Relationships and money

I believe men are more spendthrifts. I too could never save money. Somehow two things I have never been able to understand - colors and saving money. When I was healthy and earning I spend more on my food, my hobbies and ended up saving almost nothing. But yes, I would always ensure to cut down expenses if I was low on money. Ever since I married, I ensured to hand over my cheques to my wife as I trust her more when it comes to wise spending of it. Somehow, women have more sense of all these things (my experience). We do clash and disagree on many many things why only money. With respect to money, we mostly disagree on - she manages to live in the barest minumum and I keep telling her that what for you earn money if you do not make use some of it to make your life comfortable at least, if not luxurious. A very recent example: Sometime in Feb,2015, she had some backaches and was unable to wash clothes (we used to handwash), I suggested buying a washing machine. We had lots of arguments on that and finally the purchase idea was cancelled. We eventually got one in July. Now, my point is - eventually we did buy, so why not earlier before things start getting complicated. We had to shell out about 50 USD extra due to the delay.

My husband and I don't disagree too much about money. We're both pretty careful with our money, and try not to overspend, or anything like that. We may occasionally disagree but it doesn't happen too often and we can easily compromise.

My husband is a lot like your ex boyfriend. He wants to have expensive things and buy a lot of stuff... but I would rather save, get the bills paid, and live within our means. Usually when we have different plans for the money, we can talk each other in or out of our ideas. Sometimes he can talk me into spending our money, sometimes I can talk him into saving the money. Lately we've both been a lot better about saving and getting the bills paid on time.

I would have gotten tired of that ex pretty fast! My husband and I often disagree on money issues, but I give him credit in that he does pay the bills before he spends on "fun" things. Our disagreements come because he only spends the "fun" money on himself and I never get a share of it. I literally have to BEG him for cash if I need some.