aug 15
As long as you do not search for another, staying in love would be my advice.
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• Mauritius
27 Aug 15
I think we love only once; the rest is a compromise.
@LadyDuck (170893)
• Switzerland
26 Aug 15
You cannot ask your heart to stop beating, so you cannot ask your spirit to forget someone you love.
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• Mauritius
26 Aug 15
I agree with you but loving in silence is one of the toughest things to do, but the love in my heart makes me stronger than ever.
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@swissheart (6486)
• Romania
27 Aug 15
yes you're right. letting them go it's one of the hardest things to do but there are moments when people give you no other choice. in such times you simply have to think rational and seek for the best solution for yourself. don't listen to sad music and try to go out instead of spending time at home
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@jstory07 (69198)
• Roseburg, Oregon
27 Aug 15
Letting go is hard but you need to let go and move on.
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• Mauritius
27 Aug 15
Sometimes, that's what I wonder about - the 'How' part of it. But to be honest, I am a bit selfish though as deep inside, there is a fight with myself - do I really want to let go or not?
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@cherigucchi (4866)
• Philippines
27 Aug 15
Its not easy I tell you. You may have let go the person literally but in your heart and mind, it does take a lot of time to let go.
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• Mauritius
27 Aug 15
That's so true. And do you think it is ever possible? Won't that love stay forever in some spaces of the heart? For me, it is the case and I like this feeling despite all.
• Philippines
26 Aug 15
hi kevin, Letting go of someone you love will never be easy I gave my ex countless chances and I forgive him over and over but I came to the point that I get tired of what he is doing I don't have a choice but to let him go it was painful but I need to love myself more than I love him and I never regret the day that I let him go. happy mylotting
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• Mauritius
27 Aug 15
"Loving oneself" That's a good way to comfort the heart, the mind and the soul. I do love myself but being in a society that wants to shape you repeatedly, it becomes difficult to live for myself. There are always expectations around.
• Delhi, India
26 Aug 15
its difficult. but at times you can by diverting your mind
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• Mauritius
27 Aug 15
Still, difficult.