If You Found Out Someone Is Cheating on Someone, What Would You Do?

@owstalaga (4561)
Philippines
September 13, 2015 10:50am CST
A few years ago I learned a gf of a colleague was cheating on him. I wasn't friends with the guy at all but I saw him all the time. Well I did my research first and found out she was the gf of course. Why I did the research? Well he was giving me the feels and I didn't like it. Good thing I did my research too! So what I did was I avoided him like the plague and only talked to him when he talked to me (rarely). And then one day, God knows why, I went to the doctor somewhere and saw the gf there with another guy! Coincidence? I don't know, but the doctor asked her if the guy with her was the bf and she did not deny it at all. What woman would not deny if the guy was not her bf right? So here I was avoiding someone on the verge of cheating only to find out the gf herself was cheating. What a scenario eh? And then another time I got in the elevator and there they were, the gf w/ the 2nd bf. Oh man. The gf worked in the same building but on another floor and a different department. And from what I gathered, the 2nd bf knows the 1st bf exists. No I didn't tell my co-worker about it because it was none of my business (even if I wanted to). Eventually they split (without my involvement of course) and months after that I resigned. Didn't want to be some kind of a third wheel or a even a rebound so I felt good not having any involvement with them at all. I didn't feel any sense of loss not having said anything but what would you do if you saw/experienced something like that? Would you get involved even if the person wasn't even your friend at all?
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6 responses
• United States
13 Sep 15
About 5 or so years ago, we had 2 mutual friends that were dating for a good while. Ok so far so good. Then we come to find out that the girl was cheating. We were surprised until we found out she is a chronic liar and cheater and had cheated on everyone she has dated. No we did not tell the guy friend of ours because A.) it's not our business or place and B.) I knew he would find out eventually which he did or someone else told him. He has a very passive personality and yeah I know it hurt him, but they broke up and moved on. If it was like my BEST friend, yeah I am going to tell him/her. I guess it sort of depends on how close you guys are personally.
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@owstalaga (4561)
• Philippines
14 Sep 15
Yes that's right. But a few years back, I remember people telling me all sorts of things without me even asking about anything!
@ZHVegas (252)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
13 Sep 15
I would allert the person only if it was my friend. My history teacher back in the time, said that native indies from brazil in the past, with there was a fight in another family, no one would say or point anything, just act as there weren't happening anything, why? Because it's not their problem, is that person problems, Unless that person asks for help, than it's another story. And that's most likely what I follow. The person is my friend and someone I care about? I tell. The person is just someone I know and that I don't know too much? I don't.
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@owstalaga (4561)
• Philippines
13 Sep 15
haha, exactly how I did it. Thanks for sharing, that's very interesting.
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@joygracia (1328)
• Philippines
14 Sep 15
I have this belief that each relationship should be respected and each one should be honest and at least tell their partners they fall out of love rather than cheating. If my friend is cheating on someone I would frankly tell her or him that karma might fall upon him/her if he or she would come to back stab his or her partner. I haven't seen any of my friends cheat yet but if they do I would definitely advise them the right thing to do.
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@owstalaga (4561)
• Philippines
14 Sep 15
That's good to hear then. Don't know any friend who's got a cheating partner yet so I've yet to tell on anyone. But when I was in one, people were telling me this and that without me asking about it.
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@joygracia (1328)
• Philippines
14 Sep 15
@owstalaga Oh.. If you don't mind me asking so you mean you experience being cheated before?
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@owstalaga (4561)
• Philippines
15 Sep 15
@joygracia Uhm no, it was a different matter altogether... I'm not telling.
@cahaya1983 (10043)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 15
I'm so thankful I haven't had to deal with such a situation. If it's someone close to me I would probably let the person know, but ONLY if I'm very very very sure about it. I'm usually not the type who likes to meddle in other people's affairs. I hope I would never have to face that dilemma though!
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@owstalaga (4561)
• Philippines
14 Sep 15
Right. I wouldn't want to cause undue trouble too if anything weren't true. Let's hope you don't experience it then. But you'd be missing out on the fun!
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@cahaya1983 (10043)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 15
@owstalaga Haha no thank you! I won't be able to sleep at night!
@owstalaga (4561)
• Philippines
15 Sep 15
@cahaya1983 Hahaha, it did cause me a few sleepless nights back then.
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@mkrnex (785)
• Bangalore, India
14 Sep 15
Nice thing you did not get involved in that bloody mess.Else it would have been troublesome to you.It is always good to stay away from such things ,since you would have been caught between their fight which is the worst thing to happen. But if the friend is a bestie ,then one should certainely tell as one cannot see a true friend in pain.So earlier the false relation ends the better the chance of recovering!!
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@owstalaga (4561)
• Philippines
14 Sep 15
Yeah I was glad i didn't give in to the "temptation". So far I haven't seen any friend have this problem so it's good.
@cgalavia (1405)
• Philippines
14 Sep 15
I don't want to get involved,it's none of my business but if the guy is somewhat close to me or a friend,family friend,I might give him some clue or told him at all.No one wants to be cheated and it's hurts,so as early as possible,I would tell him so the hurt is not so deep.
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@owstalaga (4561)
• Philippines
14 Sep 15
Oh that's right! Some sort of hint or clue for them to stay away. I did that with another pair.
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