Do You Think Kiss Your Kids on Lips is Pervert & Sexually?

Indonesia
August 31, 2015 12:48am CST
It's about few weeks ago, I read random article shared on Facebook about this topic. On the article explain how kissing your kids on lips could be pervert and it could be sexually. This article is quite controversial, especially for every parent, so on the comments, people show their disagreemen t. In parenting, kissing kids is showing affection. Normal parent would never think it's sexually because they just watch it as love expression, no lust at all. Of course parent know kissing on lips only given on certain age of their kids ( when they were toddler or pre-school perhaps ). When their kids grow up, parent will give them kiss on cheek or head to show their affection. I know we live in crazy world where parent could abuse their kids sexually. But we know normal parent would not do that.
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@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
31 Aug 15
A smack kiss on the lips is okay , not perverted .
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• Indonesia
2 Sep 15
We completely agree with you @SIMPLYD , it's not pervert at all
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@allknowing (130088)
• India
1 Sep 15
My personal opinion is that just as no one kisses each other on one's lips except those who are in love kissing a baby on their lips is certainly not called for.
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@allknowing (130088)
• India
2 Sep 15
@redvakaurvaki It is unhealthy for a toddler when the saliva of an adult touches their lips.
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• Indonesia
8 Sep 15
@allknowing Oh well, no, I don't mean to go that far, kissing lips on baby and children are only seconds on their lips. I don't mean saliva will touch them to distribute germ or virus. Of course it's important to maintain their health. Adult also need to make restriction to keep distance when they feel not well
• Indonesia
2 Sep 15
Kissing our kids on certain age -in toddler age- could be considered too I guess
@kaka135 (14921)
• Malaysia
31 Aug 15
I don't think so. As you said, normal parents will not think it's pervert and sexually abuse. I like to kiss my little girl on her lips, cheek and forehead. I usually just stay on the lips for a very short while. I don't kiss on my 6 year old son's lips often, but sometimes he does that to me. Perhaps as you said, it really depends on age, though I didn't really notice that.
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• Indonesia
2 Sep 15
We all, as parent, will use our instinct to recognize the limitation on our kids which allow to do and which one not allowed. I think we should not too worry about that kissing expression
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@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
31 Aug 15
I just kiss my daughter in second in her lips But I can stay forfew minuets in her cheek I think it would be fine as long we mean it just to show our love and not for sexually harrasment
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• Indonesia
2 Sep 15
True @ifa225. It's just about love, no sexually harrasment. Parent know this and they will stop at certain age of their children
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@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
3 Sep 15
@redvakaurvaki I don't kiss my son in his lips, only a second perhaps in his cheeks. He is 14 yo now But to my 9 yo daughter, sometimes I kiss her in her lips
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• Indonesia
4 Sep 15
@ifa225 I don't know that your son is almost teenager, sist. Of course on that age, we don't kiss him on lips. Especially, usually young teenager will shy to get kiss from their parent.
@vandana7 (98520)
• India
10 Sep 15
The first thought that crosses the mind is, that is quite like a bird's peck. :) But then, it could be something else too. Though I would not directly suspect it to be wrong, I would not do it, or encourage others to do it. If we the normal folks can restrain our feelings, we may save our children and those of others from gestures that the child may look at as normal, which may eventually lead to something more sinister. So though it is not wrong per se in 90 percent cases, we should still avoid it. And how about a medical reason? Don't pass on the germs. The child is not equipped for it.
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@vandana7 (98520)
• India
11 Sep 15
@redvakaurvaki ..it is also very well to presume that the child will understand the difference between our folks and others. My neighbor's kid is three and a half years old, and he still considers me to be part of his family though we don't dine together or even visit each other that much. See what I mean? Of course, I am fond of kids, so it may be the reason that they take it easily to me. But that age is enough for anybody to hurt him. Yesterday, lift was not working and his grandma was not able to climb down the stairs to go and pick the child. The school bus arrived, and they gave the child to me. While the task was over, it disturbed me. They shouldn't be giving the child without prior intimation, even if the child knows the person. And at times, one of the parents can also be from that 10 percent, right? We never know until it is too late. :( And the child may take longer to understand the difference. If mama does it, what is wrong if uncle does is, or aunty does it? Development speed varies from child to child. I don't say it is wrong - or the intentions are wrong. I merely feel the child's safety is jeopardized if we get carried away with our feelings to display our overwhelming love. At times, we may unwittingly be putting another child at risk, because he or she may feel if ABC's mother is doing it, and nobody is objecting then it is ok if xyz who is not my parent kisses me that way.
• Indonesia
11 Sep 15
by instinct, I think parent could show it indirectly that kissing between parents and kids only do for an affection and couldn't do with non-family member. It's hard to explain but I guess at certain point children will understand by nature that it should not doing with anyone else -as they understand the feeling on their parent is different with feeling to others. Instead, parent should give the early education about this. As long as it's under control and parent know the limitation, I think it shouldn't be problem. Yes, I'm aware about germs and virus, so I notice this as warning and I will be careful with this
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@LadyDuck (454979)
• Switzerland
31 Aug 15
I have read only two days ago a report by a team of Swiss Psychologists. In their opinion it's not a good habit to kiss the kids on their lips. The article was very long and we have no children, so I only read some lines and the title. I know that my parents never kissed me on the lips.
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• Indonesia
2 Sep 15
As children grow, parent will stop kissing them on lips and they will only kiss on forehead or cheek. Perhaps every parent with different culture will have various opinion on this matter
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@LadyDuck (454979)
• Switzerland
2 Sep 15
@redvakaurvaki I am sure that different cultures have different habits.
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• Indonesia
4 Sep 15
@LadyDuck True, we are bordered by culture and habit. The important thing, we should know which one is better to raise our children
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