How Many Kids is Too Many?

United States
September 14, 2015 10:08am CST
I hear of some families having 7, 12, even 20 something children! This is just crazy to me. Personally, I don't believe I could handle more than 2 or 3 children! How do those people do it? They must be very emotionally and financially stable. What do you think about having so many children? How many kids would be too many for you?
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@much2say (38813)
• United States
14 Sep 15
For us, we always said 2 and we do have 2 - and we are all quite happy just the way it is! We have friends who have 6 and are doing very well - and then we have others who are pulling their hair out over just 1. I suppose it all depends on the parents - some can handle more, some really shouldn't have had any but I won't go there.
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@Marcyaz (35695)
• United States
15 Sep 15
How true some only want while others want more and as you said some shouldn't have had any.
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@ricki_911 (19264)
• Toronto, Ontario
14 Sep 15
I work with a girl who has 8 brothers/ sisters in total.Now many times with more kids, the older kids take care of the younger. This girl is always free babysitting, or she works to support her lazt mother, and her young siblings. I would never do that, the way her mother takes advantage of her kids, yet continues to have more and more.
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• United States
14 Sep 15
Have you ever seen the show 19 Kids and Counting?
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@ricki_911 (19264)
• Toronto, Ontario
14 Sep 15
@Angelee_27 I hear about it all the time from people, but I haven't personally watched it (I don't have a TV).
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• United States
14 Sep 15
@ricki_911 They have over 20 children now, and not sure if they are planning on stopping anytime soon. I think it's just crazy... but to each their own I suppose.
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@valmnz (12770)
• New Zealand
15 Sep 15
Some people, I have to admit, are natural born parents. And, lets face it, if you're a good parent, the more kids you have the easier it is. The older ones look after the younger ones. Me? I have one child.
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@glenniah (1201)
• Mandurah, Australia
15 Sep 15
Me too, I have only one child and didn't even expect to have him. He is my miracle one and only child
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@dodo19 (32561)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
14 Sep 15
For the most part I know people who come from family of two or three kids. I have three kids and that's enough for us. I know some people have more. I do wonder how they manage, but at the end of the day, we're all different. Some are happy with one child, while others want 20. To each their own.
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@Marcyaz (35695)
• United States
15 Sep 15
Yep to each their own is what I also say.
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@hereandthere (29682)
• Philippines
14 Sep 15
i have many siblings and i notice that they, in turn, have only 2 to 3 kids. not surprising, really.
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@Marcyaz (35695)
• United States
15 Sep 15
So coming from a larger family they don't want a lot of children, well that is understandable.
@dlr297 (5384)
• United States
14 Sep 15
I guess it all depends....My parents had 7 children, my husbands parents had 8 children......My husband and i have 8 children....My oldest daughter has 7 children...Most of the others have 3 or 4.Children...The two youngest are still single and have none yet...but we are hoping for more grand children..... But one of them that have 3 so far are planning to have more....The oldest will start kindergarten next year.....and they are still in their upper twenty's....so they have plenty of time for more...
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• United States
15 Sep 15
the sad truth is that many folks with that many young'uns can't support 'em by 'emselves. some've ne'er e'en paid fer their own young'un to be born - that burden 's well 's feedin' 'em falls on taxpayers. not all, mind'ja, but plenty 'nough. i had 3 myself 'n took in many stragglers 'long the way.
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@Marcyaz (35695)
• United States
15 Sep 15
I had also taken in some stragglers when my boys would bring a friend home who had no place to stay. In my home they had a bed and food on the table as it can be scary for teens out on the street.
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• United States
15 Sep 15
Like I've said before, I think there are a lot of parents that have many children just for the welfare, food stamps, medical, and other benefits they get from the government. Most of them should not even be a parent. It's not right.
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• United States
15 Sep 15
@Angelee_27 pitiful, aint it? too many 've not been taught/or learnt to stand on their own 2 feet. i've been workin' on a plan fer such fer many years with diff'rent levels 'f the government. 'course there's those special interest groups who scream discrimination 'n invasion 'f those folks rights...its a long battle fightin' with capitol hill.
@MusesM (587)
15 Sep 15
i can only handle 2 kids i think:)
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@Marcyaz (35695)
• United States
15 Sep 15
The clothing and shoes everything has gone so high in price I don't know how some families make it these days. I know when my boys were teenagers they could eat and eat and it was never enough. lol
@MusesM (587)
16 Sep 15
@Marcyaz haha,how many kids do you have?
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@Marcyaz (35695)
• United States
18 Sep 15
@MusesM I have four sons.
• Shenzhen, China
15 Sep 15
Previously, each family have about 8-10 children, and even more. because the people think many hands provide great strength. But now many family have only one or two children. More children means that you will have more pressure. You needs to take care of the children and spend more money. Now the family usually have one or two childrens. I think two children will be better because only one child will be lonely.
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• United States
15 Sep 15
I grew up an only child. It was indeed a bit lonely and I had to rely on my parents to 'play' with me since I didn't have a sibling to play with. My mother turned out to be like a sibling/friend and mother all in one.
• Shenzhen, China
16 Sep 15
@Angelee_27 You have a great mother. Some of the parents always busy to do their's work and do not have many time to stay with the child.
• United States
16 Sep 15
@allisonwish Yep. My mother was a stay at home mother. I didn't see my dad too much though, as he was always working, sleeping, or tinkering in the garage.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
15 Sep 15
6 would be too many for me. I have 5. I know people who have 6 or 7. I actually do know one family who has like 13 and I think they're pregnant again. More than half the people in my community have 4-5 kids. It's kind of the norm out here. The people I work with are shocked when I tell them I have 5 kids, but when I see people at school or around the community they don't treat me as an oddity when I tell them I have 5 kids. Really it's not a whole lot different than having 3... you just need a bit more food, more bedrooms, and you do a bit more running around. Thankfully my kids have a lot of the same interests, so they go places together, so I have the same amount of running around as someone with 3 kids.
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@Marcyaz (35695)
• United States
15 Sep 15
I used to have people say 4 kids why did you have so many. lol People say the strangest things as i never thought 4 was to many.
• United States
15 Sep 15
@Marcyaz Living around here you learn to never say stuff like that. One of our band girls that is a senior this year is the oldest of 5. Her family came out at the end with her when they did senior recognition and a kid next to me said "That's a whole lot of people" I just glared at him. We actually think that people who only have 1 or 2 kids is an oddity. LOL
@kloud9 (86)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 15
i think i can handle three children XD
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@Marcyaz (35695)
• United States
15 Sep 15
I didntr feel two was enough. I always felt I had enough love for all of them.
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@kevin1877uk (36964)
14 Sep 15
What 20 children, must be mad/crazy or something. I have three and that's enough. Having 3 was hard especially when all 3 wanted to do different things at the same time.
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@Marcyaz (35695)
• United States
15 Sep 15
Some of mine wanted to do different things at the same time also. I would take one of them one place and the other one someplace else and on and on.
@cgalavia (1406)
• Philippines
15 Sep 15
I have a neighbor who has 7 siblings and I can see their sufferings everyday in providing the needs and wants of their children.therefore,nowadays,It's really hard to raise many children because also of high prices of commodities we need in everyday living. So,two is enough for me.I have two kids already and I'm happy and contented to have them.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Sep 15
I guess if they can handle that many, more power to them. Personally my three is about as much as I can handle. And then there's elephant in the room. If people continue to have more than 1 or 2 children, how long before the planet runs out of resources.
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@sishy7 (27653)
• Australia
14 Sep 15
I've never really thought about how many kids would be too many for me. I guess I just happily accept whatever number I'm trusted to have. My husband has 7 siblings, I have only 1, and together we have 4 kids.
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@gregario888 (1282)
• Aurangabad, India
15 Sep 15
One-is fun, Two-it means you, three-you won't be free; four-trouble in store. Would love my Mylot buddies to pick up the gauntlet from five up to ten, if they can!
• United States
15 Sep 15
Five - Full bee hive? LOL
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• Aurangabad, India
15 Sep 15
@Angelee_27 Six-you are in a fix!, c'mon...
• United States
17 Sep 15
my dad always said the right number is as many as you can control in a store..
@gudheart (12752)
15 Sep 15
I think three is a good number, any more and it would be hard to cope lol
@Marcyaz (35695)
• United States
15 Sep 15
I had four boys and I would have liked to have had a couple more. My boys are grown now but when they were young one more made no difference as it took just as much time to clean and cook. We handle whatever we are given. I had one older brother and one younger brother and would have loved to have had more siblings.
• Kollam, India
15 Sep 15
Two children are enough. Then only we can take care of them efficiently. More children means we have to distribute our care and each will get little. But we cannot distribute love for our children. After a hundred divisions also love will be same