What a long day...

@patgalca (14301)
Orangeville, Ontario
September 7, 2015 1:49am CST
It is the holiday weekend, but we didn't anticipate this. My daughter's university is on the way to the Canadian/U.S. border at Niagara. Yes, there were a lot of American vehicles heading in that direction but today was Sunday and Monday is a holiday. So why was so much traffic. We did this trip last year and didn't have a problem. The usually 1 1/2 hour trip took us 3 hours! Then my daughter's mood changed as soon as we got there and I could say and do no right. I was regretting even going. Her "male friend" drove his vehicle as it is a large pick-up and the only vehicle that could carry her bed. So once we were all together, I became an outsider. They sure didn't seem to mind me buying them dinner though. I didn't head home until 7:00 at night. And of course the busy traffic had changed directions and I was in it once again. This wasn't as bad though. Only an extra half an hour to get home. I'm never doing this again. She can get whoever she wants to move her next year but it's not going to be me. The lack of appreciation is grating on me. To top it off, during this long drive (the young one was driving), I got several texts from my older daughter who was having a major hissy fit at home because she couldn't find the two pieces of her bathing suit. I received messages of "I am so over this" and "Whatever". Of course I came home to a basement that was a mess because she decided to leave it like that after looking for her bathing suit. Not sure she ever found it but couldn't understand why she didn't just wear shorts and a shirt with a bra on. This girl is 22 years old and has been acting like a 2 year old lately. I don't know how much more of it I can take. Maybe things will cool down when hubby gets home and/or she starts training for her new job. I don't know but it's totally unacceptable behaviour and short of kicking her out, there's nothing I can do about it.
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@LadyDuck (151606)
• Switzerland
7 Sep 15
I feel sorry for you, you had a difficult day and the other daughter was not helpful at all. When does your hubby come back home?
@patgalca (14301)
• Orangeville, Ontario
7 Sep 15
My elder daughter is more upset with her sister than with me. It's just that she erupts over things instead of voicing her feelings, which she did today. This guy the young one has been hanging with has totally dominated her life and her older sister doesn't like him and feels she is losing her sister. I feel I am losing my family. I talked to hubby today. He is returning Thursday evening and scheduled to go back to work Thursday night for four night shifts. I begged him to take Thursday night off and spend some time with me. I was crying to him on the phone about the stuff with the girls. Feeling so alone. Lots of tears today.
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@LadyDuck (151606)
• Switzerland
8 Sep 15
@patgalca It's nothing good when one of the sisters (or brother) does not like the boyfriend of the other. I had this experience, my brother feared to lose me, but this is life, it's normal to get married and to live the house. I hope your husband can stay at home Thursday night and help you.
@patgalca (14301)
• Orangeville, Ontario
8 Sep 15
@LadyDuck I have to admit, I'm not crazy about this guy. It worries me that he has absolutely no friends whatsoever and needs to spend every waking moment with my daughter. Cell phone bill shows phone calls as long as 150 minutes. Someone said he would be a good man, giving of himself to his wife and not going out with the guys, but he is just too needy and I'm still on the fence with his personality.
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@Beatburn (3912)
• Philippines
8 Sep 15
I don't know but seems like she needs more of your attention. Maybe she just needs to calm down.
@patgalca (14301)
• Orangeville, Ontario
8 Sep 15
What she needs is time with her sister without hearing about "G" all the time. And when I bring her sister up it aggravates her. The fact that she couldn't find her bathing suit was based on her anger towards her sister. I found that home after I got home. I don't expect anymore outbursts now that a) she will be starting the job she always wanted next week and b) her sister is gone away. I just hope they continue to text and snap chat together.
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@Beatburn (3912)
• Philippines
9 Sep 15
@patgalca I hope so too so that they continue to bond as sisters.
@dodo19 (32527)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
8 Sep 15
I hope things get better for you. I'm sorry things are like this for you.